Are you or your lover a planner or is it just spontaneous?

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Are you or your lover a planner or is it just spontaneous?

Bignuf Bignuf
We both have had lovers who plan for sex later in the day, well in advance. 1. Right lube. 2. Right toys 3. Right music 4. Maybe enema or douche if they plan on anal 5. Right day's activities for relaxation....etc. ALL LAID OUT like a dinner party preparation. Others are just, "hey baby, let's go to bed" or where ever they are, the cloths come off!!! ...SO, do YOU or your lover lay out the supplies and plan with military precision or is it "whatever happens, all good...there is the right toy and lube SOMEWHERE in that big drawer"?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
At least one of us plans and prepares
A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) , padmeamidala , clp , CAKES , angel142stx , Gunsmoke , jeangel246
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No one prepares, what happens, happens
cobiffle , OhMy! , mandiegk , ac0313 , sarki , daniel and frances , Karen Affeldt , Lady Venus , thaterry , Miss Nessa , Cedarlooman , jay28 , ss143 , CuteDee , shentel , MN58 , jeangel246
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OTHER...., please explain.....
That Man from Mars , married with children , MaryExy , newfoundlust , darthkitt3n , slynch , iveversxe , Coralbell , Ansley , PiratePrincess , Airen Wolf , link82 , The Curious Couple , UnknownGirl , ID42 , indiglo , Rossie , potstickers
18
Total votes: 42 (41 voters)
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06/12/2011
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That Man from Mars That Man from Mars
It's both really. Sometimes I plan things while others It's very random. I don't think we do one more than the other, though.
06/12/2011
married with children married with children
it depends. Some times we plan things out, but most of the time we just go with the flow.
06/12/2011
cobiffle cobiffle
It usually just ends up happening most the time
06/12/2011
MaryExy MaryExy
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Originally posted by married with children
it depends. Some times we plan things out, but most of the time we just go with the flow.
Ditto. Usually the most we plan out is the lingerie/outfit I'm wearing.
06/12/2011
newfoundlust newfoundlust
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
We both have had lovers who plan for sex later in the day, well in advance. 1. Right lube. 2. Right toys 3. Right music 4. Maybe enema or douche if they plan on anal 5. Right day's activities for relaxation....etc. ALL LAID OUT like a dinner ...
Both happen in our marriage. Sometimes one of us creates an intricate plan for the evening, and sometimes it just happens. For instance, last week I created an elaborate evening for us including laying out toys, lube, etc. However, tonight I happened back to our evening knowing my wife was about to shower and within a few seconds we were having a quickie. Both were great, we enjoyed them both.
06/12/2011
darthkitt3n darthkitt3n
Sometimes we will plan out a few things. It's nice to have everything you want to use laid out and ready for use rather than having to dig for it when you want it. Usually we don't bother planning anything.
06/13/2011
ac0313 ac0313
Plans that we make for sex rarely pan out. We seem to just be spontanous and most often we have sex in the afternoon and it kinda takes up the whole day...well at least 2 or so hours of it!
06/13/2011
Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
I really like when he occasionally goes all out and plans the entire day from start to finish. He is active duty and I used to be. Gotta love planning with military precision and a little room for flexibility!
06/13/2011
daniel and frances daniel and frances
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
We both have had lovers who plan for sex later in the day, well in advance. 1. Right lube. 2. Right toys 3. Right music 4. Maybe enema or douche if they plan on anal 5. Right day's activities for relaxation....etc. ALL LAID OUT like a dinner ...
i think at times it can be necessary to prepare, but we're mostly spontaneous.
06/13/2011
Coralbell Coralbell
Usually not, but occasionally I'll plan out a special night for us.
06/13/2011
Ansley Ansley
Kinda sorta...both. We have certain days that are designated drinking days where we play games and get on cam and stuff. And there are sometimes those days don't work out but we don't get all pouty about it or anything.
06/13/2011
padmeamidala padmeamidala
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
We both have had lovers who plan for sex later in the day, well in advance. 1. Right lube. 2. Right toys 3. Right music 4. Maybe enema or douche if they plan on anal 5. Right day's activities for relaxation....etc. ALL LAID OUT like a dinner ...
I am a lot more spontaneous than my Master but sometimes he surprises me.
06/13/2011
clp clp
Both! I love spontaneity but it is very sweet (and thus, sexy) for someone to go to any lengths to plan an event. Be that costumes, props, location, even just words... it all means something.
06/13/2011
Miss Nessa Miss Nessa
Spontaneous!
06/14/2011
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
We both have had lovers who plan for sex later in the day, well in advance. 1. Right lube. 2. Right toys 3. Right music 4. Maybe enema or douche if they plan on anal 5. Right day's activities for relaxation....etc. ALL LAID OUT like a dinner ...
Depends on what we are doing, who is there and where we are.
06/14/2011
CAKES CAKES
I tend to be a planner, and he is usually more spontaneous.
06/14/2011
The Curious Couple The Curious Couple
Sometime she plan. Sometimes I plan. Sometimes we both plan. Sometimes it just happens. I always love it!
06/14/2011
Cedarlooman Cedarlooman
I have found that anytime I have participated in play time that has been planned out, it usually ends badly or at best mediocre. That being said it is not always completely spontaneous. With two young children in the house, sometimes the place and time are predetermined, even if what is actually going to happen isn't.

I find that I tend to be a much better lover if I am not trying to follow a script or someone else lead except for the woman I am with. Keying into what is working for her and going with the flow tends to work out better for the both of us.
06/14/2011
UnknownGirl UnknownGirl
Sometimes we're spontaneous and sometimes we plan.
06/14/2011
ss143 ss143
Most of the time what happens happens we have all our stuff next to the bed so we are prepared for anything. The only thing we might plan is hey honey you've had a hard day a work so go jump in the shower lol
06/15/2011
ID42 ID42
For us, most of the time, whatever happens happens. But every now and then, I get a bit devious after thinking or fantasizing about my man and plan what I want to play with with him later on. Half of the time though, I just let my planned fun fall by the side when I get totally wrapped up in being with him. All other ideas and toys and plans just dissipate.

He has never really been a planner and I think that is one thing I might like to change. It would be nice to come home from somewhere or climb in the bed and him tell me he's had an idea and then break out some stuff for play.
06/15/2011
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I do the planning - but every once in a while she'll surprise me.
06/15/2011
indiglo indiglo
We do both. Sometimes, it will be as simple as me making a mental plan during the day to make sure it happens, but sometimes it's 100% spontaneous.
06/15/2011
CuteDee CuteDee
Never planned. If its his day off, I know we are gonna have sex... = D However, its usually up to him to tell me he wants to get naughty.

I do want to plan some naughty adventures soon though...
06/15/2011
shentel shentel
Whatever happens happens
06/15/2011
MN58 MN58
We were never really great planners
06/15/2011
Rossie Rossie
We've had some spontaneous sex before we've had kids -- we just go with the flow nowadays.
09/03/2011
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Unique posters: 28