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I know many people who aren't happy with their sex life, but they love their partners. They won't leave because of their love.
I love both my partners and have learned over the 25 years Sigel and I have been together that a relationship goes through numerous phases where you may be deleriously happy and then abjectly miserable. It's normal and to be expected. Being honest with yourself and your partner(s) will help you truly enjoy the good times and weather the hard ones.
I would never stay with someone who couldn't satisfy me sexually because, for me, it would mean that I was with a partner who didn't care enough to try or wasn't being a partner. I know I am always willing to entertain whatever my partners might want to try...I demand the same in return. I might not actually say yes but I am open to listening and kicking around the idea working out a compromise. The thing is it takes partners that are willing to work WITH you. If you don't have then then you truly don't have much regardless of the "other' things you might be holding on to.
Regardless of what platitudes people mouth, sex IS important. If your partner isn't willing to give a little to get a lot on this issue then the rest of the relationship is suspect.