Am I just really strange in bed..?

LoooveMonkey LoooveMonkey
So I haven't been around much. But these forums provide an invaluable resource as far as sex questions go. I don't know where else I'd ask things. Anyway!!

My legs will shiver when I start feeling really good during sex. Or when I get kissed just right.

And when I'm up on top, as I get closer to an orgasm, my legs and hips will just shake uncontrollably and when I actually do come, I see swirling rainbows like oil on top of water and my whole body will shake even harder. Almost violently. I do retain a small amount of control, so I'm not going to hurt myself or my partner, but I can forget about standing up for awhile. And there's no way I could stop the shaking even if I wanted to. Immediately after this type of orgasm, I breathe in tiny, involuntary gasps like after you've been sobbing until I catch my breath somewhat and I still shiver for like 5 minutes.

I love having this kind of orgasm, but I don't know if it's really normal. The first time it happened, my boyfriend was a little scared and thought he might have to call 911. Does this happen to anyone else, and is there cause for concern?
Jan 12, 6:42 am
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Rossie Rossie
Those are all normal reactions during and after an intense orgasm -- just relax for a while and everything will be back to normal.
Jan 12, 6:52 am
RonLee RonLee
If you like it, then enjoy it, "normal" is highly overrated.
Jan 12, 11:09 am
Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by LoooveMonkey
So I haven't been around much. But these forums provide an invaluable resource as far as sex questions go. I don't know where else I'd ask things. Anyway!!

My legs will shiver when I start feeling really good during sex. Or when I ... More
I am going to be different in my response from those others thus far (as usual). It may indeed be "your" normal..whatever normal is. However, what you describe could indeed represent some issues that are worth following up on. The shaking during intense stimulation could represent deficiencies of potassium or phosphorus, and the swirling rainbows could result from restricted blood flow to the brain or optic nerves. The breathing you describe and shivers could also represent some physical issues worth looking into. In short, have you had a good physical lately to make sure your general health is fine, your blood pressure is good (low BP during that period of excitement would be my guess...nothing but a guess, mind you), and that your general blood chemistry is fine? If you are overweight, there could be some compromised blood flow issues as well. These are pretty intense symptoms you describe during sexual activity (a period of high physiological "stress") and they do sound a bit more "over the top" then what most people experience, thus my advice to have a doctor check you out and make sure you have a total "A-Okay" bill of health. Sure cannot hurt. Be safe, be well.
Jan 12, 11:50 am
LoooveMonkey LoooveMonkey
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Originally posted by Bignuf
I am going to be different in my response from those others thus far (as usual). It may indeed be "your" normal..whatever normal is. However, what you describe could indeed represent some issues that are worth following up on. The shaking ... More
Hmm. Well I've gotten my physical for the year and they didn't tell me anything was wrong with me. o.o They never say anything and I have to wonder if it's a bad thing.

I'm about 15lbs overweight. Also I haven't been exercising as much as I should due to winter and all, but I have been getting back on track with it, running on the treadmill and doing my pilates for the past week.

Also I haven't been eating as many vegetables as I usually eat. I've been living with my boyfriend's parents and they never eat them, so it takes some effort to get good nutrition here.

...I hope I'm not dying. o_o;
Jan 12, 6:23 pm
edeneve edeneve
normal means something different to each person. if you enjoy your experiences, than enjoy them w/o thinking whether others have the same experiences.
Jan 12, 6:41 pm
Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
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Originally posted by LoooveMonkey
Hmm. Well I've gotten my physical for the year and they didn't tell me anything was wrong with me. o.o They never say anything and I have to wonder if it's a bad thing.

I'm about 15lbs overweight. Also I haven't been ... More
I definitely have had the leg shakes and shivers for over 25 years, but not the visual symptoms. Maybe that helps easy your mind some? I don't usually have either extremely strongly, though it's very noticeable and I have it more strongly when receiving oral and intense stimulation to my clit. I don't look like I am having a seizure, but sometimes I am shaking pretty strongly.

