Lol I know this question sounds very funny but I am always very self-conscious. I will not let my man back there unless I shower really well right before hand. Also, I don't like finger play back there because, once again, isn't that going to be gross? I always tend to pull away whenever he tries. I would love to do everything that he wants to do but I don't know what he expects it to be like. I am not very experienced in this area. Please let me know what you think and how you and your partner go about this.