Dirty talk: Are we in or are we out?

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Dirty talk: Are we in or are we out?

Stellar Stellar
Hello, my beautiful community!
I've recently came across these smart advises on how on should and shouldn't practice dirty talk. What to do you think of this practice? Do you like it, does it turn you on, do you do that? Maybe, you have some awkward and funny stories to tell us? I bet there should be a lot
12/15/2015
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Inquisitor Inquisitor
I'm in! As I've mentioned in another post about the subject, we (the partner and I) went to a class on the subject and I can honestly say that it helped.

Is it hot, YES!

I do have 1 issue with the article that this post was linked to though. It is this, the use of demeaning and derogatory words. I will say this about those two things, for some people it amps up the hot factor. Before one gets into this you should know what works and what doesn't.
12/15/2015
symbiasin symbiasin
I usually don't use it, but I can see the nasty talk having effect. Derogatory talk would be like a bucket of ice water on the whole thing.
12/15/2015
edeneve edeneve
I used to think dirty talk was like being plain out nasty & ugly. It's only in recent years have I discovered what it's about & I've only had 2 partners talk dirty to me. I made a few uncomfortable & stiff sounding comments now & then when I first experienced it w/ them. I didn't know what to say or how to say it. I'm much better w/ it now, but nothing like them. I have an issue too, as Inquisitor referred to. Using demeaning & abusive words never appeal to me w/ anything, for that matter.


Inquisitor - a dirty talk class? How did you find that? Was it a class you attended in person or was it on the internet? Hmmm, food for thought... And please, share the details about the class w/ us. I am very curious.
12/15/2015
XxFallenAngelxX XxFallenAngelxX
I like more of our 'sexy' talk. We don't use degrading words, just sensual words and they do help. It makes the sex more arousing.
12/15/2015
Stellar Stellar
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Originally posted by Inquisitor
I'm in! As I've mentioned in another post about the subject, we (the partner and I) went to a class on the subject and I can honestly say that it helped.

Is it hot, YES!

I do have 1 issue with the article that this post was ...
Dear Inquisitor,
I surely agree with you, that derogatory words can be pleasant and a good fit into common sexual practice, but, maybe, only when it's discussed and both of you agreed to be called in a certain way. I'm guessing that without some kind of preparation it would be at least surprising and disruptive, at most - really abusive.

And yes, please do share your experience about the "dirty talk" class - sounds fascinating!
12/16/2015
OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
I like to use it on occasion. Mostly after watching an exciting movie. I also don't like to use certain words/phases. Even here on the forum I usually only spell parts of the letters and insert some blanks.

The rare times OW does it is a real turn on.
12/16/2015
unfulfilled unfulfilled
I always feel awkward if I use any sexy words. I just don't know how to say them and not look, feel, sound foolish. However, sometimes I like to be talked naughty to, it's a turn on.
12/16/2015
Inquisitor Inquisitor
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Originally posted by edeneve
I used to think dirty talk was like being plain out nasty & ugly. It's only in recent years have I discovered what it's about & I've only had 2 partners talk dirty to me. I made a few uncomfortable & stiff sounding comments ...
Yes, a dirty talk class. How did I find it you ask, I looked for one in one of the cities I frequent. The class was held in one of the adult stores I stop into from time to time for various supplies. This isn't one of those darkly lit stores, in a questionable neighborhood with a sketchy guy behind a counter and cheap merchandise. No, not at all. While this place is tucked away, it is brightly lit and respectable. It has a Good Vibes feel to it.

Anyway, the class was taught by a Sexual empowerment mentor who also has her masters degree in Human Sexuality Education. I'll admit, it was awkward at first, but to help ease the obvious tension with a room of about 13 people in this class, we all created a story.

Most of the story was already there, we just had to fill in various sections of this story. We had to ask each other for nouns, verbs, adjectives and adverbs in order to complete the story. This was done to help break the ice and to get us all more familiar with using words that might be outside of our comfort zones.