If you've been having physicals with no other problems in your life (such as muscle cramps in your legs, for one, but anything else out of the ordinary and troublesome), then you are probably fine. Maybe you should request a blood test to test your metabolism and see if you have any deficiencies that could be either making these symptoms stronger, or causing some of them (such as the rainbow vision). Anything wrong with you will likely show up in other areas. But go ahead and ask a Dr you are comfortable with about what happens. They will know what to ask you and how to determine if you are alright physically. Won't you be glad to have that peace of mind, once and for all? But honestly, I know some other women who react similarly, just not the rainbow vision.
Jan 12, 8:12 pm
wrecklesswords wrecklesswords
I experience things similar to this from time to time and have always assumed that it was just what happened to me sometimes.

Now, that said, sometimes when I am on top my hips or calves with start to cramp up and this I know is directly related to the lack of potassium in my diet. This I know is a problem.

Also... isn't it kind of... a given that blood flow is kind of restricted to your brain during sex and orgasm? I mean, that's what I always thought. Because most of the time during sex and orgasm, I am basically kind of... I dunno, useless for anything else hahaha.

Overall, I think you're fine, but it definitely wouldn't hurt to go check your blood pressure at the machine at the drug store or whatever, or maybe just phone your doctor and tell them about your symptoms and see if they are concerned about it.
Jan 12, 9:22 pm
Sincerely Yours, N Sincerely Yours, N
From what I hear, this is perfectly normal. Personally (and I know that I'm strange because of this), I don't like the feeling of losing control over my body, so I typically stop just before orgasming.
Jan 12, 10:14 pm
Ansley Ansley
My first question is, how long have you been sexually active?"

I think this greatly impacts our physical responses to sexual stimulation; when I first started having sex I had almost the identical reactions and now that I've done it a couple hundred-thousand times, the orgasms are still earth shattering but my body has learned how to process all of that stimulation differently.
Jan 13, 12:03 pm
LoooveMonkey LoooveMonkey
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Originally posted by Ansley
My first question is, how long have you been sexually active?"

I think this greatly impacts our physical responses to sexual stimulation; when I first started having sex I had almost the identical reactions and now that I've done it a ... More
For about 4 years. I didn't used to be so strange though. This is a recent development.

I closed the distance of our long distance relationship 3 months ago and we've been having sex almost every night for those 3 months instead of a couple times a day for 2 weeks and then nothing for 3 months. I've finally gotten the hang of clearing my mind and making myself feel amazing while I'm on top. I don't know if my muscles are getting stronger and that's why it's so good now or if I'm just better at it. My orgasms have just been ridiculous lately, though.
Jan 14, 3:48 am
Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by LoooveMonkey
For about 4 years. I didn't used to be so strange though. This is a recent development.

I closed the distance of our long distance relationship 3 months ago and we've been having sex almost every night for those 3 months instead of a ... More
Ha, that's actually kind of awesome. I would think that as long as it doesn't last for a long period of time that you would be okay. Still never hurts to ask a doctor though.
Jan 14, 3:40 pm
SaucyxGirl SaucyxGirl
Strange? Nope. While the visual is not something that I or any my female friends have ever experienced I do have a male friend who claims to see bursts of color when he orgasms. Physical reactions to pleasure can vary from person to person. Some might moan or yell, while others because completely silent (my best friend does that) If it really does bother you ask your Dr, and if you get the everything is fine then enjoy these earth shattering orgasms
Jan 20, 12:18 am
Lvstoplay Lvstoplay
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Originally posted by LoooveMonkey
So I haven't been around much. But these forums provide an invaluable resource as far as sex questions go. I don't know where else I'd ask things. Anyway!!

My legs will shiver when I start feeling really good during sex. Or when I ... More
My legs have got shaky or on occasion I feel like I might black out, but that's about the extent of it. I generally am too self-controlled to let myself get that far, even though I think it sounds amazing. I've been trying to get my husband to take some of that control away from me in the bedroom for a while now, and he's just now warming up to the idea.
Feb 24, 11:56 pm
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