How do you feel (Man/Woman) about Hard sex words?

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How do you feel (Man/Woman) about Hard sex words?

Moein Moein
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I just want to find out how do you feel about these (Hard sex words):
Asshole, Bitch, Whore, Slut, Jerk, Nasty
that some couples may use during some Sex sessions.

I and my wife feel that any of these words is an Insult, where/when/how ever it is used in life. Others may consider it as a Relative words and it could be insult in one way, but not in other way like in some sex sessions.

Please watch out in your selection, because we don't talk about (acceptance) for these words, but about feelings toward it (Like & Hate).

So, I need your answer for this direct question:

How Do you feel about any of these (Hard sex) words:
Asshole, Bitch, Whore, Slut, Jerk, Nasty
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
I am a Man and, I feel it an Insult in any way I use it in life.
Moein , Yoda , married with children , leatherlover , Howells , The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
6  (11%)
I am a Man and, It depend on where/when/how I use it with my partner.
JE011 , Mr.RightNow , angel142stx , newfoundlust , Sir , gehuwd , jeangel246
7  (13%)
I am a Man and, I never feel it as Insult in any way I use them in life.
I am a Woman and, I feel it an Insult in any way it used with me in life.
PiratePrincess , Kaltir , potstickers , darthkitt3n , BeautiFullFigured , ~LaUr3n~ , magicmac , Naughty Student , Eliza , nicky51679 , AOutrajus , SexyStuff , Bignuf , Eva Schwaltz
14  (25%)
I am a Woman and, It depend on where/when/how my partner use it with me.
pinkcupcakes , Sammi , DeliciousSurprise , Ajax , Pleasure Piratess , pinkzombie , Coralbell , Shellz31 , Angel deSanguine , toxie m , Morganna , Alyxx , Brandi Rouxxx , MaryExy , happily.his , ZenaidaMacroura , kittychilla , Miss Nessa , Taylor , sarki , Kkay , TameTemptress
22  (40%)
I am a Woman and, I never feel it as Insult in any way it used with me in life.
sweet seduction , LavenderSkies , Linga , Airen Wolf , CreamySweet
5  (9%)
I have no idea what are you talking about.
jg19
1  (2%)
Total votes: 55
Poll is closed
02/18/2011
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Kaltir Kaltir
I'm not ok with my partner ever calling me any names, or talking down to me, unless we're both very obviously joking, and just harassing one another.
02/18/2011
married with children married with children
I would never call my wife a name.
02/18/2011
sweet seduction sweet seduction
I don't find it insulting at all.
02/18/2011
Moein Moein
Quote:
Originally posted by sweet seduction
I don't find it insulting at all.
Ok it is a unique answer,

So what do you consider these words? A praise for example?
02/19/2011
LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
I like being insulted *in the bedroom*. I find degredation arousing.
IE; dirty fucking slut.
02/19/2011
Linga Linga
I love dirty words and being called names and I never feel insulted when Daddy uses them.
02/19/2011
P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by Moein
Ok it is a unique answer,

So what do you consider these words? A praise for example?
Sweet Seduction's response is NOT "unique" at all. It's quite common and normal for many people. You read the answers to your other thread, which was identical to this one right?
02/19/2011
Ajax Ajax
I don't *usually* find them insulting. If he calls me a bitch in the bedroom, it's because that talk turns him on. If he calls me a bitch outside of the bedroom...I'm probably being a bitch. Same with all the rest of it. Sometimes we say it just to say it. I know he'd never really mean to hurt me and vise versa, even when were angry at each other so we don't take things too personally around here. In the end Im still gonna love him no matter what.
02/19/2011
Moein Moein
Quote:
Originally posted by Ajax
I don't *usually* find them insulting. If he calls me a bitch in the bedroom, it's because that talk turns him on. If he calls me a bitch outside of the bedroom...I'm probably being a bitch. Same with all the rest of it. Sometimes we say ...
But don't you afraid that by time he may use it out side the bed room?

May be he will feels that you are happy to be called by any of these words, so why would he doesn't mind use it out even in front of other people?
02/19/2011
mama2007 mama2007
Quote:
Originally posted by Moein
This thread is related to
this one

I just want to find out how do you feel about these (Hard sex words):
Asshole, Bitch, Whore, Slut, Jerk, Nasty
that some couples may use during some Sex sessions.

I and my wife feel that any ...
its got nothing to do with sex but my husband when hes mad will say bitch or slut. its like grow up seriously cuz i HAVE NEVER had sex but with ONE person in my life = my husband only so how on earth am i a slut? lol i ignore it
02/19/2011
mama2007 mama2007
Quote:
Originally posted by Ajax
I don't *usually* find them insulting. If he calls me a bitch in the bedroom, it's because that talk turns him on. If he calls me a bitch outside of the bedroom...I'm probably being a bitch. Same with all the rest of it. Sometimes we say ...
lol agreed bout outside bedroom. i ignore it though.
02/19/2011
pinkzombie pinkzombie
Quote:
Originally posted by Moein
This thread is related to
this one

I just want to find out how do you feel about these (Hard sex words):
Asshole, Bitch, Whore, Slut, Jerk, Nasty
that some couples may use during some Sex sessions.

