Do you plan your sex style?

captainsgirl captainsgirl
Do you plan and/or talk about which kind of sex you are going to have before you actually get there? (example: vanilla, bondage, s&m, anal, etc) Or do you just go with the flow?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
plan ahead
CE
1  (2%)
go with the flow
edeneve , Lioncub , spunkmonkey , hillys , lilyflower , brown eyed fox , bayosgirl , SilverMinxxx , The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary , The Vixen , Creepellah , kendra30752 , Hazeleyes2012 , Cosmonaut , Isola , libbyv , Gleb , Trysexual , potstickers , Kitka , dancingduo
21  (50%)
sometimes plan and sometimes go with the flow
captainsgirl , Rory , SecretKinksters , married with children , chicmichiw , shelberlynn , Azule , Gunsmoke , Sera26 , GirlOnGirl , KinkyKatieJames , spiced , Martiniman , TJtheMadHatter , EastCoast36 , padmeamidala , Bignuf , RonLee , gsfanatic , dv8
20  (48%)
other
Total votes: 42
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03/26/2013
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edeneve edeneve
he plans by himself I'm sure & I have a plan I don't tell him about - and it's never vanilla.
03/26/2013
Rory Rory
Sometimes planning helps. It gets things started before you get in the bedroom.
03/26/2013
Lioncub Lioncub
99% of the time go with the flow.
03/26/2013
captainsgirl captainsgirl
Quote:
Originally posted by edeneve
he plans by himself I'm sure & I have a plan I don't tell him about - and it's never vanilla.
haha
03/26/2013
SecretKinksters SecretKinksters
Plan only if we are role playing, otherwise we just go at it.
03/26/2013
married with children married with children
little bit of both.
03/26/2013
spunkmonkey spunkmonkey
Go with the flow.
03/26/2013
hillys hillys
go with the flow dude.
03/26/2013
shelberlynn shelberlynn
The bf and I usually don't plan... but once in awhile when he or I want something we let the other know. Our sex life is planned at the moment, but not what we are gonna do. He usually just tosses me however he wants me
03/27/2013
SilverMinxxx SilverMinxxx
90% go with the flow and 10% planned
03/27/2013
Azule Azule
Really depends on how spontaneous it is, but usually it's go with the flow.
03/27/2013
The Vixen The Vixen
Go with the flow! I don't like to plan it before, it can actually be a turn off for me.
03/27/2013
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I often have a plan - but I'm not tied to it. If things don't seem right or she takes the initiative - then the plan changes - going with the flow...
03/27/2013
Creepellah Creepellah
I "go with the flow."
03/27/2013
kendra30752 kendra30752
Quote:
Originally posted by captainsgirl
Do you plan and/or talk about which kind of sex you are going to have before you actually get there? (example: vanilla, bondage, s&m, anal, etc) Or do you just go with the flow?
Never plan it, just go with what we're feeling at the moment.
03/27/2013
Hazeleyes2012 Hazeleyes2012
Go with the flow more fun that way...
03/27/2013
GirlOnGirl GirlOnGirl
I tend to be a planner but even if I do have a plan in advance it's really just a loosely connected set of ideas and not an actual plan. When it comes to sex things rarely go according to any plan and it'd probably be boring if it did.
03/27/2013
Cosmonaut Cosmonaut
I just go with the flow.
03/27/2013
spiced spiced
I often plan things, do whatever preparation is necessary and keep the appropriate toys handy. But I like for it to feel spontaneous, so I do all that stuff on my own and just suggest, seemingly out of the blue, that now might be a good time! Like Gunsmoke said, once we start, things tend to take on a life of their own. When that happens, I always just go with it.

When we were a lot busier, we actually had to schedule time to have sex. That was MUCH better than not having sex, but less fun than the way things are now.
03/28/2013
libbyv libbyv
Quote:
Originally posted by captainsgirl
Do you plan and/or talk about which kind of sex you are going to have before you actually get there? (example: vanilla, bondage, s&m, anal, etc) Or do you just go with the flow?
go with the flow
03/28/2013
Gleb Gleb
go with the flow
03/28/2013
Trysexual Trysexual
I take it when I can get it. I might plan in my head though, since I am the lead.
03/28/2013
CE CE
Good question! I've usually always been the 'director' during sex so I tend to have a 'script' in mind when we start fooling around. Sometimes its a more detailed fantasy of something new I wanted to try. (Being quite kinky means so many possibilities.) Other times its just a sketch of what I want to do.

Of course, nothing is exactly set in stone and either of us can switch it up whenever we want. Sometimes what we try doesn't work so we just have to move onto something else. And there are always spontaneous go-with-the-flow times where things just 'happen'! One thing I love is whispering a sex scene into her ear while I play with her til she cums, and then another time act out what that scene was!
03/28/2013
TJtheMadHatter TJtheMadHatter
Last night we planned it. Well, I bartered for it, actually. It was amazing. He's not one for toys, but I insisted that he use them on me, as part of the deal. I think it turned him on, to think about it all day. We didn't get to do half of what I had planned (sensory play), but I'm okay with that. Seriously, I am. It was fantastic. I don't really plan kinky sex, because it tends to scare my husband off. It has to be more spur of the moment.
03/28/2013
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by captainsgirl
Do you plan and/or talk about which kind of sex you are going to have before you actually get there? (example: vanilla, bondage, s&m, anal, etc) Or do you just go with the flow?
I will tease him a certain way or he will play with me a certain way, so I know and he knows where we are "going" that night. Whichever one of us gets into the bedroom first may also pull out some toys appropriate for that nights "activities". After three decades, we read each other pretty darn well.
03/28/2013
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by TJtheMadHatter
Last night we planned it. Well, I bartered for it, actually. It was amazing. He's not one for toys, but I insisted that he use them on me, as part of the deal. I think it turned him on, to think about it all day. We didn't get to do half of ... More
Kinky sex sure would not scare my hubby off!!!
03/28/2013
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Hazeleyes2012
Go with the flow more fun that way...
Believe me, planning can be fun too. If I know I want anal and tease him all day with a glimpse of the little jewel ended plug I am wearing, it makes us both steamy hot all day, and when play time comes along....well, it is roasting hot!!!!
03/28/2013
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by edeneve
he plans by himself I'm sure & I have a plan I don't tell him about - and it's never vanilla.
Even when we do "vanilla", it has chocolate sprinkles, hot fudge, nuts, whipped cream and a cherry on top, if you know what I mean?!
03/28/2013
gsfanatic gsfanatic
Sometimes I plan, sometimes I just go with the flow.
04/02/2013
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