Can friends with benefits work?

snowminx snowminx
In your own opinion do you think that fuck buddies can last a year or more without someone getting hurt? Also do you personally feel you could emotionally handle a sexual only relationship like that?
03/19/2013
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spunkmonkey spunkmonkey
I don't think they can work, but then I don't believe in them.
03/19/2013
SaucyxGirl SaucyxGirl
The key here to not getting hurt is total honesty, limits and a reality check. A lot of people are able to engage in sexual relationships without the need for an emotional one to be there. They are of a mindset that sex and love do not need to go hand and hand.

I think that is both parties are open and honest from get go and clearly state that this is purely a friends with benefits relationship,are not prone to jealousy and they can keep an emotional distance and let the sex be just about physical need then yes it can work.
03/20/2013
bog bog
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Originally posted by snowminx
In your own opinion do you think that fuck buddies can last a year or more without someone getting hurt? Also do you personally feel you could emotionally handle a sexual only relationship like that?
I have a few fwb relationships right now. I promise they work! It isn't "sexual only"... it's just that we might only see each other a few times a year. There is a good friendship, if we're in the same place at the same time. We just like fucking, too, with none of the "Who's my woozy-woozy" shit
03/20/2013
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I don't believe it works for most. There is always one in the relationship trying to make it more than the other. It's inherently exploitative for the one trying to get something more - that isn't likely to happen.
03/20/2013
spiced spiced
I've had two FWB and in both cases, somebody got hurt. The first one was an ex-gf who I broke up with after she cheated on me. She wanted to get back together and was using sex as a lure. I knew that, and enjoyed the sex while it lasted. She finally realized it wasn't going to happen and broke it off. She seemed pretty hurt.

A few years later, I almost got married to a woman, but she wanted kids right away (the old biological clock) and I didn't (I was several years younger than she). We started hooking up again after about a year; this time, I was hoping we could get back together and she was just in it for the sex/companionship. She broke it off when she met the guy who's now her husband and the father of her kid. I knew the end was inevitable, but it still hurt.

I'm not saying it will ALWAYS hurt somebody, just that that's what happened in my FWB experiences. If it's just about sex and friendship to both parties, I think it could be awesome.
03/20/2013
gothicwhispers gothicwhispers
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Originally posted by SaucyxGirl
The key here to not getting hurt is total honesty, limits and a reality check. A lot of people are able to engage in sexual relationships without the need for an emotional one to be there. They are of a mindset that sex and love do not need to go ... More
wss^ I think it completely depends on the people and whether they can avoid getting attached or not. I know that I can (and have). I have never had a male friend I didn't have sex with though.
03/21/2013
Martiniman Martiniman
Can it work? Absolutely. Will it work? I think it depends on the people.
03/22/2013
XYCopperheadSly XYCopperheadSly
Of course it can work, but not for everyone.
03/22/2013
KinkyKatieJames KinkyKatieJames
I thought I had a good FWB, but he ended up having feelings for me. Now that I am in a serious relationship, he won't talk to me.
03/22/2013
Noelle Noelle
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Originally posted by snowminx
In your own opinion do you think that fuck buddies can last a year or more without someone getting hurt? Also do you personally feel you could emotionally handle a sexual only relationship like that?
I don't think (in the long run) that they work, but there is always an exception to every rule.
03/22/2013
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