We both have had lovers who plan for sex later in the day, well in advance. 1. Right lube. 2. Right toys 3. Right music 4. Maybe enema or douche if they plan on anal 5. Right day's activities for relaxation....etc. ALL LAID OUT like a dinner party preparation. Others are just, "hey baby, let's go to bed" or where ever they are, the cloths come off!!! ...SO, do YOU or your lover lay out the supplies and plan with military precision or is it "whatever happens, all good...there is the right toy and lube SOMEWHERE in that big drawer"?