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shySEXXaddict shySEXXaddict
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My son is very open with me...sometimes alil to open.Im happy he confides in me, and trusts me but some of the stuff he asks or comes out with makes me feel akward and not knowing how to answer him! For example he told me the otherday that his friend had a pocket pussy and asked if I was his mother if I would be upset if I found it..I answered well if hes having sex then I guess it safer than the real thing...not realizing he was sneakily asking for permission to have one!I about had a heartattack...thats just not something you ask or discuss with your mother!~So my question is to the parents of teenage boys do you have an open relationship with them where they can tell you anything?And do you think by me having an open one with my son if its a good thing?I will state even though he is open as I am his friend he knows aswell that I am his mother and there is consequences to hisw actions.
01/16/2012
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Ansley Ansley
I disagree that it isn't something he should be talking to his mother about---you're exactly whom he should be speaking to these things about.

I don't see anything wrong with teenagers having toys and I don't see anything wrong with them asking their parents's permission to obtain one.

Why, yes...yes I am extremely liberal.
01/16/2012
Gracie Gracie
I have 2 sons. One is very open and the other is more private. Yes there have been times when I have been surprised by our conversations. And there have been times I refered them to their dad, but even if it is embarassing, I am greatful we can disscuss their questions and thoughts. The way I think of it is I would rather they hear these things from us rather than the internet or friends, where information is not always accurate!
01/16/2012
SexyStuff SexyStuff
I think it is awesome that your son is open with you, but I understand that could be pretty awkward too!
01/16/2012
indiglo indiglo
I don't have teenage boys, but I think it's a wonderful sign that he is that open and comfortable talking to you. That should be encouraged and cultivated! Even if it makes you feel a little awkward, try to hide that and just discuss with him - that's really important and a really good thing!
01/16/2012
shySEXXaddict shySEXXaddict
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Originally posted by Ansley
I disagree that it isn't something he should be talking to his mother about---you're exactly whom he should be speaking to these things about.

I don't see anything wrong with teenagers having toys and I don't see anything ... More
i agree to a point stormy as i mentioned he is very open with me and most of the time i am happy he is.i am also very liberal and thats why i answered it the way i did..its safe atleast..i guess i forgot to mention that he asked ME to buy one for him if i allowed it!thats y i almost had a heartattack..would you of asked your parent to buy you a sex toy?
01/16/2012
shySEXXaddict shySEXXaddict
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Originally posted by indiglo
I don't have teenage boys, but I think it's a wonderful sign that he is that open and comfortable talking to you. That should be encouraged and cultivated! Even if it makes you feel a little awkward, try to hide that and just discuss with ... More
definitely..especially since he also came home the other day asking questions about weed .i told him i wouldnt be mad at him for trying it but i would be very disappointed in him for making that choice..which led him to talk about a weed called mr. haapy?the kids are smoking.he didnt know what it was so i asked around and it is weed laced w fermaldihide.I am so happy he told me about that because what if he did try it and it was that stuff...i made sure to tell him,and for now hes afraid to try weed.thank god!
01/16/2012
Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by shySEXXaddict
i agree to a point stormy as i mentioned he is very open with me and most of the time i am happy he is.i am also very liberal and thats why i answered it the way i did..its safe atleast..i guess i forgot to mention that he asked ME to buy one for him ... More
Would I have asked my mother to buy me a sex toy? Absolutely not. She's the most prudish, uptight woman on the planet. She didn't talk to me about sex until AFTER she found out I was pregnant. But, man if I had known that I could have asked her, I would have. If I felt like I could have asked my sister, I would have. If I felt like I could have asked ANY trusted adult, I would have.

At fourteen, nothing would have made me happier than to have a vibrator or something to deal with the seemingly endless sex-drive I was confronted with. I was a hyper-sexed teenager. If it breathed, I wanted to know what it felt like to receive pleasure from it. (Clearly, I mean humans.) And I paid dearly because of it. I don't want anyone to go through the shit that I did from the age of 14 until I was 28.

And I'm sorry, I wasn't trying to chastise you or make you feel guilty for having the reaction you did. I was just kind of shocked that one level of was okay with you, but not another.

Just out of curiosity, what was your final answer?
01/17/2012
PeachCandy PeachCandy
I too am very open with my teenage boy. We've had several talks about sex and the consequences of having sex. I would be open to buying condoms and that type of thing for him (when the time is right of course) but I'm not sure how I would feel if he asked for a pocket pussy. I think that's a bit much
09/13/2012
Trysexual Trysexual
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Originally posted by shySEXXaddict
i agree to a point stormy as i mentioned he is very open with me and most of the time i am happy he is.i am also very liberal and thats why i answered it the way i did..its safe atleast..i guess i forgot to mention that he asked ME to buy one for him ... More
I wouldn't have asked my mom to buy one, but I did ask her to buy me some sexy underwear when I was younger, which feels weird to think about it now some, but I think it's great if you can be that open with your parents/kids. Better than them sneaking off and getting into some sort of trouble or having unwanted pregnancy or unsafe sex.
09/13/2012
naturegirl naturegirl
Like gracie above, I have 2 sons, when they were still living at home it always amused me how different they were when it came to intimate conversations. The elder one is very private, but was the one who had lots of girlfriends, he rarely came to me or his dad to chat. The younger one is perhaps more private in some sense and he is "saving himself" for the right girl, but he would come into the bedroom or bathroom when I was in the bath and have the most intimate chats with me! He was very open about sex and mastubation....it quite astounded me,
09/13/2012
Istanbull Istanbull
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Originally posted by Ansley
I disagree that it isn't something he should be talking to his mother about---you're exactly whom he should be speaking to these things about.

I don't see anything wrong with teenagers having toys and I don't see anything ... More
100% agree.

And just because one holds your beliefs does not mean they have to be a liberal. I share your view on this because I am a devout Pagan. Sexual suppression is against my beliefs and teens need to be taught not that sex is bad or is something they are nto to do, but how to do it proper and safe and responsible.

Let's face it reality. Driving a car isn't inherently bad, and you don't teach a teen to avoid driving. Driving a car irresposibly is dangerous and that's why we don't make our children wait till they have a license to teach them how to drive. Sex is the same way. You don't just hand your teen over the proverbial keys only to leave them figure it out on their own and then wonder how they got pregnant or an STD. Premarital sex doesn't cause disease or baby's, blind ignorance does.
09/14/2012
Zandrock Zandrock
When I am a parent I want to be very open. Sexuality happens before turning 18 for 99% of people. That needs to be expressed properly or you get pregnancies that are unplanned, STIs, or emotional problems. As a parent I want to be there for them.
09/14/2012
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