Would you be comfortable if your partner was a nude model/ porn star/ stripper etc?

Contributor: Airlia Airlia
I wanted to know who was comfortable with their partners being in the sex industry, and being fully recognisable. What are your apprehensions? Why are you happy with it?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Yes, it's all great! They come home to me at the end of the day.
27  (17%)
Yes, but not a porn star.
25  (15%)
Only modelling.
28  (17%)
Only if it was anonymous - like HNT's.
7  (4%)
Not a chance.
76  (47%)
Total votes: 163
Poll is closed
07/30/2009
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Contributor: Backseat Boohoo Backseat Boohoo
The first one is my exact opinion on the matter.
07/30/2009
Contributor: Airlia Airlia
Agreed. My husband would probably say no to porn, but he's over the moon about the modelling.
07/30/2009
Contributor: Victoria Victoria
I voted for number 2. Truth be told, I don't want my adorable hubs getting it on with any other living being...but everyone can drool over his half-nekkid pics with blow up dolls
07/30/2009
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
First answer is also my exact feelings on the matter!
07/30/2009
Contributor: Airlia Airlia
Quote:
Originally posted by Victoria
I voted for number 2. Truth be told, I don't want my adorable hubs getting it on with any other living being...but everyone can drool over his half-nekkid pics with blow up dolls
Actually, Victoria I'm with you sometimes and other times I'm ok with the whole lot.
07/30/2009
Contributor: Adriana Ravenlust Adriana Ravenlust
We have joked, on more than one occasion, about doing porn together but I wouldn't want him to be a porn star without me. I wouldn't do it without him, either and it's not necessarily only because I'd be uncomfortable. I don't feel fondly about porn as careers (for us). Nude modeling would be something different. But are we talking anonymous type here? Cause being out about it is a whole other disuse.
07/30/2009
Contributor: Juliettia Juliettia
Nein. There just isn't any way that I could get over him having sex with someone else, for a career or not.
07/30/2009
Contributor: spicywife spicywife
Quote:
Originally posted by Juliettia
Nein. There just isn't any way that I could get over him having sex with someone else, for a career or not.
ditto
07/30/2009
Contributor: Nashville Nashville
My body has been plastered all over websites- Niteflirt, Bodacious Magazine, a website I used to model for about 3 years ago... I won't get into specifics.

At first he was like, "eh, I don't know...." but then he was like "whatever!" once the checks came in. As long as other men weren't physically touching me and I was making money, he was cool with whatever I did. He knows I have a seperate online life that I lead but I made the promise that offline, I'm completely faithful to him.. and I am! I only have eyes for him, okay, him and Jeffrey Dean Morgan.. but still.

Neither of us would do porn so that would never be an issue for us. I wouldn't object to it but not "straight porn", with all I know about STD's and HIV/AIDS, I don't think I could physically have sex with another man.. the thought kind of sickens me. Not to say that I couldn't catch an infection or disease from a scene involving a woman but I just personally feel there is less risk involved- I'm sure there are many people here who could inform me right away that I'm wrong but in my head, this is what I want to believe- let me live in LaLa land!
07/31/2009
Contributor: Rocky LaFemme Rocky LaFemme
No! I do not share well with others.
07/31/2009
Contributor: Naughty Student Naughty Student
I love love LOVE artisitc nude photgraphy, not the raw sexual stuff but the artisitc and sensual nude photgraphy. I would so be down with my partner participating in that. I would love to do it too.

Pornography not so much, even if it is just for magazines. It could have implications such as changing our relationship if he gets too self-loving, or it would be weird having phone calls (or being followed) from fanatic females or males.

I guess some would call pornograpghy art. I can agree with that at a certain level BUT it isnt any kind of art, it is the art of using nude bodies to turn others on so they can pleasure them self. Some may enjoy artisitc nude photgraphy to do that and some artistic nude photos are very sexual (and often times degrading towards the female) and will satisfy them however, when I refer to artisitc nude I am referring to the sensual sort of lazy sunday morning type of photos.

I have always been fascinated by strippers. I have a sort of crush on a female stripper and my partner doesnt know. I find that strippers are really good at making you think they might like you but all they do like is the cash in your wallet. I always found them so enticing and excotic and kind of wondered how it would feel to have that much seduction power over males and females. I would like to try it but I probably never will. I dont think my partner would be ok with it either. He doesnt like going to strip clubs all that much and I do. I encourage him to go some times and often want him to relay to me all the fun details of his night when he goes out with guy friends.

In terms of sex with another person, I dont think I would be ok with it. I would be very jealous and so would my partner be if I was having sex for money.
07/31/2009
Contributor: Oggins Oggins
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Originally posted by Nashville
My body has been plastered all over websites- Niteflirt, Bodacious Magazine, a website I used to model for about 3 years ago... I won't get into specifics.

At first he was like, "eh, I don't know...." but then he was like ... more
I'm right there in LaLa land with you!

Neither one of us would be comfortable with porn for the reasons you mentioned. It would just be too hard to wonder all the time about what could go wrong. I'd drive myself bonkers! Even if it were 100% safe, I still don't think I could share him. It's kinda like on True Blood....He's MINE! Lol!
07/31/2009
Contributor: Sanjay Sanjay
Quote:
Originally posted by Victoria
I voted for number 2. Truth be told, I don't want my adorable hubs getting it on with any other living being...but everyone can drool over his half-nekkid pics with blow up dolls
Your husband has a GREAT beard. I'm sorry, I just can't leave a good beard uncomplimented.
08/25/2009
Contributor: Avery Dragon Avery Dragon
#1 for me. I've told him before that I'd love to watch him with someone else, that's the voyeur in me i suppose. I believe he'd get much enjoyment out of it if i were able to really get him into it, but till than I'll dream =)

As for a stripper, if I could get his hips moving right (no coordination) than I'd make him do it at my parties lol.

