Have you ever faked Orgasming? How do you feel about it?

PonyPlay PonyPlay
So have you or do you fake orgasming during sex? And do you think it's healthy?

WARNING: READ THIS BEFORE YOU CHOOSE!

(Healthy) = You think it is good for you relationship
(Unhealthy) = You think it hurts you relationship
(NA) = I think it doesn't matter either way

Check which one you do and how you feel about it, healthy, Unhealthy, or NA
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
I fake orgasming all the time (Healthy)
1  (1%)
I fake orgasming sometimes (Healthy)
5  (5%)
I have faked orgasming but only a few times (Healthy)
18  (20%)
I have never faked orgasming (Healthy)
20  (22%)
I fake orgasming all the time (Unhealthy)
1  (1%)
I fake orgasming sometimes (Unhealthy)
1  (1%)
I have faked orgasming but only a few times (Unhealthy)
14  (15%)
I have never faked orgasming (Unhealthy)
5  (5%)
I fake orgasming all the time (NA)
2  (2%)
I fake orgasming sometimes (NA)
4  (4%)
I have faked orgasming but only a few times (NA)
7  (8%)
I have never faked orgasming (NA)
7  (8%)
It's complicated let me explain...
7  (8%)
Total votes: 92
Poll is closed
08/03/2010
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Illusional Illusional
When I was younger and didn't quite understand what sex is about, I faked a moan and orgasm due to my "knowledge" from porn and romance novels, however..I didn't after that particular one, cause when I told him.. it hurt him and I realized how insulted I'd be if it was done to me.
08/03/2010
PonyPlay PonyPlay
My man made me promise not to fake it before we even had sex so I had really no chance to. I'm glad though it made me feel really happy to know that he wanted me to feel good. Plus it's really easy for me to now so it's not a problem.
08/03/2010
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Guys don't fake orgasms much - at least it's very-very rare for me. But yes if I'm just not going to be able to get-off, I will fake it.
08/03/2010
oohlookasquirrel oohlookasquirrel
When I was younger, sometimes I acted like I was enjoying myself more than I was because I didn't know any better. If my partner had asked me if I had an orgasm, I probably would have said no but then assured him that I had fun anyway. But I'm sure I left my partners with the impression that I came when I didn't on a couple occasions.

I want to be honest with my partners in bed, and I expect the same from them. They know I don't get off every time and that it usually has more to do with me than them, and we've moved beyond the point of feeling inadequate if it doesn't happen. I'm sure my boyfriend would be bummed out if we had sex for an hour and I still didn't get off, but I would explain to him why it was that I had a hard time and he understands.
08/03/2010
Alicia Alicia
I have *tried* to fake orgasming (kind of) a few times with my husband. It sounds horrible but let me explain... There are times that my mind is going too fast, I'm distracted because of worries or because the kids are awake and we've snuck off to our room, or whatever the stress might be at the time. When my mind gets like that it's hard for me to submit to orgasm. So, there have been times that I've attempted to fake it, and by that I don't mean I was faking pleasure, just that I was faking the release...it's complicated to explain..I guess the better word is that I exaggerated, not faked. And I did it when he was doing things that *should* have worked and almost were, but that I was just too tense for it to really do the trick.

Thing is my husband can tell when it's a real orgasm for me. So the times that I "exaggerated" he just kept going and eventually I had a real one. So, now what I do is I just am honest. If it's taking a while and I'm distracted I tell him and he'll help me to relax and get the distractions off my mind. If I am really having trouble relaxing he gets out the passion bullets...he knows just the right settings to use on those to make me squirm!

In general I think faking an orgasm is bad. If you fake an orgasm you're just making the other person think that what they were doing was working. So, if it's not you're just setting yourself up for worse sex because they're going to keep doing what they think worked.
08/03/2010
PassionQT PassionQT
Only a couple times! Once when I was much younger and hadn't figured out how to use toys during sex yet. I just wanted to see what his reaction would be and he looked pleased with himself.

I guess if you don't mind not cumming and he thinks you are, even if you are just moaning from the pleasure and he doesn't know the difference from a real orgasm and that, I say just be quiet about it. But at some point, you are possibly going to feel unsatisfied, like I did, so it's better to talk about it and figure out how to make it happen.
08/03/2010
Chilipepper Chilipepper
Why bother faking? He'll try harder to get the Magic Reaction when you stay honest.
08/03/2010
usmcwife99 usmcwife99
Why fake it, I see no point.
08/03/2010
Naughty Student Naughty Student
I did it once with an ex but it felt so awkward and I felt really bad about it and told him I had faked it. I didnt want him to think he was able to make me get off that easy or else he would always expect a miracle. Our relationship didn't last very long.
08/03/2010
Coralbell Coralbell
I haven't actually faked an orgasm, but I have pretended to enjoy things more than I did.
08/04/2010
Midway through Midway through
I've never faked it. If the sex is so bad that I can't get off (which is crazy, I get off SO easy) then it's time to leave.
08/04/2010
~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
Oh shit, I should have chose "Let me explain". I have faked orgasms, but often not on purpose. Let me explain lol.

Sometimes if I am having a hard time, I will start to overplay my pleasure on purpose because it often gives me that little extra that i need to finish. But sometimes it doesn't work, so in essence...faked. The pleasure is real, the finish is not. Does that even make sense? This used to occur a lot more than it does now. I can't remember the last time it happened.

It is unhealthy if you lie about it though.
08/04/2010
Alicia Alicia
Quote:
Originally posted by ~LaUr3n~
Oh shit, I should have chose "Let me explain". I have faked orgasms, but often not on purpose. Let me explain lol.