I and my wife feel that any ...
"Dirty little slut" is ok to me when were having dirty king sex But "asshole" as in calling me one would be weird. We have sweer loving sex and dirty kinky sex and many more types but the vocab goes with the scene.
02/19/2011
Shellz31 Shellz31
My Master always calls me a filthy whore or slut but it's done in a Dom/sub way and I know it's never to insult me. He won't use those words in a bad way if he is annoyed with me. In fact he won't use any words when he is annoyed - he goes quiet...hehe.

I wouldn't mind if he called me bitch but he NEVER uses that word .... never heard him call anyone or thing a bitch before.

Not sure if asshole or jerk would float my boat.
Nasty would be cute but Master would never call me that either!
02/19/2011
magicmac magicmac
Personally, I find those words insulting no matter what context they're used in. But that's just me.
02/19/2011
Naughty Student Naughty Student
We do not use any of those words except for bitch. French Canadiens (which me and my partner are) use it a lot and although it has the same meaning as in english, it is not as "heavy" as when it is said in english.

So my guy calls me a bitch, to tease me. It is funny more than anything bcs he doesn't say it the way it is meant to be said or with the meaning it usually takes. He usually says "aw...you're just a bitch" and by that he means "aw....stop complaining".

So my vote has this sort of weird exception.
02/19/2011
Eliza Eliza
I would not be okay being called any of those names, regardless of the intentions of my partner.
02/19/2011
Moein Moein
Quote:
Originally posted by mama2007
its got nothing to do with sex but my husband when hes mad will say bitch or slut. its like grow up seriously cuz i HAVE NEVER had sex but with ONE person in my life = my husband only so how on earth am i a slut? lol i ignore it
Ok this is a clear one

Bad sex words have nothings to do with sex, I also feel that.. even in hard or rough sex sessions.

My wife keep wondering how this words may turn on the passion!!

Sex is not only a physical action.. No way to describe it like that.
It is a combination between passion and body..

If passion was killed by these bad words, then Sex will just like any other machine movement.
02/20/2011
IrishLassie IrishLassie
Quote:
Originally posted by Moein
Ok this is a clear one

Bad sex words have nothings to do with sex, I also feel that.. even in hard or rough sex sessions.

My wife keep wondering how this words may turn on the passion!!

Sex is not only a physical action.. No way ...
For some people it adds to the thrill and excitement while engaging in scene play. For some people it makes them feel more dominated (which there people into that and there is nothing wrong with that). There are people who are repulsed it (again there is nothing wrong with that). Everyone has different tastes in the bedroom, and that's a great thing. It allow for intimacy and creativity.

For anything that happens in the bedroom, what happens between two people must be mutal in order for it to be pleasurable. For you and others that kind of talk is a turn off. That is your thoughts and that's perfectly ok. However there are other that love it or even get off on it. And that TOO is ok. To those people it doesn't kill the sex or intimacy but adds to it. The beauty of sex is that what one person likes may not be the same thing someone else may like. That's awesome that we all get to explore our sexuality, sex, and intimacy with our partners in ways that are pleasing only to our partners. Because I'm all for pleasing my husband and my husband alone. So I'm. Going to do things that will please him.I am here for his pleasure and vise versa. When my husband is satisfied, But makes me happy and want to find new ways to satisfy him and vise versa.
02/21/2011
Mr.RightNow Mr.RightNow
depends
02/21/2011
P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by Moein
But don't you afraid that by time he may use it out side the bed room?

May be he will feels that you are happy to be called by any of these words, so why would he doesn't mind use it out even in front of other people?
No. My Man doesn't "use these words outside the bedroom" in situations which are not sexual, because he has an awareness of social proprietry and knows the difference between what is appropriate between two consenting adults, in the privacy of their own bedroom, and the same two people, fully dressed, out in public, among other people while NOT having sex.

People do a lot of things inside the bedroom they would never slip up and "not mind" doing in front of other people.

Does anyone slip up and "doesn't mind" and start giving their partner oral sex in a restaurant or at the mall? Simply because it is "allowed" in the bedroom? Not usually. Most people know the difference between what is appropriate and agreed upon in the bedroom and what is appropriate in front of others.

Dirty Talk is no different.

Some people don't like it. It's hard to understand other people's kinks if you don't share them, but it isn't difficult to respect those kinks in others.
02/21/2011
Moein Moein
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
No. My Man doesn't "use these words outside the bedroom" in situations which are not sexual, because he has an awareness of social proprietry and knows the difference between what is appropriate between two consenting adults, in the ...
Ok P'Gell
Thanks to keep talking ...

Also, I will use your term "Dirty Talk" instead of "Hard sex words"

I have to say that I don't make any judgement about others actions. No, that not right.
I just go deeper inside the feelings and mental work about some thing I have a right to call it (Weired sex Action). Also, I need a logical and simple mental explination for using this (Dirty talk) during the most wonderfull moment for any couple..

