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Perhaps, but I would argue that at least they appear to have an open dialogue about sex and sexuality, something most people can't. I would further argue that albeit creepy, its healthier than silence.
OK, an open dialogue may
be healthy. But, this same writer was told nothing about sex as a child and had to learn "everything she knows about sex from porn." To me, that is not an "open dialogue" or a healthy relationship with her mother. Her mother is just being nosy and interfering. If her mother wanted an "Open Dialogue" she should have started it when the writer was a child. She didn't. (Read the rest of the "Virgin Diaries" for more info on this. I have.)
But, proper boundaries are important. But, her mother ostensibly being "proud" (meaning maybe even sharing this most intimate of data with others, most likely as a way to brag) is not healthy in the least.
And what is the writer of these Virgin Diaries going to do when she does have sex, finally? Tell Mom? Then what? How much will Mom need to know then? When and where will this "openness" (which only seems to go one way) end?
My oldest children are old enough to engage in sexual activity. As for their details, however, I don't know any of the details. We are open about facts and physical function and it stops where "our sex lives are our own business." They don't know the details of my sex life and I don't know the details of theirs. I think firm, sound boundaries
make for a good relationship with one's mother.
One can be "open" about sex, without discussing the intimacies and details of one's own bedroom activity. That's what works for us, anyway.