Does it ever make you sad when you partner can't orgasm during sex?

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Does it ever make you sad when you partner can't orgasm during sex?

PonyPlay PonyPlay
I was just starting this discussion to see if anyone ever got sad when there partner can't orgasm during sex. I am sad at the moment because the last week or so my man hasn't been able to get off inside me. He will do me and get me off then he'll jack off and I guess it makes me kinda sad because it makes me feel like I'm not turning him on enough to the point where he can get off. We have talked about it and he says it's not me. He is a really crazy skateboarded and rollerblader and says that his muscles are just to tight to orgasm when he doing me. I don't know has anyone else had this experience?
08/04/2010
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Alicia Alicia
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Originally posted by PonyPlay
I was just starting this discussion to see if anyone ever got sad when there partner can't orgasm during sex. I am sad at the moment because the last week or so my man hasn't been able to get off inside me. He will do me and get me off then ...
I haven't had it happen where he can't inside of me but can afterwards by jerking off, but I have had it where he just can't orgasm for whatever reason. Sometimes he just gets to almost the point but can't fully release. I always get sad when that happens because I feel like it's a let down for him. But, he never seems to mind and it will always happen the next time, so I try not to let it bother me because I know it doesn't bother him.

Have you tried different positions? If his muscles are too tight maybe you being on top would allow him to relax?
08/04/2010
P'Gell P'Gell
It's happened to me (more than I would like the past year) and it happens to My Man (usually in the evening, if he's had a little to drink) and yeah, I get sad when either of us can't come.

I can usually get him off either orally or anally if he can't otherwise, and he always pulls out, so there's that. If it isn't going to work, sometimes he just takes over, it isn't a big deal, I help out (just don't get punched in the mouth by accident that happens more than I'd like, when he's doing it himself and I'm hanging around) or I just whisper filthy things into his ear.

I don't usually come the first time from anything other than a vibrator, (when I'm having multiples, I usually come first and then can go again and again) and he felt bad about this (a little) because my not being able to orgasm was a new development in the last year or so. But, when we realized that as long as we were together ANYTHING that helps either of us gets off is OK.

I think it adds creativity to sex. Not always coming the same way.

Sometimes either one of us just CAN'T and, yeah, I feel bad. There's always next time.
08/04/2010
PonyPlay PonyPlay
My man has always been one of those people let is really hard to get off, it just takes a lot. Part of the reason it's hard for him was because when he was younger he jacked off with a sponge, one or the ruff ones, until he rubbed all the skin off his head. He said it felt good while he was doing and didn't realize he had rubbed all the skin off until he was done, but now he's not as sensitive down there. Like he's never been able to get off when I do oral on him, even when it's when I'm deep throating. The only way he can get off is inside me or jacking himself off. But I'm sad because he hasn't been able to get off inside of me lately and we've been trying different positions but it just wont happen. But I don't understand why it happened all the sudden.
08/04/2010
CamelliaGirl CamelliaGirl
I do feel a little weird about it but we're attempting to overcome it.
12/18/2012
minstrel69 minstrel69
Have you been having sex more often? Maybe you should refrain for several days or even a week? I know that for myself if the wife and I have been going at it like rabbits for days in a row, I am less sensitive and find it hard to get off.
12/19/2012
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