For us it really depends. Sometimes we have so much time we start to drive each other nuts and other times we both get so busy we see each other at bedtime. It's just a part of life, yes it would be nice to be more equalized but it's just not.
Lately it seems as though we are ships in the night. I work 50 to 60 hours a week and we have a toddler and a newborn. Seeing each other during waking hours is challenge enough let alone anything intimate. It gives me anxiety and makes me sad that it is this way now. Work stress and taking care if two young children that require almost all our energy and most if our attention are consuming our lives.