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whats your take on it?
Not really. Mostly, my problem is being forced to give oral in the past--to the point to where my mouth, lips were raw and actuall painful. That really has made it hard to give oral in my current relationship. We've been together for 5 years, but I do like to do it sometimes, but that's because I'm not forced to anymore. In the past, an ex would go so far as to bribe me and play silly tricks on me, anything to get oral and once it started, I'd be down there for sometimes over an hour. It sucks that it sort of ruined it, but it's not totally bad. My current partner understands and it was actually his idea that I not do it. He doesn't really love oral very much though. When given the chance, he usually stops me soon in order to have intercourse anyways. That makes things a lot easier, not having to bite into my upper lip for 30 min straight so I can handle it. He REALLY likes giving it though. Not sure why, but in the entire 5 years, he insists.
I told him he'd burn out on it and end up hating it, but it's not happened yet. It works out nicely though. Instead of me giving long oral, it's only for a few minutes and then we do it.