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Growing up: Open, or Prudish?
05/02/2012
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Beyond prudish. There was no sex talk. There was no acknowledgement that masturbation existed.
Originally posted by
(k)InkyIvy
Growing up, my family was always very uptight and prudish about sex. Sexuality was taboo, enough so that my mother's "sex talk" for me essentially consisted of "If he can't give you an orgasm, he's not worth sleeping
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Growing up, my family was always very uptight and prudish about sex. Sexuality was taboo, enough so that my mother's "sex talk" for me essentially consisted of "If he can't give you an orgasm, he's not worth sleeping with." And when I asked how you make yourself have an orgasm, I was simply told "Rub until it feels good."
Needless to say, I grew up very confused and uninformed about all things sexual. It was only after I'd graduated from high school and began college that I began really learning about sex, from a friend who was much more open about it all.
Finally, at age 19, I learned what an orgasm felt like and how to give myself one.
So, here's my question:
While you were growing up, was your family open, willing/able to explain things to you so you understood sex and sexuality? Or were they prudish, barely telling you the basics? less
Needless to say, I grew up very confused and uninformed about all things sexual. It was only after I'd graduated from high school and began college that I began really learning about sex, from a friend who was much more open about it all.
Finally, at age 19, I learned what an orgasm felt like and how to give myself one.
So, here's my question:
While you were growing up, was your family open, willing/able to explain things to you so you understood sex and sexuality? Or were they prudish, barely telling you the basics? less
05/08/2012
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My mother divorced when I was 9 and didn't have a bf for another 9 years! So...yeah...I know what you're saying!
Originally posted by
Ansley
I grew up in a home where I never saw my mother with a man. She didn't date, and if she did, she didn't bring them back to the house. I never saw her kiss, hug, or show affection to other human beings that weren't family or close friends
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I grew up in a home where I never saw my mother with a man. She didn't date, and if she did, she didn't bring them back to the house. I never saw her kiss, hug, or show affection to other human beings that weren't family or close friends so it really skewed not only my most basic of social skills but also my outlook on romance.
We didn't talk about sex, didn't watch tv shows or movies that had sexual content or romantic overtones...it was just the thing that didn't exist. So, it probably doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out that once my body started to go haywire with puberty that I was all over that shit like nobody's business.
I wanted to learn it all! I wanted to do it all. Feel it all, experience it and cherish it. And boy did that land me in some serious trouble. less
We didn't talk about sex, didn't watch tv shows or movies that had sexual content or romantic overtones...it was just the thing that didn't exist. So, it probably doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out that once my body started to go haywire with puberty that I was all over that shit like nobody's business.
I wanted to learn it all! I wanted to do it all. Feel it all, experience it and cherish it. And boy did that land me in some serious trouble. less
05/08/2012
Here's my family life.
Last week my mother discussed in front of me, sucking off my stepfather in full detail.
Today she bitches me out on facebook because I shared a pic that cleanly and tastefully showed a man going down on a woman with the text "Breakfast is the most important meal of the day."
Last week my mother discussed in front of me, sucking off my stepfather in full detail.
Today she bitches me out on facebook because I shared a pic that cleanly and tastefully showed a man going down on a woman with the text "Breakfast is the most important meal of the day."
05/09/2012
My parents only ever told me to wait until marriage to have sex. Nothing really beyond that.
05/09/2012
After reading about your sex talk, I realize just how prudish my family was... What she told you would have been VERY, VERY open in my house!
05/19/2012
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My family was extremely prudish. I had to figure everything out for myself. I hope I'm not that way when I'm a parent.
Originally posted by
(k)InkyIvy
Growing up, my family was always very uptight and prudish about sex. Sexuality was taboo, enough so that my mother's "sex talk" for me essentially consisted of "If he can't give you an orgasm, he's not worth sleeping
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Growing up, my family was always very uptight and prudish about sex. Sexuality was taboo, enough so that my mother's "sex talk" for me essentially consisted of "If he can't give you an orgasm, he's not worth sleeping with." And when I asked how you make yourself have an orgasm, I was simply told "Rub until it feels good."
Needless to say, I grew up very confused and uninformed about all things sexual. It was only after I'd graduated from high school and began college that I began really learning about sex, from a friend who was much more open about it all.
Finally, at age 19, I learned what an orgasm felt like and how to give myself one.
So, here's my question:
While you were growing up, was your family open, willing/able to explain things to you so you understood sex and sexuality? Or were they prudish, barely telling you the basics? less
Needless to say, I grew up very confused and uninformed about all things sexual. It was only after I'd graduated from high school and began college that I began really learning about sex, from a friend who was much more open about it all.
Finally, at age 19, I learned what an orgasm felt like and how to give myself one.
So, here's my question:
While you were growing up, was your family open, willing/able to explain things to you so you understood sex and sexuality? Or were they prudish, barely telling you the basics? less
05/26/2012
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Very conservative. Religious. At school we were just told not to use birth control. End of discussion.
Originally posted by
(k)InkyIvy
Growing up, my family was always very uptight and prudish about sex. Sexuality was taboo, enough so that my mother's "sex talk" for me essentially consisted of "If he can't give you an orgasm, he's not worth sleeping
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more
Growing up, my family was always very uptight and prudish about sex. Sexuality was taboo, enough so that my mother's "sex talk" for me essentially consisted of "If he can't give you an orgasm, he's not worth sleeping with." And when I asked how you make yourself have an orgasm, I was simply told "Rub until it feels good."
Needless to say, I grew up very confused and uninformed about all things sexual. It was only after I'd graduated from high school and began college that I began really learning about sex, from a friend who was much more open about it all.
Finally, at age 19, I learned what an orgasm felt like and how to give myself one.
