Cybersex?? Cheating or Not??

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Cybersex?? Cheating or Not??

Mrs.Tee Mrs.Tee 11/03/2012

Is cybersex really another form of cheating???

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Mrs.Tee Mrs.Tee
Is Cybersex really another form of cheating???
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Terri69 Terri69
I say it is...but that's me.
11/03/2012
sXeVegan90 sXeVegan90
It is to me.
11/03/2012
laflauta laflauta
I personally believe that it is
11/03/2012
malantha malantha
Yes it is.
11/03/2012
Zandrock Zandrock
Depends on the relationship
11/03/2012
Neotigress Neotigress
Quote:
Originally posted by Mrs.Tee
Is Cybersex really another form of cheating???
Depends on the relationship level, the relationship status, if it's poly, the two people involved.

If it is a "traditional" monogomous committed relationship, then yes, and it is usually a sign that something in the relationship is broken.
11/03/2012
panthercat23 panthercat23
It depends on the parameters of the relationship.
11/03/2012
js250 js250
It depends on the feelings and boundaries of the two people involved. i would have said yes many years ago--but my hubby and I both agree that it is okay, as long as we do it together. TOGETHER is the key...
11/03/2012
indiglo indiglo
For us, it would be cheating, yes. We are in a monogamous relationship and have vowed exclusivity to each other.
11/03/2012
Lioncub Lioncub
I agree it depends on the relationship and the bounds you have set.
11/03/2012
XxXxX XxXxX
Quote:
Originally posted by Mrs.Tee
Is Cybersex really another form of cheating???
I am in between. The way I figure it, if they are chilling with a cam girl or someone online. Then they are just messing around. Now if I found my partner having an online 'thing' with someone we actually know. I would consider that to be wrong.
11/03/2012
Mrs.Intensity Mrs.Intensity
Yes, it is cheating. If your spouse would walk in and be upset, that is definitely cheating.
11/03/2012
Lildrummrgurl7 Lildrummrgurl7
I consider it cheating. I also don't approve of my fiance watching cam girls when I'm not around. Of course, I have my reasons that are specific to our relationship. Other people may be completely fine with those things. It all depends on the people involved.
11/03/2012
Passion plum Passion plum
If your partner isn't aware/ok with it then I think it's cheating.
11/03/2012
tortilla tortilla
depends
11/03/2012
Harpina is gone Harpina is gone
Yes it is.
11/03/2012
Intrepid Niddering Intrepid Niddering
I consider it cheating, but it all depends on the relationship. What I want in a relationship, that would be cheating to me. If it's something that would hurt your partner, it's cheating. Some people, it doesn't matter to them, or they are poly, or any other thing where it's okay to them.
11/03/2012
Lizard Lizard
It depends. If you do it secretively than probably so.
11/03/2012
llellsee llellsee
I'd consider it cheating.
11/03/2012
Moniqua Moniqua
I think it is but I guess it just depends.
11/03/2012
PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
I absolutely think so! It will depend on the type of relationship that you have, but that type of behavior is very personal and if it's something that would hurt your partner, than you shouldn't engage in it!
11/03/2012
Beck Beck
Depends on what the people in the relationship have set up for boundaries. I wouldn't classify it as cheating.
11/03/2012
brevado brevado
I never understand this discussion. How could it not be cheating?
11/03/2012
ToyGeek ToyGeek
Unless the couple has previously agreed to allow it, it's probably cheating. There's an exception to every rule, but that's up to the participants.
11/03/2012
Huff Huff
Definitely cheating
11/03/2012
Rossie Rossie
To me, it's cheating.
11/03/2012
MidnightStorm MidnightStorm
Yes and no... I don't think it has to be and that it depends on the relationship.
11/04/2012
MissCandyland MissCandyland
Quote:
Originally posted by Intrepid Niddering
I consider it cheating, but it all depends on the relationship. What I want in a relationship, that would be cheating to me. If it's something that would hurt your partner, it's cheating. Some people, it doesn't matter to them, or they ...
I agree with this.
11/04/2012
Xarien Xarien
Quote:
Originally posted by Mrs.Tee
Is Cybersex really another form of cheating???
I come from a heavy online roleplaying background and honestly, as long as it stays in the from of text I've never seen it as cheating. It's no different than reading an erotic story...You're just writing it with someone else.

If it goes to voice/cam though...That's pushing the line.
11/04/2012
JessieDawg JessieDawg
Only if you're not in an open relationship and didn't discuss with your partner about it before hand.

