Who's in charge of your sex life, you or your partner?

noway noway
Have your lovers been generally take-charge, deciding what positions you do, what you do, how long and how often you have sex? Or have you generally been the one to decide such things?
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I tend to make most of the decisions in the bedroom.
10
My partner makes most of the decisions in the bedroom.
6
We both make decisions equally.
36
Other?
4
Total votes: 56 (53 voters)
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03/19/2013
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ginnyluvspotter ginnyluvspotter
We kind of take turns
03/19/2013
HannahPanda HannahPanda
Usually equal or submissive!
03/19/2013
sexxxkitten sexxxkitten
We take turns.
03/19/2013
surreptitious surreptitious
Quote:
Originally posted by noway
Have your lovers been generally take-charge, deciding what positions you do, what you do, how long and how often you have sex? Or have you generally been the one to decide such things?
I really wish that I didn't have to make the decisions, because I much prefer it when I know that the position that we're in is the one that my partner wants the most at the time. Unfortunately, I think that he feels the same way about me!
03/19/2013
married with children married with children
mostly me.
03/19/2013
Sera26 Sera26
I would say that it's a joint decision. We both initiate and try to do what will work best for both of us.
03/20/2013
bratcat bratcat
the decision to have sex falls on both of us and is always agreed upon, however i tend to be very verbal about what i want in the bedroom so we go through switching positions a lot, but thats not to say my partner doesnt tell me what he wants when he wants it. We're very open about what we'd like to do sexually and usually find a middle ground to agree upon when it comes to foreplay and sex.
03/20/2013
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
It's complicated. She controls when we're going to have sex. But once in the act - 85% of the time I've picked the toys (I bought them all) and have a plan for what to do with them. However depending on whats working or not, she may ask me to switch to some other toy or position.

For the 15% of the time when she takes charge - the above scenario is reversed. I will give her free reign - unless its not working for me.
03/20/2013
Martiniman Martiniman
I'd say its pretty even between us although I'm the more creative one.
03/20/2013
Aishiteru Aishiteru
It's pretty equal.
03/20/2013
kendra30752 kendra30752
Quote:
Originally posted by noway
Have your lovers been generally take-charge, deciding what positions you do, what you do, how long and how often you have sex? Or have you generally been the one to decide such things?
"In charge?" Yikes. I don't think I'd say either of us are "in charge" of our sex. We both have our own suggestions and equally make decisions on what we do sexually, but the only thing we're in charge of is our own selves. We decide equally on probably every single thing we do sexually. We like to be sure both parties are having fun at all times.
03/20/2013
butts butts
we both decide pretty equally, I'm a bit more dominant but I don't want to do things he doesn't want to do.
03/20/2013
woodsdragon woodsdragon
usually my husband
03/20/2013
Stagger13 Stagger13
Quote:
Originally posted by noway
Have your lovers been generally take-charge, deciding what positions you do, what you do, how long and how often you have sex? Or have you generally been the one to decide such things?
We work together a lot.
03/20/2013
shnsmth6 shnsmth6
Quote:
Originally posted by noway
Have your lovers been generally take-charge, deciding what positions you do, what you do, how long and how often you have sex? Or have you generally been the one to decide such things?
we both decide
03/20/2013
JodiPrince JodiPrince
normally me he will let me do whatever whenever so unless he really wants something I am in control
03/20/2013
BrittaniMaree BrittaniMaree
We both make decisions equally.
03/20/2013
js250 js250
We both contribute--sometimes one more than the other, though it evens out over time.
03/20/2013
Hazeleyes2012 Hazeleyes2012
We go with the flow....
03/20/2013
Lioncub Lioncub
Quote:
Originally posted by Hazeleyes2012
We go with the flow....
Us to, what happens happens don't sit down and make a plan first.
03/20/2013
SecretKinksters SecretKinksters
Both of us
03/21/2013
Sbmsvschoolgirl Sbmsvschoolgirl
I like being told what to do, so I tend to let my partners take control. When I get asked "what do you want me to do to you" I clam up. I like it when my partners call the shots.
03/21/2013
Missmarc Missmarc
Quote:
Originally posted by noway
Have your lovers been generally take-charge, deciding what positions you do, what you do, how long and how often you have sex? Or have you generally been the one to decide such things?
We both make decisions equally.
03/22/2013
Feisty Feisty
We make the decisions together.
03/22/2013
Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
Quote:
Originally posted by noway
Have your lovers been generally take-charge, deciding what positions you do, what you do, how long and how often you have sex? Or have you generally been the one to decide such things?
We both make decisions equally.
03/22/2013
edeneve edeneve
we both do, but he's the initiator for most of our sexual experiences & I love it!!!
03/23/2013
Hummingbird Hummingbird
We both make decisions equally except when I go it solo.
03/23/2013
Gleb Gleb
We both make decisions equally.
03/28/2013
bayosgirl bayosgirl
I think it ends up being both equally.
03/28/2013
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