for the married folks.

Contributor: Hot'n'Bothered Hot'n'Bothered
More post marriage, no doubt about it!
01/14/2011
Contributor: *HisMrs* *HisMrs*
We have more sex now that we're married, but we did live an hour & a half away from each other (& saw each other only a couple of times a week) before we were married. Not to mention we both lived with our parents until we got married!
01/14/2011
Contributor: Tidwtrguy Tidwtrguy
The sex actually started to slow down after the engagement but before the marriage. Once married, the sex was definitely slower in comparison and then when the pregnancies and kids came along, the game changed entirely (slowed down/stopped at times). While some may not be fans of it, our sex life is much better now….that we have opened our marriage up. We have put some of the taboos aside, gotten away from the 'spousal' expectations and just enjoy a healthy sex life.
01/14/2011
Contributor: Illumin8 Illumin8
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Originally posted by David88
I guess I'd have to say "have more sex in general" since we were both virgins
Us as well!
09/09/2011
Contributor: bsgs bsgs
we have sex a couple times a week, which is less for us, but i think its due to work, school and kids....we just get too damn tired after everything going on during the week to go like we used to
01/22/2012
Contributor: BlooJay BlooJay
It has stayed the same, but we are more adventurous now.
01/22/2012
Contributor: Modern^Spank^Anthem Modern^Spank^Anthem
sometimes more
01/22/2012
Contributor: jjcougar13 jjcougar13
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Originally posted by BlooJay
It has stayed the same, but we are more adventurous now.
We had a very hot sex life prior to marriage which resulted in her getting pregnant. We'd only known each other about 6mos but "did the right thing" and got married, without , really, knowing each other well. Once the kids came, sex slowed way down and to, mainly, "quickies" at my request. Getting to the point, gradually, I found I married a highly sexual, kinky and "ever-wilder" ; sex partner. It started with sex toys, lingerie, etc., watching porn during sex, ever hotter "dirty talk", initiated by me but she "ran with it". She's a massive exhibitionist and voyeur, starting with leaving curtains open in hotel, sex on hotel balcony, (we lived on a lake) she wears ever more revealing suits, the loves to flash, uses the "oops" to show a boob, sex on boat during the day. Oh, and the voyeurism, we often entertain at home or at a hotel with another couple, or two. While we don't "swing", she always seems to arrange beds, rooms, or whatever, so that we can see and be seen. I think the hottest time was at a waterfront hotel in our city. We rented two rooms on the street side (one for us & kids, one for her parents). This was for a weekend parade, fair, festival, carnival and a huge fireworks finale on Sunday night(we switch the rooms to Lake side on Sunday). The "outer wall" of the rooms is floor to ceiling, wall to wall glass, with a small balcony. The kids went to sleep with inlaws both nights, leaving us to have fun. This time we had a 5th floor room facing the lake, festival and very active foot traffic in and around the hotel, which is less than two blocks from the well lit carnival and steets. We began by just turning off the lights and opening the curtains completey, next we opened the sliding door to balcony and had extensive foreplay standing in the open door. Finally, we went out on the balcony with her leaning over the railing as we had sex. She was really getting hot seeing all the people walking by, imagining they were all seeing us. As she really got hot, she put one leg up on the railing, at one end of the balcony. This fully exposed her breasts and vagina and me inside of her, she was talking dirty and moaning so loud I was worried she might wake up her parents in the next room. Picture one of her parents stepping out on their balcony, less than 8 feet away from us(as described above). Her parents, good Catholics, had 6 children and, in later years, her mother confided she'd never seen her husband naked. Turn off lights, change in bathroom, perform sex, sleep. Imagine the reaction from their balcony, as their youngest daughter was nude, fully engaged in sex, talking dirty and moaning. That never happened, thank goodness but a surprise was in store that nearly got us busted by hotel security. Though we were on the 5th floor, from the balcony, we saw that we were above the top parking garage level, less than 2 stories down. The roof was occupied by a group of about 10 drunk guys on lawn chairs facing the carnival, about 30 feet away and down about 15 feet, well within hearing and seeing distance from our "show". My wife seemed to be trying her best to get the group below to notice us but the guys were too drunk and never looked our way. But, 2 security guards, suddenly emerged from a door right under where we were, she was really getting loud and the sex really going hot & heavy. Exiting the door, within 10 feet of us, had they just glanced up. But they were focused on going out to quiet the guys and ask them to leave, I said we should go in, before they saw us but she said "F*** It!. She got louder and repositioned herself to be even more exposed. As the guards came back, I insisted we go in before they saw us...."No Way, I'll give them a show!" was the response. I had to quickly pull her inside, as the guards, had they looked up, were less than 10 feet directly below us. (Recall description of her parents), I had visions of us having to wake up her parents, with our kids in their room, having to explain our arrest for public indecency, or similar. She was still over the top turned on, so I came up with a solution that brought us both to a rousing, less risky orgasm. I began to tell her a "story" , in which the guards had seen us and came to the room, informing us that the police would be called. My story went on... we both pleaded with them to let us go but they said it was management policy. I had slipped on a tshirt and gym shorts, my wife nude, sitting up in bed with covers pulled up. We noticed both guards sneaking peeks at her, she caught my eye and mouthed, "I'll handle it". She asked the guards how to resolve this, sitting up and "accidentally" , continuing to having the covers slip, exposing her breasts, she pretended not to notice her exposure but the guards were both staring. She asked the supervisor to come sit next to her, she said she couldn't hear him and really wanted to resolve the matter. My story continued.... she ended up removing the covers exposing her nudity, gave the supervisor a blow job and had full sex with the other guard. More fun ensued, with the guards promising to let us off, leaving to answer a radio call. Remember, this last part was, I sensed, her fantasy ending for the night. I told it to her as written here, with her adding "prompts" to bring out more of her fantasy. WHEEW! Never before, or since, has our sex ever beeen nearly as hot. She continues to try to entice me into similarly risky locations for sex, the risk factor really seemed to turn her on. As yet, we haven't tried this again but she's persistent and I'm weakening. Do you help with bail money? LOL Anyway, moral to story is that one never really knows the "Sleeping Tiger" of sexual fantasy their partner may have, just waiting to emerge, so don't settle for lame "marriage" sex. Communicate with each other, discuss fantasies, nurture them, marriage takes work to survive, so too does a sex life. Now divorced, I often wonder.....Where would her fantasies have led us, were we in the internet age. It boggles the mind.
01/22/2012
Contributor: AHubbyof2SexualMinds AHubbyof2SexualMinds
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Originally posted by bleedingthoughtsofyou
how did your sex life change after you got married? or did it?
It ebbs and flows. When we were first married about the same as when we were engaged. Then it started on a rollercoaster for a few years. Now we're in a pretty good groove, but you don't take anything for granted.
01/23/2012
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
Marriage didn't really change anything for us, except for my last name. The frequency of sex ebbs and flows, but the quality has done nothing but get better as the emotional intimacy increases.
01/23/2012
Contributor: averageguyextrodinarypleasure averageguyextrodinarypleasure
I think it increased since getting married. My wife is so awesome
01/23/2012
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
We have our spells, but I don't think it had anything to do with our marriage but the fact that we have kids now and it's harder to be spontanious.
01/23/2012
Contributor: Funtastic Funtastic
About the same, but more kinky.
01/23/2012