How much of your sex is vanilla?

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How much of your sex is vanilla?

underHim underHim
I find that it is very rare that my husband and I have "vanilla" sex anymore, how much of your sex is "vanilla" (define vanilla for yourself, everyone has their own definition)
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
I have never had vanilla sex
3  (6%)
I cant remember the last time I had vanilla sex
3  (6%)
I rarely have vanilla sex
9  (19%)
I sometimes have vanilla sex
23  (48%)
We only have vanilla sex
7  (15%)
Other
3  (6%)
Total votes: 48
Poll is closed
03/05/2012
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Nazaress Nazaress
I voted "Other" because we have sex almost always. It's more than "sometimes" but less than "always". I wish we had more varied sex but at the rate we've been having sex, I'm just happy to have it at all.
03/05/2012
Beck Beck
My partner is pretty Vanilla I have tired to bring him out of his shell, but the most he goes is slapping my ass. I am still working on it though.
03/06/2012
unfulfilled unfulfilled
My husband is pretty vanilla, but I'm TRYING!
03/06/2012
wildorchid wildorchid
My guy is awesome at bringing variety and spice to our play. He was the one who actually brought up toys, not me. He can also get pretty creative. The fact that he i so open, but that I can also trust him makes me less vanilla as well. Absolutely love him.
03/06/2012
EastCoast36 EastCoast36
My personal definition of "vanilla" sex for us is straight to bed naked (or wearing nothing suggestive), foreplay with cuddling and kissing, short exchanges of oral sex, and primarily (but not exclusively) the missionary position until each of us orgasm.

My wife is quite vanilla, but I'm fine with it. She is open to my more playful sex, even if she rarely suggests it. Most of the time our sex is vanilla, it's great, and it feels even more exhilarating when we get a little wilder together.
03/06/2012
Jul!a Jul!a
I also voted other for similar reasons as Nazaress. We have it more often than never, but less often than sometimes. It's more of an on occasion thing.
03/06/2012
richsam richsam
Quote:
Originally posted by underHim
I find that it is very rare that my husband and I have "vanilla" sex anymore, how much of your sex is "vanilla" (define vanilla for yourself, everyone has their own definition)
I have never had vanilla sex
03/06/2012
PolyLove PolyLove
My partner and I have just found our "kink," so it has been a while since we have had "vanilla" sex, and when we do, it usually ends in kinky stuffs.
03/06/2012
Greenleaf Greenleaf
Pretty spontaneous and random, when we can actually get time together.
03/06/2012
married with children married with children
maybe about 1/2
03/08/2012
LLmama LLmama
Our sex is "vanilla" most of the time! :-/
03/09/2012
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by underHim
I find that it is very rare that my husband and I have "vanilla" sex anymore, how much of your sex is "vanilla" (define vanilla for yourself, everyone has their own definition)
You know this is a GREAT, but hard question to answer. For us, Vanilla Sex is probably someone elses TUTI-Fruity, with chocolate sauce and multi colored sprinkles on top.

What WE consider "average, plain" lovemaking, is "more" then what we would have consider it years ago.

It is all perception and "set points" and that is a HUGE difference with some people. There ARE...honest...folks that STILL think that doing oral on their partner is something "exotic". For us, it is COMPLETE Vanilla.

Makes this a hard question to answer.....but VERY thought provoking, to be sure.
03/09/2012
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by PolyLove
My partner and I have just found our "kink," so it has been a while since we have had "vanilla" sex, and when we do, it usually ends in kinky stuffs.
But honestly, if your KINK is now STANDARD in your relationship....is that not now YOUR "definition" of Vanilla Sex??
03/09/2012
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by richsam
I have never had vanilla sex
Yah...we always have to put hot fudge, whip cream and nuts on it, at the very minimum.
03/09/2012
AHubbyof2SexualMinds AHubbyof2SexualMinds
We have a good bit on vanilla with some spice thrown in here and there.
03/09/2012
dbm6907 dbm6907
My partner is pretty vanilla. I like to call him "old fashioned" though. He is more close-minded than me when it comes to sex. He's slowly starting to be more open though
03/09/2012
Ansley Ansley
We never have vanilla sex. Our foreplay isn't even close to being vanilla and we switch positions at least twice, if not more, once we get down to the brass tacks of the matter. Not to mention all of the talking, role-playing...after being together for as many years as we have it was a natural progression.
03/09/2012
padmeamidala padmeamidala
Quote:
Originally posted by underHim
I find that it is very rare that my husband and I have "vanilla" sex anymore, how much of your sex is "vanilla" (define vanilla for yourself, everyone has their own definition)
Sometimes I have vanilla sex with my Master. Our quickies are almost always vanilla because there is no time for kink. That's ok though. We tend to play on our date nights or when we have the time for it.
03/09/2012
Positwist Positwist
I tend to define vanilla sex as the lazy sort of sex we have first thing in the morning--no toys, no acrobatics, nothing fancy, just sleepy morning missionary/spooning/et c sex.
03/09/2012
fredacarl fredacarl
Quote:
Originally posted by underHim
I find that it is very rare that my husband and I have "vanilla" sex anymore, how much of your sex is "vanilla" (define vanilla for yourself, everyone has their own definition)
I have never had vanilla sex
03/09/2012
LLmama LLmama
I guess the more I read it all depends on your definition. I'm gonna take back my comment that most of our sex is "vanilla" lol
03/09/2012
Iron Man Iron Man
I can't really remember the last time my sex was vanilla...
03/09/2012
mistressg mistressg
I tend to not. But with my current partner, that seems to be all we do.
03/10/2012
amandaco2011 amandaco2011
Some vanilla and some not so vanilla.
06/30/2012
carenautilus carenautilus
Mostly kinky for me, but every once and a while I just want vanilla.
06/30/2012
~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
Very rarely.
06/30/2012
HannahPanda HannahPanda
Not often at all.
06/30/2012
Sinfully Sinfully
Sometimes. It varies on who I hook up with. I don't currently have a steady man so I never know what I'm getting into.
06/30/2012
momoxd11 momoxd11
Quote:
Originally posted by underHim
I find that it is very rare that my husband and I have "vanilla" sex anymore, how much of your sex is "vanilla" (define vanilla for yourself, everyone has their own definition)
what is vanilla?
07/02/2012
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