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bleedingthoughtsofyou bleedingthoughtsofyou
how did your sex life change after you got married? or did it?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
have less sex in general
21  (21%)
have more sex in general
43  (44%)
about the same.
22  (22%)
had to spice it up
2  (2%)
have none now
1  (1%)
always great.
7  (7%)
other
2  (2%)
Total votes: 98
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09/14/2010
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sexysweetieshan sexysweetieshan
We have more sex now after marriage (especially PIV sex), because we did not HAVE regular sex until marriage.
09/14/2010
Waterfall Waterfall
I'm not married, but I have always wondered about this. People and professors have always given me different research studies so I never get a straight answer lol
09/14/2010
Apinkjellybean04 Apinkjellybean04
just because we are married it didnt change our sexual intercourse. still the same. sometimes there are more if we are trying for babies.
09/14/2010
Alan & Michele Alan & Michele
Marriage didn't change our sex life any, but being together for a long time has. Lots more sex and lots more variety now.
09/14/2010
Sammi Sammi
Our sex life has changed and evolved over the years. It wasn't marriage that changed it per se, but like Alan & Michele said, being together for a long time. It is a lot more now than it was then
09/14/2010
NightNight NightNight
I can't really answer this because we've been apart for the vast majority of our short marriage.... I think it's better even though it happens a lot less frequently since we've matured sexually a lot.
09/14/2010
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Like Alan and Michele our sex life was always pretty hot and heavy even as teenagers but it's more varied and much more intense!
09/14/2010
Selective Sensualist Selective Sensualist
We've been married for 14.5 years and I think our sex life has only become more active over the years. We are definitely more open to trying new things, too.
09/14/2010
buzzvibe buzzvibe
It has really fluctuated over the course of our marriage. Things like illnesses, travel, and kids have slowed down our shagging for periods of time, but I'd say at the moment we're pretty close to the frequency we enjoyed before getting married.
09/15/2010
Alicia Alicia
Well, we always had a child in our relationship as when we started dating my daughter was about a month old. I moved in with him two months later so figure we were in that honeymoon stage of the relationship but with a three month old.

So, we at that point had sex maybe 3-4 times a week? Throughout our relationship..which includes getting married two years after that we've gone from times that we've had it just about every night, to times that it's been about twice a week, times it's been once a week, pregnancies where towards the end it was uncomfortable and only a quickie once every few weeks, to times with screaming babies where it was again only once a week and then now that our youngest is four we're back to anywhere between 2-4 times a week although once a week isn't THAT unusual either. I chose "always great" because regardless of how often it's been our sex life has always been awesome and it's never gotten boring or stale. Ok so third trimester pregnancy sex wasn't that awesome..but besides that!!
09/15/2010
P'Gell P'Gell
We've been married for a long time. I'd say similarly to what Alicia said, it has varied, depending on children, babies, illness, etc. But, in the long run, we have more sex than before we were married, because we are together more. I lived with him part time for about a year or two before we got married (I was still in college for half that) but, we still spent most weekdays in our own places.

I moved in with him full time only a few months before we got married, and of course, being together all the time, the sex increased. I found out I was pregnant the first weekend in our first own house, so we didn't have much of a honeymoon period. We have kids from their 20s down to grammar school age. But, no more babies, so the frequency is pretty high.
09/15/2010
ScottA ScottA
After you've been married a while you get to know each other quite well, so you're not so worried about "putting on a show". You also know what the other likes, so there's less fumbling. Note that if you went into the marriage a virgin there will still be some fumbling and "show", but after a while you stop worrying about it. All in all I like being married quite a bit.
09/15/2010
Brian Brian
I guess I'd have to say "have more sex in general" since we were both virgins
09/15/2010
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
More and better sex - we're talking 21 years of marriage - so there have been ups and downs - pleased to say that the ups far out weigh the downs.
09/15/2010
sexysweetieshan sexysweetieshan
Quote:
Originally posted by Brian
I guess I'd have to say "have more sex in general" since we were both virgins
Us too!
09/16/2010
ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
For us it is about the same. We were together for 14 years before marriage, all that really changed was her last name. Now we might have less sex (kids) but it is sooo much better, plus we now have toy's!
09/16/2010
Jenn (aka kissmykitty) Jenn (aka kissmykitty)
We got married in October 2004, after living together for two years & three months, being sexual with one another four three years and eleven months, and being together for four years and three months. So with that said, even though getting married was a BFD and very exciting for both of us, our sex life didn't suddenly increase or even decrease.

Six years, two kids and two full-time careers later, our sexual activity has definitely decreased a little bit, but the quality of it and our general intimacy and closeness have both increased. <3
09/16/2010
ScottA ScottA
The increased general intimacy does seem to feed back into better sex doesn't it.
09/17/2010
pinkzombie pinkzombie
Quote:
Originally posted by bleedingthoughtsofyou
how did your sex life change after you got married? or did it?
We have sex more often and it is more adventurous. We had a lot of sex before too, but now it seems more fun! Married 3yrs. of the 5 we have been together.
11/20/2010
Hallmar82 Hallmar82
We've been together 10 years and married for 5. It generally goes through peaks and valleys where we have a lot some months and none others. On average, it's about the same as when we were datings - about once or twice a week. Some sessions are very long and romantic, others are relatively quick and intense, so the quality and quantity varies too.
11/20/2010
Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
After nearly 20 years, we have more sex and way better sex than we ever had before. My husband told me when we got together that he was going to tell my father, " I'd like to marry your daughter because we have great sex together" and after all this time we are still having great sex but now it is even better because we know each other so well and we have so much fun together.
11/20/2010
UnknownGirl UnknownGirl
We have the about the same amount of sex, which is probably more than average.
12/26/2010
mrs.mckrakn mrs.mckrakn
hmm well when we were first married wed have sex as often as possible.while dinner was cooking, morning, before bed, when he got home. just about whenever we could. and now, weve been married for almost 3 yrs and we get it on atleast 2 days out of the week.
12/27/2010
Yoda Yoda
Less sex in general, but only because we're so much busier now.
12/30/2010
Vaccinium Vaccinium
I had to vote other. Before we were married, we had sex a couple times a week, but for the first few years after we got married, it dropped to once every 1-2 months. Finally, over the past few years, it has risen back up to about once a week.

The sex has certainly gotten orders of magnitude better over that time span, however.
01/10/2011
Misfit Momma Misfit Momma
We have less, but I think it's more the face that we now have 4 kids than that we are married. (including a toddler who will stay up all night jumping all over me when she senses us wanting to have fun)
01/10/2011
IrishLassie IrishLassie
I have only been married for about 3 years so people still think we are in the newly-wed, but I think our sex life has stayed about the same. Im sure that just like marriage, your/our sex life is going to flucuate over time. I dont like this "once you get married your sex life will go down the drain". Honestly, I LOVE being with my husband, and our intimacy has increased
01/10/2011
Danielle1220 Danielle1220
Quote:
Originally posted by Alicia
Well, we always had a child in our relationship as when we started dating my daughter was about a month old. I moved in with him two months later so figure we were in that honeymoon stage of the relationship but with a three month old.

So, we ...
This....to a T...lol
01/13/2011
Sweet-Justice Sweet-Justice
Its always been great, from the point of our first time till now. Were not technically married by law cause loving a women is wrong apparently *Sarcasm* but we love one another and we live and sometimes fight just like a married couple~
01/13/2011
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