A soon-to-be long-distance lover seeking guidance

Nerdy Nymphette Nerdy Nymphette
My longtime partner (romantic and sexual) has taken a job that will move him out of the country for a year. We are monogamous, great friends, and very much in love. I am not so worried about the strictly emotion aspects of this separation. It's very temporary, we have a game plan for communication pretty much daily, and I think it will give both of us a chance to develop both independently and interdependently.

My question is this: What to do about sex? During past periods of separation we have played around with skype sex, masturbating in front of each other. It's been hot and thrilling, but I'd like to spice it up a bit, to continue to have new, fun sexual adventures despite the distance. Anyone have ideas for me?
05/03/2010
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~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
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Originally posted by Nerdy Nymphette
My longtime partner (romantic and sexual) has taken a job that will move him out of the country for a year. We are monogamous, great friends, and very much in love. I am not so worried about the strictly emotion aspects of this separation. It's ... More
There are some toys here that can be controlled by your partner over the internet. They are pricey but if you want more than just regular skype video and picture sex of sexting, then they might be worth it.

They have male and female ones even.

I was never left short by phone sex or other long distance sexual activity with my last partner or my current one for that matter when I did my internship. But, I got to see them once a month or more. I think the longest might have been a month and half? So I don't know if there are any plans for visiting. But I will tell you that the distance makes the sex SO MUCH hotter! The build up is key. And if you trust each other not to stray then there is no harm no foul.

You could also give each other "missions" I've done this with long distance bf's. They would tell me something I had to do and likewise. For example one bf wanted a pinup photoshoot with red lipstick, heels. fishnet etc. i would send him pictures all day of little pics (the lips, the heels, some fishnet). He didn't get to see the finished product until later and hearing him moan into the phone made the hair on the back of my neck stand up, as soon as he finished I couldn't help myself.

So...there are plenty of things you can do dear!
05/03/2010
Nerdy Nymphette Nerdy Nymphette
I like the idea of "missions." How very James Bond. I have also considered buying the Cone-a-Willy kit to do now, so that I can use it on myself both on and off camera, and have some sort of vestige of him with/inside me. And in the pre-trip meantime, the idea of double penetration by the same penis is unbelievably hot.
05/03/2010
Adriana Ravenlust Adriana Ravenlust
Cybersex.

It's all you need. At least, all I need.
05/03/2010
~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
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Originally posted by Nerdy Nymphette
I like the idea of "missions." How very James Bond. I have also considered buying the Cone-a-Willy kit to do now, so that I can use it on myself both on and off camera, and have some sort of vestige of him with/inside me. And in the ... More
I have that! Do it! They also have a clone a pussy version but it can not be penetrated. He could look at it and stroke it though lol.
05/04/2010
Hannah Savage Hannah Savage
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Originally posted by ~LaUr3n~
I have that! Do it! They also have a clone a pussy version but it can not be penetrated. He could look at it and stroke it though lol.
I'm sure Yeti could come up with some fabulous modification that would make it somehow attach to a penetrable device.
05/05/2010
Victoria Victoria
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Originally posted by ~LaUr3n~
There are some toys here that can be controlled by your partner over the internet. They are pricey but if you want more than just regular skype video and picture sex of sexting, then they might be worth it.

They have male and female ones ... More
The missions and puzzle piece pics throughout the day are EXCELLENT suggestions!
05/06/2010
Luscious Lily Luscious Lily
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Originally posted by Hannah Savage
I'm sure Yeti could come up with some fabulous modification that would make it somehow attach to a penetrable device.
Actually, I've given it some thought. Any way you look at it, though, you're going to go through a few kits of trial and error, and need quite a bit of crafty know-how. It would NOT be a project for the faint of heart! You'd have to find a way to mold an opening in the clone-a-pussy (just cutting it will probably not yield a comfy toy), then attach the clone-a-pussy to the penetrable device in a secure, non-toxic way.

If you want to let your partner to be able to control your toy without the huge cost of internet-enabled toys, look into the Club Vibe by OhMiBod. It can be set to respond to ambient noise with vibration... you can plug it into the headphone jack, or set it beside your speakers, and every word he says over skype will make the bullet vibrate.
05/06/2010
Laccaria Laccaria
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Originally posted by Luscious Lily
Actually, I've given it some thought. Any way you look at it, though, you're going to go through a few kits of trial and error, and need quite a bit of crafty know-how. It would NOT be a project for the faint of heart! You'd have to find ... More
Oooh, the Club Vibe is a great idea! I must look into that.

I'm not sure that I have any great suggestions for long distance sex, but I can say that my partner and I have learned a lot about one another through phone sex. If there is anything that gets boring faster than uncreative sex, it's talking about uncreative sex!

We've also found it fun to share phone sex fantasies that we couldn't or wouldn't actually ever enact. Some things are just more fun (or only possible) in fantasy.
05/07/2010
~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
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Originally posted by Victoria
The missions and puzzle piece pics throughout the day are EXCELLENT suggestions!
They really did work for me in multiple relationships
05/07/2010
Miss Naughty Kitty Miss Naughty Kitty
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here's some internet enabled sex toys, this along with web cam will be great replacement for actual sex with your partner.
05/08/2010
Fleshvine Fleshvine
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Originally posted by Nerdy Nymphette
My longtime partner (romantic and sexual) has taken a job that will move him out of the country for a year. We are monogamous, great friends, and very much in love. I am not so worried about the strictly emotion aspects of this separation. It's ... More
Honestly? I know this sounds geeky beyond belief, but my LD partner and I have been enjoying Second Life SO much.

The same rules need to apply i.e. we only play together, or we only play with others together. But it's SO amazing to be able to chat and have voice sex at the same time that we watch our avatars get it on.

Also, it's a great place to explore fantasy. You can spend $3-$5 to have something in Second Life that you might save for for months to have in real life. My boyfriend bought me a violet wand there. While it's not the same as the physical reality of the sensations, it adds a lot of dimension to the fantasy.

Hopefully your situation won't last more than a year, but if it does, this is just one way to spice up the loneliness that can accompany separation in a monogamous relationship!
05/08/2010
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