Just in general its not cheating? It just depends on the rules of your relationship wow people.
11/04/2012
LoooveMonkey LoooveMonkey
Definitely cheating.
11/04/2012
K101 K101
Quote:
Originally posted by Mrs.Tee
Is Cybersex really another form of cheating???
In a real monogamous relationship? Yes. No doubt. Absolutely.
11/04/2012
apryls apryls
Quote:
Originally posted by Mrs.Tee
Is Cybersex really another form of cheating???
I personally don't feel it is, you aren't touching anyone and you are just online fulfilling a fantiscy. To me cyber sex is the same as phone sex, but that's just my opion and how we do things in our marriage.
11/04/2012
chelly411 chelly411
absolutely is
11/04/2012
angel42539 angel42539
YES
11/04/2012
Stagger13 Stagger13
Quote:
Originally posted by Mrs.Tee
Is Cybersex really another form of cheating???
I believe that it is.
11/04/2012
angel42539 angel42539
Quote:
Originally posted by chelly411
absolutely is
i agree
11/04/2012
ViVix ViVix
Quote:
Originally posted by Mrs.Tee
Is Cybersex really another form of cheating???
It is for me.
11/05/2012
pussy licker pussy licker
no i love it
11/05/2012
Martiniman Martiniman
I personally think it is.
11/05/2012
pirata pirata
depends on the couple and your partners feeling on the matter
11/07/2012
Gdom Gdom
Naturally, it depends on the couple. If you and your partner have talked about it and both of you are comfortable with one or both of you having cybersex with other partners, then it's not cheating (for precisely the same reasons that partners in a consensual open relationship aren't cheating). But if you haven't explicitly or implicitly agreed to that sort of arrangement, then the default understanding is generally going to be that that's cheating. Cheating isn't about having sex with another person; it's about breaking your partner's trust and acting in a way that violates agreed upon expectations of romantic/sexual behavior.
11/07/2012
MDuffy MDuffy
absolutely
11/07/2012
No-nita No-nita
As far as I'm concerned, no, it's no more cheating than calling a phonesex hotline or watching cam girls. If there's no touching going on between these two people, and it's just to aid in solo sessions then I really don't care.
11/08/2012
No-nita No-nita
Quote:
Originally posted by apryls
I personally don't feel it is, you aren't touching anyone and you are just online fulfilling a fantiscy. To me cyber sex is the same as phone sex, but that's just my opion and how we do things in our marriage.
Haha I just said pretty much exactly this! I feel the same way.
11/08/2012
roskat roskat
Yeah, I would consider it cheating.
11/08/2012
Cat E. Cat E.
Yes, it's cheating.
11/09/2012
Robespierrethecat Robespierrethecat
I think it depends what's considered cheating in your relationship.

Personally, I would prefer my partner not to have cybersex with anyone that isn't me, but I can understand why it would be okay or understandable.
11/09/2012
Inkkythesquid Inkkythesquid
Personally, i consider cheating to be anything you wouldn't want your partner to know about
11/09/2012
Danielle1220 Danielle1220
I think it is.
11/09/2012
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Mrs.Tee
Is Cybersex really another form of cheating???
You fail to describe your definition of Cybersex. If you are talking about "activity" online with another person, sure it is cheating. If you are speaking of looking at porn or an animated sexual site, heck no, that's not cheating in my book. He can go to porn sites all day long and it's fine, but there better not be some one on one with a girl online. That is cheating to me.
11/13/2012
Vanille Vanille
Quote:
Originally posted by Mrs.Tee
Is Cybersex really another form of cheating???
It really depends on the relationship and if it's personally done without partner(s) knowledge, then yes, it is cheating.
11/13/2012
Buh-bye Buh-bye
I really think it is. Especially if the other partner doesn't know about it and the other one is hiding it.
11/25/2012
PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
If it is not done together I think it is. Thank god I do this as a job and my bf knows it and has no problem with it.
11/26/2012
BlooJay BlooJay
Quote:
Originally posted by Buh-bye
I really think it is. Especially if the other partner doesn't know about it and the other one is hiding it.
I agree
12/05/2012
pandasauce pandasauce
Quote:
Originally posted by Mrs.Tee
Is Cybersex really another form of cheating???
Being a product of the internet generation, I consider cybersex cheating. This is primarily because I have started and maintained romantic relationships that were meaningful and real over Internet communication- if that's possible, it is possible for someone to progress from simple cybersex to romance and eventually leaving me.
12/05/2012
sexxxkitten sexxxkitten
For me, it would be considered cheating.
12/05/2012
TransGuy14 TransGuy14
Only if there wasn't consent of all partners involved.
12/08/2012
SecretKinksters SecretKinksters
I believe it to be.
12/08/2012
mjtheprincess mjtheprincess
You know, I am on the fence. I would honestly probably be most upset if my guy was spending money on cam girls...what a waste of cash when I can put on a perfectly good show!
12/09/2012
travelnurse travelnurse
I don't think that it is but I would be pissed if my spouse spent money on it.
12/09/2012
xilliannax xilliannax
Quote:
Originally posted by Mrs.Tee
Is Cybersex really another form of cheating???
Depends on the terms of the relationship. In my relationship no, because my husband loves me and he can fuck anyone he wants as long as he's loyal to me
12/09/2012
spiced spiced
Quote:
Originally posted by travelnurse
I don't think that it is but I would be pissed if my spouse spent money on it.
I feel pretty much the same and also if she were investing herself emotionally in it, forming a connection with the person she was cybersexing with.
12/09/2012
emiliaa emiliaa
If not otherwise agreed upon, yes! Any sexual act with another person that is not agreed upon with your partner is cheating...
12/10/2012
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