So, here's my question:
While you were growing up, was your family open, willing/able to explain things to you so you understood sex and sexuality? Or were they prudish, barely telling you the basics? less
Needless to say, I grew up very confused and uninformed about all things sexual. It was only after I'd graduated from high school and began college that I began really learning about sex, from a friend who was much more open about it all.
Finally, at age 19, I learned what an orgasm felt like and how to give myself one.
So, here's my question:
While you were growing up, was your family open, willing/able to explain things to you so you understood sex and sexuality? Or were they prudish, barely telling you the basics? less
05/27/2012
My parents had a lot of problems with sexual compatibility - my Dad was pretty much normal - but my Mother thought everything he wanted to do except PIV sex was nasty.
05/27/2012
Kind of in-between. Sex is not a taboo topic in my family, and I was always allowed to ask questions and would get a straightforward answer, though I rarely asked because I was very prudish until about age 12 or 13. However, no sex talk was ever initiated - my dad gave me a book (Dr. Ruth Talks to Kids) and that's where I learned the basics.
05/27/2012
Pretty open, helped that my mom was a nurse.
05/28/2012
Very prudish. My parents never taught me about sex. I found out all about it in 3rd grade and all through my younger years.
06/17/2012
My mom has been talking to my sister and I above sex forever. She had our half-sister at 17, so she was always very open with us.
Worked for me, I didn't lose my virginity until I was 19. On the flip side, my sister lost her virginity at 15 and has a major pregnancy scare at 17.
Worked for me, I didn't lose my virginity until I was 19. On the flip side, my sister lost her virginity at 15 and has a major pregnancy scare at 17.
06/17/2012
I never had a sex talk, it was just assumed I wouldn't have sex..
But I didn't date through high school, so I guess they never thought they had a reason to give me the talk.
But sex was something we didn't/and still don't talk about.
But I didn't date through high school, so I guess they never thought they had a reason to give me the talk.
But sex was something we didn't/and still don't talk about.
06/18/2012
open still am
06/20/2012
I was pretty innocent growing up.
06/20/2012
Very prudish. My mom almost can't even say the word sex around me and i'm 20 years old!
It's just weird. Talking about sex with my parents is the ultimate embarrassing taboo. I asked a question once and it was ignored and the subject changed.
I had my first orgasm by accident when I was 11 or 12? and I thought I was really dirty and sinful because I liked it, and wanted to keep having them.
My brother, who is 7 years older than me, was the one that asked me if I knew anything about sex when I was 14, and I said a little. He then proceeded to give me an informative website, and encouraged me to look in the library for books even if it felt odd to do that.
He also bluntly stated to make sure the effer that took me was wearing a condom and to make sure I was on birth control first.
Since then he's been my go-to guy with questions about everything and anything. He's basically my mentor lol.
It's just weird. Talking about sex with my parents is the ultimate embarrassing taboo. I asked a question once and it was ignored and the subject changed.
I had my first orgasm by accident when I was 11 or 12? and I thought I was really dirty and sinful because I liked it, and wanted to keep having them.
My brother, who is 7 years older than me, was the one that asked me if I knew anything about sex when I was 14, and I said a little. He then proceeded to give me an informative website, and encouraged me to look in the library for books even if it felt odd to do that.
He also bluntly stated to make sure the effer that took me was wearing a condom and to make sure I was on birth control first.
Since then he's been my go-to guy with questions about everything and anything. He's basically my mentor lol.
07/18/2012
i grew up very very prudish...
07/18/2012
Not much talking about sex. But when I was sexually active my parents did not care. I also had lots of good education and am quite smart, so I think they might have felt I was fine on my own.
07/19/2012
What's sex?
07/19/2012
My parents have NEVER spoken to me about sex.
Everything I know I learned from the internet.
Everything I know I learned from the internet.
07/20/2012
My mum would have talked to me about it had I asked, but I read a lot and didn't need her to. Neither parent ever brought it up, the closest my mum get was in the period talk
07/20/2012
We never discussed it. I never received the talk until my younger sister stared showing sings of puberty. Mom and dad sat us both down one night and basically said " if you have sex you will get pregnant and die"
Did not phase my thirteen year old sister but scared the shit out of 18 year old me.
Sex is verrrrrrry taboo in my house. If they found my stash I would be dead.
Did not phase my thirteen year old sister but scared the shit out of 18 year old me.
Sex is verrrrrrry taboo in my house. If they found my stash I would be dead.
08/05/2012
My family was super open, and gave me a really good book about puberty, sexuality, and relationships around when I started middle school. Both my parents have told me stories about their relationships and sex lives, too. Not ridiculously detailed, but more than most parents would share, I think.
08/08/2012
I was raised a Jehovah's witness, so we were really prudish growing up until my mother, sister, and I left the religion.
08/08/2012
Prudish all the way. I didn't even get a sex talk, I was given a textbook. lol
08/08/2012
I had access to a fairly clinical book on human biology intended for school aged kids. It had good content, it included both sides of sexual reproduction and even a description of sexual arousal and possibly a mention of masturbation. I didn't have any questions beyond that 'till I was ready to research birth control. What that book didn't teach me was any non-scientific terms, so any discussion got pretty confusing for me, I could talk about erectile tissue and menstruation but any mention of dicks or periods was met with a blank look for a long time
and then I found the internet and its wealth of information
on sex
and then I found the internet and its wealth of information
on sex
10/03/2012
My family is very open.
10/03/2012
My family is very open. I love them!
10/03/2012
Very prudish. I never got the sex talk, or even the period talk. My mother let the school system do it for her. She took catching me having sex in high school as a severe personal insult. When I went to college she put me on birth control, with a silent agreement that she would pay for me to be on birth control pills as long as I let her go on thinking they weren't being put to any use.
10/03/2012