Sometimes if I am having a hard time, I will start to overplay my pleasure on purpose because it often gives me that ... More
Yep, this is basically what I have done. I won't fake pleasure but I have in the past over exaggerated how good it was therefore sometimes it's "faked" an orgasm.
08/04/2010
twistedheartsx twistedheartsx
I have never, ever faked an orgasm. If I'm rubbing up on him or I'm just not in the mood (anxiety meds are killer!) I will moan and whatnot a little bit, but never fake an orgasm. Sex isn't about the orgasm, I guess unless that's the reason you're having sex.
08/04/2010
Pleasure Piratess Pleasure Piratess
Well, I am lucky in that I rarely have to worry about it, but on the occasions that I am unable to climax, I would say that 70% of the time I'm just admit it, 30% I have faked. The times that I have faked it were the occasions when he was trying to hard to please me and I realize that for some reason or another (prolly stress) its just not going to happen.
08/04/2010
Carrie Ann Carrie Ann
I'm not going to lie. I have. I probably will again.

It's not something I've done often. I usually don't need to, since even when I'm not in the mood for sex, I eventually get there and get off. But, you know, sometimes it's just not going to happen and while we're both normally okay with that, understanding it's normal and whatnot, I also think that, as long as I'm okay with it, it's not hurting anyone if I make him feel a bit better about things.

My opinion is totally different if you're NEVER actually having an orgasm and faking it. That sets you up for letting him (or her) think they're doing a good job, doing it all right, when they may not be. It sets you up to never get any improvement.

But when 99.9% of the time things are perfect, a little fudging .1% of the time isn't hurting anyone.

And hell, sometimes, while the sex is great, I'm just not going to get off and just want to go to sleep! I'd much rather fudge than hurt his feelings or have him feel like he needs to work harder to have it happen, keeping me awake. Of course, I'm also just as likely to say "go ahead and finish, Honey. It feels great but my body is just not co-operating today".
08/04/2010
oohlookasquirrel oohlookasquirrel
Quote:
Originally posted by ~LaUr3n~
Oh shit, I should have chose "Let me explain". I have faked orgasms, but often not on purpose. Let me explain lol.

Sometimes if I am having a hard time, I will start to overplay my pleasure on purpose because it often gives me that ... More
I know the feeling. Sometimes I'm not that enthusiastic about what's going on, but after a minute or two of exaggerating my enjoyment, I find myself focusing on how GOOD it is instead of how bored I am and soon I really am having a good time.
08/04/2010
Envy Envy
I have never faked. I don't see the point in doing so, then again, I've only had sex one time and we stopped due to the pain i was in. Now that I have toys and know my body way better, I don't have to fake.
08/04/2010
NymphetamineKiss NymphetamineKiss
I have. There are times when I have known the guy wouldnt stop till I'd had one (or several - sigh) and some times it's just not happening... So yeah. On occasion I have. I don't think it's especially healthy or unhealthy. I mean, in an ideal world we'd never have to as we'd all be orgasming all the time from phenomenal sex, but the real world sadly doesnt always work that way... and sometimes a dented ego wouldnt fix the problem...
08/04/2010
NuMe NuMe
Quote:
Originally posted by Carrie Ann
I'm not going to lie. I have. I probably will again.

It's not something I've done often. I usually don't need to, since even when I'm not in the mood for sex, I eventually get there and get off. But, you know, sometimes ... More
LOL! My thoughts exactly.
08/04/2010
Annemarie Annemarie
Yeah, I fake sometimes if I'm pretty sure it's just not going to happen.

Hell, I think I've even accidentally faked during masturbation just because I wanted to get it over with already!
08/04/2010
fatesrelease fatesrelease
I have NEVER faked an orgasm. Whats the point really? I mean sex is supposed to feel good...if I'm not into it then I will straight up tell who I'm with that they just aren't doing it for me. I know that may sound harsh but why tell them it feels good. They will get the impression they are doing it right and keep doing it that way. Then it will never feel good! If I'm upfront and honest about it my partner can usually fix it so it feels good again. Way better for both of us!
08/04/2010
Rockin' Rockin'
Never have. I hope I never will. I couldn't stand doing that to my boy.

The only fake orgasms I have are completely outside of sexual situations. Like when I see a really delicious looking cake, I might jack off my imaginary cock to get a laugh out of my partner.
08/04/2010
Rossie Rossie
I don't fake orgasms. If I'm not satisfied during a love-making session, I'll jokingly remind my hubby that he owes me.
08/04/2010
Pleasure Piratess Pleasure Piratess
Quote:
Originally posted by Annemarie
Yeah, I fake sometimes if I'm pretty sure it's just not going to happen.

Hell, I think I've even accidentally faked during masturbation just because I wanted to get it over with already!
Thanks for the laugh... thats awesome!!
08/04/2010
Carrie Ann Carrie Ann
Quote:
Originally posted by NuMe
LOL! My thoughts exactly.
I had a feeling you'd get it. Heh.
08/05/2010
Sera Sera
Quote:
Originally posted by PonyPlay
So have you or do you fake orgasming during sex? And do you think it's healthy?

WARNING: READ THIS BEFORE YOU CHOOSE!

(Healthy) = You think it is good for you relationship
(Unhealthy) = You think it hurts you relationship
(NA) ... More
Yes, I have. Especially when I just wanted to please him...and I wasnt in the mood.
08/05/2010
deltalima deltalima
I did it a couple of times in my last relationship. It just seems like sometimes, your partner needs a bit of their ego stroked and this is one way.
08/05/2010
El-Jaro El-Jaro
I've faked it before too. Just once.

It would've been like the 2nd or 3rd time that day and I didn't initiate it. I was just tired and wanted to sleep. We were using a condom, so it was easier to...um..."pull off".

That was a while ago though and I've haven't had to resort to that in years.
08/05/2010
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