Does your partner mind if you masturabate in bed next to them when they're not in the mood?

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Does your partner mind if you masturabate in bed next to them when they're not in the mood?

wrecklesswords wrecklesswords
I know some people would get upset/jealous if their partner decided to "take care of business" when they weren't in the mood. But how does your partner feel if you do that in bed next to them?
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My partner doesn't mind
57
My partner minds
4
We have not discussed it
30
Other
15
Total votes: 106 (99 voters)
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09/13/2011
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wrecklesswords wrecklesswords
My girlfriend and I haven't discussed it. I'm not totally sure how she would feel about it. I do know that it turns her on immensely to see me masturbate. Though, she playfully whines if I tell her I will be touching myself while she's in the shower/tub.
09/13/2011
indiglo indiglo
We've discussed it and are fine with it. We've even done it. But even when you're not in the mood, it's hard not to get involved when you see your lover enjoying themselves. We will usually join in at least a little to help the other.
09/13/2011
Coralbell Coralbell
I haven't done that, so I'm not sure how he would feel. He has always helped me out when I wanted it.

I have told him to go ahead and masturbate when I wasn't in the mood to have sex or give him a handjob, so obviously I'm fine with it. Usually watching him masturbate turns me on, but if Im really not in the mood I still at least find it entertaining to watch.
09/13/2011
Naughty Student Naughty Student
Quote:
Originally posted by indiglo
We've discussed it and are fine with it. We've even done it. But even when you're not in the mood, it's hard not to get involved when you see your lover enjoying themselves. We will usually join in at least a little to help the other.
Exactly, we are pretty much the same.

If I tell my guy that I am horny and want to masturbate, he will often stay around to watch and eventually becomes in the mood and joins in. OR, he lets me masturbate alone, which occurs more often.

He likes to have privacy for solo, so gives me privacy for solo but we have been doing a lot of mutual masturbation lately.
09/13/2011
cocomo cocomo
thats kinda weird
09/13/2011
cocomo cocomo
actually i would feel kinda left out and turned on of chorse
09/13/2011
WhoopieDoo WhoopieDoo
I do it all the time, but he usually becomes interested whilst I am going about my business
09/13/2011
WierdAl WierdAl
Quote:
Originally posted by wrecklesswords
I know some people would get upset/jealous if their partner decided to "take care of business" when they weren't in the mood. But how does your partner feel if you do that in bed next to them?
My partner usually assits me in getting off.
09/13/2011
Illumin8 Illumin8
We always seem to be in sync with each other, so we haven't had to deal with this, but I'm sure that neither of us would mind.
09/13/2011
cheetahpita cheetahpita
I don't mind at all! Usually I'll pitch in to help out, but there have been times where I was literally too tired to care, and glad that he was willing to take care of it himself
09/13/2011
Sinfully Sinfully
Havent discussed it but Im sure he would want to join in if I started touching myself in front of him. lol.
09/13/2011
The Curious Couple The Curious Couple
I've never talk to my fiancee about this...but I'd think she'd help if I started.
09/13/2011
Rossie Rossie
I'm not going to do anything sexual in front of him, if he's not in the mood, there's plenty of time for that later.
09/13/2011
GravyCakes GravyCakes
my bf doesn't mind. i usually do it while he's playing video games. but if he's right there next to me in bed, then most of the time, it gets him in the mood, whether i meant for it to or not.
09/13/2011
Antipova Antipova
I have to discuss this, like, the first week of a relationship. My current partner was a little hesitant when I first brought it up, but after learning that I still loved it if he held me, and also that I legitimately didn't mind if he wasn't in the mood, he warmed up to it.

