Barsexual?

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Barsexual?

~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
I heard this term for the first time today. A barsexual is a woman (or man I suppose) who goes to a bar and kisses other women to gain attention from men but has not real sexual attraction to them. Do any of you do this? Know any one who does? What do you think?
01/21/2011
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ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
Never heard of it. If I seen a girl I wanted to pick up do this, I think I would start looking for another girl. Unless they both wanted to come home with me. I fail to see how this would work.
01/21/2011
Morganna Morganna
I haven't heard of it but it sounds like something attention whores would do. If I'm gonna kiss a gal, I'm gonna be attracted to her.
01/21/2011
kawigrl kawigrl
nope but a lot of women i went to college with did...another good question would be Would you kiss a barsexual? lots of "straight" girls kiss other women at the club/bar
01/21/2011
Jul!a Jul!a
I haven't heard of the term before, but I see women do it at the bar I go to, which makes no sense, because 98% of the people in that bar aren't interested in women at all...
01/21/2011
Darling Jen Darling Jen
Yup, I've heard of it and absolutely loathe those women. They make everyone who identifies as bi, pan, or heteroflexible look like sluts for men to watch or have orgies with.
01/21/2011
socceras socceras
lol never heard of it till now
01/22/2011
Destri Destri
Never heard of it, and it sounds like someone I do NOT want to know!
01/22/2011
Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
Quote:
Originally posted by ~LaUr3n~
I heard this term for the first time today. A barsexual is a woman (or man I suppose) who goes to a bar and kisses other women to gain attention from men but has not real sexual attraction to them. Do any of you do this? Know any one who does? What ...
Yep I have, I actually heard the term in a response to a thread I posted about being bisexual to boost popularity. I, like Darling Jen totally abhor the behavior. Those women are not only giving men those expectations, but also the expectation that women like to be treated that way.

I had a gf who did this, and I ended up hating her. I also knew a girl who wanted to know if she SHOULD (hello red flag!) be bi, because guys and girls liked it when she made out with girls and she liked to make them happy. I asked her if she would consider it sober and she responded with a firm no. I told her she had her answer.
01/22/2011
UrNaughtyaAngel UrNaughtyaAngel
I know I have heard about this years ago but can't remember if it had a term or not. Maybe so many are doing it that they decided to give it a term
03/16/2011
UnknownGirl UnknownGirl
I saw this in college a lot. Never really thought anything of it. People do silly things when they're drunk (and young). If kissing other girls at the bar was the worst thing a person did while being drunk, I think they're probably a step ahead of the game. I can think of far worse and more destructive behaviors that occur while intoxicated. Many of which I've seen or experienced first hand. I'm sure that average college female (especially while drunk) couldn't possibly care less that making out with another woman might "make everyone who identifies as bi, pan, or heteroflexible look like sluts for men to watch or have orgies with."

Also, I think that's a bit of an exaggeration. Not to mention that that statement assumes men are complete idiots and can't figure out that these girls are just doing it to seek attention.
03/17/2011
Epicurean Epicurean
Seen it, hate it. I had a low moment when I first started coming out to my friends about my bisexuality. This guy, who I didn't know, asked if I would hook up with his girlfriend, and to my disgust she said she was fine with it and started giving me the eyes. I felt like a piece of meat.

I'm totally fine with girls and guys having a fluid sexuality and making out with people of the same sex because it feels good *to them*, even if they don't have a deeper emotional attraction. But that's different from doing it purely as a strategy to turn other people on.
03/17/2011
ViVix ViVix
Quote:
Originally posted by ~LaUr3n~
I heard this term for the first time today. A barsexual is a woman (or man I suppose) who goes to a bar and kisses other women to gain attention from men but has not real sexual attraction to them. Do any of you do this? Know any one who does? What ...
I've never heard of it, but I find it misleading. Also, if you have to get attention this way, I find it a little sad/pathetic.
08/10/2012
pokefan15 pokefan15
I have never heard of this
05/27/2013
SydneyScreams SydneyScreams
This annoys the hell out of me. I get that it's flirtatious fun for the straight girl, but for someone who isn't straight, it is a "cock tease" for lack of a better term.
05/27/2013
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