Do you freely reveal your #? When asked do you tell your current partner the number of past partners you've had, or do you avoid the question?
Do you reveal your number of sex partners?
12/14/2011
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I don't really want to fib about the number of partners I've had, but I honestly don't know the #... and I definitely don't want to tell a partner that!! LOL So, I give my best estimate as if that's the definite #.
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He knows how many men I've been with. I don't know the exact number of women he's been with, mostly because I never asked. He was sexually active before I met him, I was a virgin when he and I got together. I was with men when we had an Open Relationship, so he knows.
Originally posted by
AngelvMaynard
Do you freely reveal your #? When asked do you tell your current partner the number of past partners you've had, or do you avoid the question?
But, it wasn't "bite the bullet." He just asked and I told him. I know my number is lower than his.
12/14/2011
I chose other because I didn't have to "bite the bullet." I had no problem telling my boyfriend.
12/14/2011
I bite the bullet and was completely honest, I do not find anything wrong with me having as many partners as I do, but was for some reason ashamed to say. He did not care at all when I told him.
12/14/2011
I've never had a sexual partner, so I've never had to answer that question. However, even if I'd had numerous partners, I'd have no problem telling a current partner. I'd also have no problem not telling them, if that's what I wanted. It's no one's business how many partners I have or haven't had.
12/14/2011
Great question
12/14/2011
I didn't have a problem weighing in and telling him about all "0" if my previous partners. It was a little need to know, since at the time we were starting our relationship I thought I might be asexual.
Even if it were more, he'd know about them. Honesty is important.
Even if it were more, he'd know about them. Honesty is important.
12/14/2011
I've only ever been with my wife sexually, and I plan to keep it that way forever, so yes, I tell the truth.
12/14/2011
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If I plan to have sexula contact with a person I fully disclose my sexual history without feeling negative about myself. I expect the same in return.
Originally posted by
AngelvMaynard
Do you freely reveal your #? When asked do you tell your current partner the number of past partners you've had, or do you avoid the question?
12/14/2011
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Honestly Ive never really had a problem with the number so I wouldnt care if anyone else had a problem with the number.
Originally posted by
AngelvMaynard
Do you freely reveal your #? When asked do you tell your current partner the number of past partners you've had, or do you avoid the question?
12/14/2011
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My number is so small I'm ashamed to admit how inexperienced I am!
Originally posted by
AngelvMaynard
Do you freely reveal your #? When asked do you tell your current partner the number of past partners you've had, or do you avoid the question?
12/14/2011
My current partner is my first and only sex partner so far, so there's nothing to share. But he knows about all my previous boyfriends.
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Have you ever been in a situation where you've been asked by a boyfriend/girlfriend?
Originally posted by
gone77
I've never had a sexual partner, so I've never had to answer that question. However, even if I'd had numerous partners, I'd have no problem telling a current partner. I'd also have no problem not telling them, if that's what I
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I've never had a sexual partner, so I've never had to answer that question. However, even if I'd had numerous partners, I'd have no problem telling a current partner. I'd also have no problem not telling them, if that's what I wanted. It's no one's business how many partners I have or haven't had.
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12/14/2011
I don't mind sharing if asked, I just don't think he believes me
12/14/2011
I don't really mind telling at all. I don't think most people would consider my number to be all that high, and even if it was I would hope that they wouldn't hold it against me.
12/14/2011
Yup always best to tell the truth and I really haven't had that many so it's not a big deal
12/15/2011
I've got a one and only, he knows. With just one, it's not a big deal.
12/15/2011
My number isn't really large, so it was never a big deal. I do have some friends that get really squirmy when asked
12/15/2011
Honesty and trust is the cornerstone of any relationship, so if I was asked that question, I would be completely honest.
12/15/2011
I've only had 2 so I'm never embarrassed to be honest about that
12/15/2011
I chose "Other" because my boyfriend is the only man I've slept with, though he does know about the guys before him that I *ahem* did other things with. And he obviously knows about the one sexual experience I've had with a female because he was watching. Lol.
I didn't have to "bite the bullet" and I wouldn't have to even if I had slept with more. My boyfriend, on the other hand, has slept with probably 20 different women and he had no problem telling me.
I didn't have to "bite the bullet" and I wouldn't have to even if I had slept with more. My boyfriend, on the other hand, has slept with probably 20 different women and he had no problem telling me.
12/15/2011
I've only had one, thts my hubby my high school sweet heart
12/15/2011
It depends. Not that I have a slew of partners to which this applies, but if the person wants to know, I'll be honest. If he doesn't bring it up, I won't forward the information. On the same note, I'd expect the same from him. Although his business is his own, I'd rather get a non-answer than a lie, and I'd rather get an answer than a non-answer! (This makes sense in my head.)
12/15/2011
I have only had one partner, and I'm with him still, so no need for lies or "biting bullets!"
12/15/2011
I've been asked before and almost no good comes out of any number (unless it's really low). If asked in the future, I'll ballpark it. I'd give them specifics if they ask.
I don't think it's a matter of numbers, just that your current partner wants to know they're the best you've had (NEVER tell them anything else). If you tell them someone else was better, they'll try to out-do that person or feel intimidated by your past. If you're with a more experienced partner, they'll be able to tell from your reactions about sex...most of the time.
I don't think it's a matter of numbers, just that your current partner wants to know they're the best you've had (NEVER tell them anything else). If you tell them someone else was better, they'll try to out-do that person or feel intimidated by your past. If you're with a more experienced partner, they'll be able to tell from your reactions about sex...most of the time.
12/15/2011
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It's interesting that you say it's not about numbers; as a female, I find that women are often scrutinized much more on things even as simple as numbers than men are. You're right about the perceived importance of being "the best you've ever had," but I think that Western double-standards make it so that for females, numbers can be just as condemning as the resulting rankings or feelings.
Originally posted by
El-Jaro
I've been asked before and almost no good comes out of any number (unless it's really low). If asked in the future, I'll ballpark it. I'd give them specifics if they ask.
I don't think it's a matter of numbers, just ... more
I don't think it's a matter of numbers, just ... more
I've been asked before and almost no good comes out of any number (unless it's really low). If asked in the future, I'll ballpark it. I'd give them specifics if they ask.
I don't think it's a matter of numbers, just that your current partner wants to know they're the best you've had (NEVER tell them anything else). If you tell them someone else was better, they'll try to out-do that person or feel intimidated by your past. If you're with a more experienced partner, they'll be able to tell from your reactions about sex...most of the time. less
I don't think it's a matter of numbers, just that your current partner wants to know they're the best you've had (NEVER tell them anything else). If you tell them someone else was better, they'll try to out-do that person or feel intimidated by your past. If you're with a more experienced partner, they'll be able to tell from your reactions about sex...most of the time. less
Fortunately, I think the people on this site for the most part are in relationships with people who are more rational (or "progressive" in this sort of thinking) and don't have to deal with that kind of thing. Either way, ditto on telling them they're the best ever!
12/15/2011
Yes if he were to ask. He hasn't though, and I don't ask him. I'm not really interested in finding out the number for him, and I'm glad it hasn't been brought up
12/18/2011
Not ashamed of my # cab count them on one hand
12/18/2011
In most cases I feel it's non of their business cause I don't want to know theirs.
But with my Master, he demands to know things he is curious about and I didn't actually mind telling him.
But with my Master, he demands to know things he is curious about and I didn't actually mind telling him.
12/18/2011
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