How many is too many?

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How many is too many?

ViVix ViVix
I recently was discussing with someone that at some point, you might reject a hookup or partner based on the amount of previous partners they've been with. How many people would someone have to be with before you would turn them down for sex?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
1-5
8  (13%)
6-14
5  (8%)
15-25
1  (2%)
More than 25
5  (8%)
This doesn't apply to me.
24  (39%)
Other. Explain.
18  (30%)
Total votes: 61
Poll is closed
03/11/2012
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I don't think I would reject a partner solely based on the number of previous partners they've had. It might be worth discussing how we both felt about it (especially since I've really not been with that many partners) but it wouldn't be a deal-breaker for me.
03/11/2012
Pixel Pixel
If they have had safe sex with previous partners and not fluid bonded lightly, I would not reject someone just because they had above the 'normal' amount of partners before me.
03/11/2012
celibacysucks celibacysucks
I don't think number of partners is a strong indication of a person's suitability as a partner or mate. It may tell you something about their personality.
03/11/2012
Screaming Violet Screaming Violet
I hit other as no one could ever have too many partners for me to turn them down, in fact Im less likely to want to sleep with someone who has only had a couple of partners.
03/11/2012
Sinfully Sinfully
I voted other as number of previous partners doesn't matter to me, so long as they are clean.
03/11/2012
MeliPixie MeliPixie
Personally I don't think it's the number of partners, but the cleanliness of said previous partners. My boyfriend had experience with four other girls before me, and I made sure he'd been tested before anything sexual happened. He didn't make me get tested because I was a virgin before him.
03/11/2012
SexyStuff SexyStuff
For religious reasons, none!
03/11/2012
dhig dhig
i don't think there's a set number
03/11/2012
MrWishyWashy MrWishyWashy
Same as above, I wouldn't hold it against a partner if they had a ton of experience as long as they were safe in their travels.
03/11/2012
curious kitten curious kitten
When I have sex with someone it is because I love them, what was before has no bearing on the issue.
03/11/2012
Mwar Mwar
There is more to it than a number.
03/11/2012
wildorchid wildorchid
If the person is right, it's not going to matter. However, I can see it bothering me if I new someone had slept with close to thirty people. I would want to know more, were they safe? Why that many? Were they serious etc. It is important to me that I keep myself safe, that is the only reason I would want to know.
03/12/2012
Falsepast Falsepast
Depends on the age. If theyre older, obviously, i wouldnt mind them having partners in the double digits.
03/12/2012
Shellz31 Shellz31
As long as they are clean, it's not a concern to me cause I don't want to know how many they have been with in the first place.
If they are a virgin I'm not interested - they must know what they are doing. I have no desire to be a sex teacher!
03/12/2012
spineyogurt spineyogurt
5! Too many!
03/12/2012
DreamWolf DreamWolf
It doesn't matter to me at all!

The fact that one used to enjoy life that way doesn't mean that (s)he is a bad person, so it would be totally fuckin rude to turn someone down because of such a ridiculous thing in my opinion! No offense of course, that is just my personal preference! (And the fact that my Master and me were both with countless partners before W/we were in L/love with E/each O/other - rather in the occasional manner than real relationships - this is just simply that some people want to have such experiences, as long as it isn't harmful for anyone there is nothing wrong with it!)
03/12/2012
geliebt geliebt
I'm not really sure... I don't really think I could answer that for certain unless I actually encountered it, but for now I'm gonna say 25+
03/12/2012
Valentinka Valentinka
You know, I think, it actually depends on lots of circumstances including your circle of contacts and culture. For instance, among my friends and those people whose number I know anyway it's not very common to go above 5. So for me, a guy or a gal with 10+ would seem veeeery strange and uncommon. Not like I would judge or reject someone right away based on that, but it doesn't change a fact that it feels like too many.
03/12/2012
GirlOnGirl GirlOnGirl
I wouldn't base my decision on the number of previous partners. Honestly, I don't ask potential partners for a specific number and I've never had a potential partner ask for mine either.
03/12/2012
ViVix ViVix
Quote:
Originally posted by Screaming Violet
I hit other as no one could ever have too many partners for me to turn them down, in fact Im less likely to want to sleep with someone who has only had a couple of partners.
I can agree with that I'm less likely to sleep with someone with only a couple of partners, but I once heard a guy say he had slept with 60 women! I don't want to be number 61!
03/14/2012
ViVix ViVix
Thanks for the responses everyone. I once had a potential partner tell me he had slept with about 60 people, and I just hated the idea of being #61. I tend to think there may be a relationship defect. However, that's just my opinion, and I was curious about everyone else's!
03/14/2012
SexyRayne SexyRayne
It really depends I love my husband and I know he has been with many people before me. It doesn't bother me because I know I am the last so that fact is the only one that really matters to me.
03/15/2012
CindyH CindyH
i hate the idea of my bf being with other women cause to many things going around
03/15/2012
aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
Quote:
Originally posted by ViVix
I recently was discussing with someone that at some point, you might reject a hookup or partner based on the amount of previous partners they've been with. How many people would someone have to be with before you would turn them down for sex?
considering that i've had sex with around 40, if i rejected someone based on the highest number listed in this poll, i'd be pretty hypocritical. that's not a deal-breaker for me anyhow.

if the person has been tested and is STI free, we're good to go. and we're using condoms until we're in a committed relationship. other than STIs, there's no problem for me in how many folks someone has slept with. make love, not war!
03/15/2012
aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
Quote:
Originally posted by Shellz31
As long as they are clean, it's not a concern to me cause I don't want to know how many they have been with in the first place.
If they are a virgin I'm not interested - they must know what they are doing. I have no desire to be a sex teacher!
same here! no desire to teach THAT much... i mean some learning is always involved in a sexual relationship but starting from scratch... no thanks. and someone my age still a virgin would make me raise some eyebrows for sure.

i don't really hang out with religious people, so a religious person who was virginal for that reason wouldnt' be a good match for me in the first place.

also, its so much responsibility to be someone's first. i had a really good friend who wanted me to take his virginity... we dated for a minute. i refused to though, i didnt want that responsibility, and i wanted it to be really special for him - we weren't in love, just having fun.
03/15/2012
plaidvulva plaidvulva
The number means nothing to me.
03/15/2012
Beck Beck
I would not turn down any partner just for the number of people they have been with. Like others said it is a matter of being STD/STI free. However, I would be turned off by a person who brags about the number of people you have slept with. I can't stand a person who tries to act like they are a stud because they have had X amount of people.
03/17/2012
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by ViVix
I recently was discussing with someone that at some point, you might reject a hookup or partner based on the amount of previous partners they've been with. How many people would someone have to be with before you would turn them down for sex?
The only number I am concerned with is the STD count and possibly a T (white) cell count. The number of partners my lover has had means nothing to me unless they have contracted something incurable.
03/17/2012
FruityCloudPuff FruityCloudPuff
Quote:
Originally posted by celibacysucks
I don't think number of partners is a strong indication of a person's suitability as a partner or mate. It may tell you something about their personality.
Agreed. The only way I would reject someone is if they went around screwing everyone with no regards to their feelings. If they just had a lot of casual hook-ups, then fine, as long as they were polite about it all.
I also agree that as long as they are clean it doesn't matter to me if they have had a lot of sex.
03/17/2012
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