After this was complete, we then read our stories out loud to the group. They were all quite bizarre but humorous. Once the stories were all read the presenter then went on to explain that there isn't just one way to talk dirty. There are multiple ways to do it and that you can tweak them all to suit your needs using various tricks.
12/17/2015
unfulfilled unfulfilled
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Originally posted by Inquisitor
Yes, a dirty talk class. How did I find it you ask, I looked for one in one of the cities I frequent. The class was held in one of the adult stores I stop into from time to time for various supplies. This isn't one of those darkly lit stores, in ...
Off subject,I conjured up mad libs for adults when I read that.

That sounds like an empowering class. Very cool the store found the human sexuality educator.
12/18/2015
OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
Quote:
Originally posted by Inquisitor
Yes, a dirty talk class. How did I find it you ask, I looked for one in one of the cities I frequent. The class was held in one of the adult stores I stop into from time to time for various supplies. This isn't one of those darkly lit stores, in ...
Humm I'm thinking this store (chain) goes by intials, G.V. and been in business since 1977 ? We been to the one on Valencia a few times.
12/18/2015
edeneve edeneve
Quote:
Originally posted by Inquisitor
Yes, a dirty talk class. How did I find it you ask, I looked for one in one of the cities I frequent. The class was held in one of the adult stores I stop into from time to time for various supplies. This isn't one of those darkly lit stores, in ...
Thanks Inquisitor. I'd like to hear more about your experience. Go ahead & post my wall or send a PM.
12/18/2015
Inquisitor Inquisitor
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Originally posted by OH&W, Lovebears
Humm I'm thinking this store (chain) goes by intials, G.V. and been in business since 1977 ? We been to the one on Valencia a few times.
Not quite and its not a chain. You are thinking north and that's the wrong direction .
12/19/2015
Lvstoplay Lvstoplay
I like it a lot, if it's done right.
12/20/2015
Andykh Andykh
My wife does more of the dirty talk when we are in the middle of doing the dirty deed. Sometimes I wonder if she wants me to talk a lil bit dirtier to her than what I do. All in all we both have fun with it and it makes the sex more fun
12/20/2015
OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
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Originally posted by Andykh
My wife does more of the dirty talk when we are in the middle of doing the dirty deed. Sometimes I wonder if she wants me to talk a lil bit dirtier to her than what I do. All in all we both have fun with it and it makes the sex more fun
Andy, you lucky guy. I would love it if OW did that. Fun is good.
12/20/2015
Andykh Andykh
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Originally posted by OH&W, Lovebears
Andy, you lucky guy. I would love it if OW did that. Fun is good.
Idk bout lucky but i do have to admit ive got a very awesome and fun wife lol.
12/20/2015
Rossie Rossie
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Originally posted by Stellar
Hello, my beautiful community!
I've recently came across these smart advises on how on should and shouldn't practice dirty talk. What to do you think of this practice? Do you like it, does it turn you on, do you do that? Maybe, you have ...
Yes, we dirty talk during sex. Dirty talk can be extremely arousing when done right and at the right moment.
12/23/2015
Stellar Stellar
It would have been wonderful, if someone point out a difference for me. Where do you draw the line between something really hurtful and arousing in dirty talk?
12/23/2015
Lvstoplay Lvstoplay
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Originally posted by Stellar
It would have been wonderful, if someone point out a difference for me. Where do you draw the line between something really hurtful and arousing in dirty talk?
I don't go for name calling, or anything that would be insulting if my partner or I said it outside of dirty talk.
12/23/2015
Andykh Andykh
Quote:
Originally posted by Stellar
It would have been wonderful, if someone point out a difference for me. Where do you draw the line between something really hurtful and arousing in dirty talk?
My wife and i don't do any name calling. We have watched porn movies where they use it but we leave it to them in the movies . We have just as much fun without it
12/24/2015
catt catt
Quote:
Originally posted by Stellar
Hello, my beautiful community!
I've recently came across these smart advises on how on should and shouldn't practice dirty talk. What to do you think of this practice? Do you like it, does it turn you on, do you do that? Maybe, you have ...
I always start out strong but get lost in more guttural sounds as the body feels fit.
12/26/2015
konicaguy konicaguy
I like it and I'm good at it. My wife... not so much. But she is trying and getting better at it! I appreciate her efforts, even though a lot of the time we just end up laughing at her attempts.
Jan 23, 10:13 pm
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