According to what you just said:
You are with me that these "Dirty Talks" have 2 faces for your self. It is allowed by you in a bed room but not allowed -by you- out side in front of people. Based on that I am sure you will be very angry and upset if your husband may call you by any of these words in front of people. You -and any other one- will consider it as an (INSULT) 100%. Why?
Because these words has its own nature of (Filthy).. and have no nature of (Purity). And you P'Gell just called them (DIRTY)..

For that simple reason, I have to jump to a Conclusion, a very important one for married couple:

By using (Dirty Talk) in sex session, two opposite meanings (Purity & Dirty) mixed together in one moment for one word.

Is this statement logically right?
02/21/2011
Morganna Morganna
Only in the bed room when we're getting hot and heavy. And he only calls me 'bitch' or something outside the bedroom ONLY when we're joking around. He's never called me anything like that while being serious and trying to be hurtful.

Some may find it odd that I enjoy the man I love calling me names like that in the bedroom but it's just all in fun and pleasure. There's no meaning behind them other than to make me feel dirty(which I like). I know he respects me & I respect him and I know we both are in love with one another - I think that's why this works for us.
02/21/2011
Alyxx Alyxx
Unless said in a fight or something, I wouldn't take these as much of an insult. Hell, I tend to take "Bitch" as a bit of a compliment most of the time.
02/25/2011
P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by Moein
Ok P'Gell
Thanks to keep talking ...

Also, I will use your term "Dirty Talk" instead of "Hard sex words"

I have to say that I don't make any judgement about others actions. No, that not right.
I just go ...
I know it's hard to explain. You said: According to what you just said:
You are with me that these "Dirty Talks" have 2 faces for your self. It is allowed by you in a bed room but not allowed -by you- out side in front of people. Based on that I am sure you will be very angry and upset if your husband may call you by any of these words in front of people. You -and any other one- will consider it as an (INSULT) 100%. Why?


OK, My Man and I joke around LOT! He can, jokingly call me "Bitch" or other things, as a joke. I don't "get very angry and upset" if he called me these words in front of other people, kidding around, as we have an understanding. He doesn't use these words IN A MEAN OR ANGRY WAY, either while we are alone or in front of other people. I don't know how I would respond if he did call me words like this "IN ANGER" but he doesn't do it. We try to stay calm with each other. I am not a woman to get angry at My Man for little things. He also would NEVER use words like "Bitch" "Slut" or things like that in a social setting without humor. And only around people we know it's funny. Not around people like our inlaws or people we don't know well or at a restaurant etc.

Likewise, jokingly, I sometimes call him a "Prick" or an "Asshole" without any anger in it, outside the bedroom, but not around people who would find it offensive, for the most part.

The "Purity & Dirty" mixed is kind of close to the truth. Sometimes things that are known to be "nasty" but fun (like say, anal sex) are MORE fun simply because they are socially "unacceptable" in most places. "Dirty Talk" is exciting for many people because it is forbidden!!!! That's part of the fun. He'd never say things like this to me, unless we were completely sexually aroused or joking around. It's part of the whole thing. "This word is 'forbidden' it makes it more exciting." The same thing for activities like anal sex (at least in part, anal also feels amazing) part, (but not all) of the appeal is the social stigma against such things. My husband and I are into breaking social boundaries,(it's a big part of a lot of people's Kink Lifestyle) whether in the bedroom or other places. But, we still maintain a modicum of propriety (appropriate behavior) when in public or around people we only know causally.

He would no more use "Bedroom talk" or "Dirty Talk" or "Kinky Talk" out in public, than he would take out his penis and expect some action.
02/26/2011
newfoundlust newfoundlust
Quote:
Originally posted by Moein
This thread is related to
this one

I just want to find out how do you feel about these (Hard sex words):
Asshole, Bitch, Whore, Slut, Jerk, Nasty
that some couples may use during some Sex sessions.

I and my wife feel that any ...
Strictly in playtime, some of these might be okay depending on the context...for instance, I may tell my wife as we make love that she is such a nasty girl as she does something, but it is with love and as a form of play.
06/02/2011
SexyLilPixi SexyLilPixi
Words like this in the bedroom can be a lot of fun as long you both know and agree that it's play. Some I'll never accept, even in the bedroom, but outside of the bedroom, if a man plans on throwing any of those names at me, he better be lying in his casket ready to go underground. I never forget insults like that either, so the person better be prepared to be paying for life.
06/03/2011
AOutrajus AOutrajus
i hate these words. i don't swear in general and i hate hearing these kind of words at any time. but my husband does and if he says anything like that during sex it totally turns me off.
06/03/2011
CPTInsanity CPTInsanity
I don't get too harsh with the dirty talk with my wife, but before we met, my girlfriend and I used that kind of language a lot. It doesn't bother me to use that kind of language, but I wouldn't disrespect my very conservative wife with that language.
06/03/2011
Miss Nessa Miss Nessa
I dont mind, because i know it isnt coming from a bad place.
06/08/2011
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