Do you have a preference for "attached" sex or "random" sex?

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Do you have a preference for "attached" sex or "random" sex?

gothicwhispers gothicwhispers
I can't tell you how many times I've heard (from women usually) that sex is better when you're in love/emotionally attached etc etc... I don't feel that way, personally. I think they both have their pros and cons, but for me, generally the quality of the sex comes down to how comfortable I am at the time, with the person I am having sex with (be it a random partner or one I'm in a relationship with). I have had plenty of sex with people whose names I don't even know and never saw again, as well as plenty of "emotionally attached" sex as well as "friends with benefits" scenario. What are ou thoughts on this?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
I prefer to have sex with someone for whom I have feelings.
24  (71%)
I prefer to have sex with someone for whom I have no feelings. ("random" sex)
I have only had one or the other so I can't really compare.
6  (18%)
I have no preference.
2  (6%)
other? (please explain)
2  (6%)
Total votes: 34
Poll is closed
03/21/2013
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married with children married with children
my wife and I have only been with each other. And in 20 years, I have had no complaints. And neither has she. Sex is something you share with the person you love and spending your life with.
03/21/2013
MrsHouseWife MrsHouseWife
I have had both and when there is an emotional connection it just means so much more to me. No matter what the skill level or experience of the guy, if I feel something for him, it is going to mean more to me aswell.
03/21/2013
Bme Bme
In my early years, I had sex with lots of women. Once I found out what sex is with someone you really love and trust, there is no comparison.
03/21/2013
PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
I've only had sex with two people and they were both people I loved and cared about, so I can't compare the two.
03/21/2013
eri86 eri86
I'm an old fashioned romantic holding out for the 'one'. Or at least that very special first.
03/21/2013
spunkmonkey spunkmonkey
Better with someone you love.
03/21/2013
twelve13 twelve13
I've only had "attached" sex, but since I'm pretty demisexual, I wouldn't want to try random sex. Just my personal preference.
03/22/2013
MissCandyland MissCandyland
I've had both and prefer attached sex.
03/22/2013
bog bog
Quote:
Originally posted by gothicwhispers
I can't tell you how many times I've heard (from women usually) that sex is better when you're in love/emotionally attached etc etc... I don't feel that way, personally. I think they both have their pros and cons, but for me, ...
I may have several partners at a time, but I prefer to have a connection with them.
03/22/2013
bratcat bratcat
I prefer to have an emotional connection with a person i'm having sex with, because i can trust that person 100% and am usually just much more into and excited about sex if i have an emotional attachment with that person. Sex for me has progressively gotten better with the more partners i experience weather they are friends with benefits, one night stands, or a committed relationship.
03/22/2013
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I have had very little 'unattached' sex in my life - most of that in college. Until marrying at 35 - I was into 'serial monogamy' - going from one relationship to another - each lasting 6 months to several years. I never liked juggling multiple partners.
03/22/2013
SecretKinksters SecretKinksters
Prefer attached sex.
03/22/2013
KinkyKatieJames KinkyKatieJames
Sex with feelings is my preference, but I love random sex as well.
03/22/2013
gothicwhispers gothicwhispers
wow- I'm really surprised at the results so far- that so many people prefer sex with someone they care about. Is it that you feel less inhibited or? I'm a very bold. blunt, outgoing person, so I think that makes a difference perhaps.
03/23/2013
Martiniman Martiniman
Random sex can be a great fantasy, but I prefer sex with someone I'm attached to emotionally.
03/23/2013
CutiePatootie CutiePatootie
Yep, I said other. I love sex with my husband, but we can get in a rut. And we both enjoy bringing a girl to bed with us, so that's where we still get our "random" sex. Not only is it super-fun, it ups both of our sex drives. I'd say we probably have four times more sex when we are having/have had threesomes just between the two of us.
03/28/2013
hillys hillys
I'd rather have random sex currently because I don't want a relationship but I tried it once and it was rather awkward.
03/28/2013
marriedlady123 marriedlady123
I'm married, but before that I have had my share of great random sex!
03/30/2013
libbyv libbyv
attached sex any day
04/01/2013
SeductivelyCute SeductivelyCute
I think that sex with the same person allows be to get comfy with them and be come more open. Random sex seems fun when ur in a pinch lol.
04/06/2013
Total posts: 21
Unique posters: 20