Why do people cheat?

DreezzyyBabyy DreezzyyBabyy
Why do people cheat? Have you cheated? Why?

I've personally never cheated. I don't understand it.
05/01/2013
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Ansley Ansley
There are a variety of excuses but the only reason someone cheats is because they don't have the balls to be honest with their partner and demand sexual satisfaction and/or sexual compromise in the bedroom. It all leads back to poor communication.

Well, actually that isn't the only reason. There are guys out there who truly think it's "fun to get away with", those are the kind that are only sorry when they get caught and they aren't sorry they were cheating, they're sorry they were busted.
05/01/2013
married with children married with children
I am not sure what excuses some one would use for cheating. I have never done it, nor do I every plan on doing it.
05/01/2013
sunflower sunflower
I was about to go on a passionate rant about the educational system and then I realized you meant in relationships

I don't really understand it either because it's against my morals personally. I have extremely loose morals in general and I'm a terrible person mostly but I don't believe in fucking with peoples feelings. I'd like to read the response from people who cheated to see their perspective.
05/02/2013
js250 js250
I cheated once in my life. My marriage was a shambles and I was so tired of being yelled at and completely ignored by my alcoholic ex-husband. He would go to work, drink until 10-11pm and then come home, start a fight and pass out. So I took my best friend up on his offer and slept with him.I got a divorce a month later and married my best friend. We have been together over 16 years.

I was lonely, hurt, unloved, neglected, depressed, and done with the marriage. Yes, I should have divorced first--but at the time I needed just to be cared for by someone.
05/02/2013
Noelle Noelle
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Originally posted by DreezzyyBabyy
Why do people cheat? Have you cheated? Why?

I've personally never cheated. I don't understand it.
I know it sounds childish and stupid, but I did it as pay back for my cheating ex husband. I felt better afterward since it was with 2 of his "good friends", but now I see how stupid it was. Of course it was 13 yrs ago, but still, I wish I had used better judgment.
05/02/2013
wicked48 wicked48
I've never cheated. I don't understand it either.
05/02/2013
SourAppleMartini SourAppleMartini
I think that people cheat for different reasons. Men cheat because it makes them feel more masculine, others cheat because they are not sexually or emotionally satisfied with their partners. Payback is also a common reason for cheating.
05/03/2013
shnsmth6 shnsmth6
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Originally posted by DreezzyyBabyy
Why do people cheat? Have you cheated? Why?

I've personally never cheated. I don't understand it.
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05/03/2013
Trysexual Trysexual
People cheat for all kinds of reasons. Lack of attentions, lack of sex, because they can get away with it, the thrill, revenge etc.
05/03/2013
Milledge79 Milledge79
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Originally posted by Ansley
There are a variety of excuses but the only reason someone cheats is because they don't have the balls to be honest with their partner and demand sexual satisfaction and/or sexual compromise in the bedroom. It all leads back to poor ... More
I so hope the second part of this isn't true for me. I found out in March that hubby had slept with someone who was also married cause he thought I didn't love him anymore. I found out when I checked his phone he didn't get home till 5am after going to a friends house don't know if it is true but what ever. Took 2 weeks to get it out of him that he only slept with her once and only because he was messed up on pills he lost his judgement. Not for sure I buy that crap but I told him no contact with her yeah she called him. I lost my cool and told him that if this happened again I was done. So far so good.

One shot thats all I'm giving him. Most cheat cause they think they can get away with it and it gives them a thrill, some cheat cause they are bored with who they are with and others cheat cause they are not getting any.
05/04/2013
strangebrew strangebrew
In cases other than where physical or emotional abuse are prevalent, I believe people cheat because they lack the courage to have, or are incapable of having an open and honest dialogue with their partner.

Let's take a look at the top three reasons stated for cheating...

1. Emotional Needs Not Being Met ... Talk to your partner. Let them know how you feel, how your needs are not being met.

2. Sexual dissatisfaction ... Talk to your partner. Let them know how you feel, how your sexual needs aren't being met.

3. Hurt by partner ...Talk to your partner. Let them know how you feel, what they do to make you feel hurt.

If talking doesn't work...if your partner is unwilling to work on this with you, have the guts to end the relationship AND THEN move on.

Talking about this subject with my sister, she said "stuff happens...we're only human". We can't judge people for their mistakes. While I agree cheating doesn't mean you're a bad person, I believe that if you mess up and make a mistake...don't let it go on and admit to you and your partner that you used bad judgement. Then accept the consequences.

If your partner is willing to work things out, great. If not, so be it.
Jan 3, 4:52 pm
Husband and Wife Husband and Wife
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Originally posted by Ansley
There are a variety of excuses but the only reason someone cheats is because they don't have the balls to be honest with their partner and demand sexual satisfaction and/or sexual compromise in the bedroom. It all leads back to poor ... More
Couldn't agree with you more.. Good relationship starts with open and honest talking and what each other truly wants.
Jan 8, 8:53 am
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