As a model, as Naughty Student said, "Love artistic nude photography". I'd be very comfortable with him doing that, he's always been the photographer, and never gets in front of the camera himself, and I think it'd help his confidence a lot. there are several guys that I know that want him, but he just shirks it off and calls it lies.

In the end of this weird post, I'd be comfortable with him doing a little of everything, I know that he'd always come back to me. I've pushed him past boundaries he never knew he had, been his rock, made him learn more about himself. I know I wouldn't lose him, but make his life more interesting.
08/25/2009
Contributor: Liz2 Liz2
I have done artistic nude modeling. I enjoyed it and I was somewhat in demand. Never felt comfortable with doing porn myself but I do enjoy it and get off with it. And no, I wouldn't want my partner doing either!! Yes, it's not fair...
08/25/2009
Contributor: Owl Identified Owl Identified
Quote:
Originally posted by Victoria
I voted for number 2. Truth be told, I don't want my adorable hubs getting it on with any other living being...but everyone can drool over his half-nekkid pics with blow up dolls
I also voted for number two, but for a slightly different reason. Most of the people I know that work in porn have become very jaded/cynical about sex outside of their work as well as in it. To varying degrees, of course, and not every person I know that works in porn is this way. But I would be afraid that my partner's experiences would 1) hurt them 2) hurt our sexual relationship.

I would be willing to date someone that did porn, but it would have to be judged on a case to case basis. If my partner assured me that it wouldn't affect them too deeply and that the work wouldn't come home with them.
08/25/2009
Contributor: LilyLust LilyLust
stripper or model yes. Thats kinda hot. But porn, no way. Not to sound greedy or over protective but he's mine mone mine. This kitty doesn;t pkay nice with others.

I suppose if they were already in porn I would HAVE to be ok with it. But Not if one doy they decided to get into it.
08/28/2009
Contributor: Victoria Victoria
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Originally posted by Sanjay
Your husband has a GREAT beard. I'm sorry, I just can't leave a good beard uncomplimented.
Awww, thanks! He gets a lot of compliments on his beard. I like facial hair
08/28/2009
Contributor: Dark Muse Dark Muse
I don't want to share. Artistic nude pictures are fine, but anything sexual designed for sexual pleasure/fantasy...I don't think I could do it even if it's just pictures. He's mine.
08/28/2009
Contributor: Red Red
Dunno if I could date a porn star. Theoretically, sure, just not sure how well it would go over in reality. Shrug!
09/20/2009
Contributor: Miss Cinnamon Miss Cinnamon
I wish I could say that I was confident enough to not care if my partner was any of the above and vice versa, but I can't. We are both very jealous, possessive people, and we don't like to share. Unfortunately, this also means that if we ever want any kind of threesome, it would have to be with a sexbot or something. I want to be more open and reassured that no matter who we show our bodies to, we belong to each other, but it doesn't feel right to me. I envy others who don't share my fears.
09/20/2009
Contributor: Darling Dove Darling Dove
I share cinnamon's sentiments. I want my partner to be all mine, and to have him baring himself for the world to see would irk me to no end.
09/20/2009
Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
Nope, I don't share.
03/31/2010
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
I think I would only have a problem if people came up to me to tell me about how hot they thought my fiance was naked and all that jazz. I do have a problem with the porn mostly because I know I would develop some sort of complex about him not being as satisfied with just me anymore. We've actually talked about stuff like this before and he encouraged me to do modeling if I wanted to, although I don't think I could get naked, lol
04/01/2010
Contributor: Elodie Elodie
Anything involving him touching/being touched sexually: no.

Him being naked in front of others? Sure, why not! I like the thought of other people finding my boyfriend hot. I trust him.
05/07/2010
Contributor: Miss Naughty Kitty Miss Naughty Kitty
I would like to think I would be, altho its hard to say until you are in the actual situation.
05/08/2010
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
First answer is also my exact feelings on the matter!
Heh Sigel has decided that when he is done getting his body into shape he would like to be an escort. What a mind fuck for me...I mean on the one hand it's amazing that he's attractive enough for ladies to want to pay to be seen with him (he already has offers but he doesn't feel comfortable with his body yet) and on the other hand it's only quasi legal. Still if he is loving his job at that point who am I to complain? Perhaps a move to an area where it is legal is in order. LOL
07/28/2010
Contributor: joja joja
This is a weird subject for me. Though I am polyamorous and definitely not a jealous person, it would feel having a partner that's a porn star. I suppose I wouldn't be jealous so much as worried for them - for how they're treated, whether they're practicing safe sex, etc.
07/28/2010
Contributor: hoorah1784 hoorah1784
Quote:
Originally posted by Airlia
I wanted to know who was comfortable with their partners being in the sex industry, and being fully recognisable. What are your apprehensions? Why are you happy with it?
I actually dated a stripper and I was very happy to be with her. She was only noticable in the club she worked at and I trusted her. Well the begining of the relationship until she brought home the bouncer from her work.
11/07/2010