I would obviously be cool with my partner masturbating if I wasn't in the mood (sick, or something) but I'd probably at least like him to cum on me.
09/13/2011
AmethystSmoke AmethystSmoke
Quote:
Originally posted by indiglo
We've discussed it and are fine with it. We've even done it. But even when you're not in the mood, it's hard not to get involved when you see your lover enjoying themselves. We will usually join in at least a little to help the other.
We never actually had a discussion but the rest pretty much describes how it is for me and my husband. It's only occurred on a few occasions and each time the one that wasn't in the mood did lend a helping hand. Or two.
09/13/2011
Inwitari Inwitari
He enjoys watching me take care of myself. I'm cool with him taking care of himself if he wants to.
09/14/2011
shySEXXaddict shySEXXaddict
Quote:
Originally posted by wrecklesswords
I know some people would get upset/jealous if their partner decided to "take care of business" when they weren't in the mood. But how does your partner feel if you do that in bed next to them?
I dont care if my partner masturbates in bed next to me...of course i usually end up helping and im sure they wouldnt mind if I did!
09/14/2011
Love Bites Love Bites
We never discussed it before.

If I am in the mood and he is not, I will place his hands on my chest. He will lick my nipples and play with my breasts while I masturbate in order to help me get off. So, I would say he doesn't mind.


He has never touched himself around me unless I asked him to. When we were not together, and we were being intimate over the phone or online, then I'm sure he did. But in bed together, he hasn't done it. So, if he is in the mood and I'm not, then I will masturbate him. If he chose to touch himself, I wouldn't mind at all.

We are comfortable together, and I think that proves it.
09/14/2011
CPTInsanity CPTInsanity
I wouldn't mind if my wife quit her job just so she could get herself off all day. It makes my day whenever I get to see her playing around like that. She doesn't mind if I do it next to her while she sleeps as long as I don't wake her up, but she will rarely ever join in if I do wake her up. We have been married 9 years and she works pretty long hours, so I don't blame her too much. But during the weekends I make sure that we stay busy.
09/14/2011
P'Gell P'Gell
We usually help each other out, even if we're not in the mood. But, sometimes your partner or you are just too tired, too burned out, whatever. Either of us are happy to say, "I really need to get off quickly. Do you mind if I....?" The answer is always "Knock yourself out." Sometimes, though, the other gets so turned on by the action that he or she joins in. Either way, it's all good.
09/14/2011
DaddyG DaddyG
Seems like i am with the majority of people here, She does not really mind if i take care of things myself. She normaly enjoys watching. there are times when she will lend a hand and help out.
09/14/2011
Beaners Beaners
My boyfriend is ALWAYS up for some kind of play, lol! When I'm not in the mood I don't mind if he gets off in bed next to me no think there's only been a handful of times this has happened though. And usually I'll pitch in a helping hand.
09/14/2011
Sunshineamine Sunshineamine
I have and he doesn't care, he's actually usually sleeping. My sex drive is higher than his, he gets that.
09/14/2011
Yaoi Pervette (deleted) Yaoi Pervette (deleted)
I have done it before, and he didn't mind.
09/14/2011
wrecklesswords wrecklesswords
Quote:
Originally posted by Sunshineamine
I have and he doesn't care, he's actually usually sleeping. My sex drive is higher than his, he gets that.
The same with me. My sex drive is way higher than hers and she understands that sometimes I just need to have it and can't wait for her to be in the mood.
09/14/2011
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I've done this - but she's asleep and doesn't know it. She has to get up so early that it just wouldn't be good to wake her up.
09/14/2011
married with children married with children
I do not think she would mind, but then I have never tired it.
09/16/2011
CreamySweet CreamySweet
Quote:
Originally posted by wrecklesswords
I know some people would get upset/jealous if their partner decided to "take care of business" when they weren't in the mood. But how does your partner feel if you do that in bed next to them?
We do it all the time. Sometimes if I start he will watch or sometimes it will get him started - or he will and it will have the same effect on me. I don't mind watching if I'm not to tired and I will almost always roll over to watch the pop shot or if I'm feeling extra generous I will roll my bare butt towards him and let him finish by cumming on my ass - he just has to wipe it up.
09/16/2011
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Unique posters: 59