here's the thing... orgasms are both the product of a mental state and a physical state. A lot of women don't orgasm not because they have crappy partners, but because women don't know how to reach that orgasm, i.e. they may have a prior experience that makes it difficult or impossible to orgasm, or they may suffer from a physical disorder, ect.
I've orgasmed with almost all my partners, and it's not because they were all sex gods. I don't put the pressure on the male to make me orgasm; i learned enough about my body and mind so that I can reach that state.
i think women need to stop placing all of the burden on their partners to "make them orgasm." it's our bodies, not theirs. we know what works and what doesn't. women need to step it up and figure out what they need to do so that they can have that "o" moment, be it dealing with stuff from the past, using toys to assist, or being more sexually honest with yourself. and then communicate that with your partner so he/ she can help reach that state as well