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I find that it is very rare that my husband and I have "vanilla" sex anymore, how much of your sex is "vanilla" (define vanilla for yourself, everyone has their own definition)
You know this is a GREAT, but hard question to answer. For us, Vanilla Sex is probably someone elses TUTI-Fruity, with chocolate sauce and multi colored sprinkles on top.
What WE consider "average, plain" lovemaking, is "more" then what we would have consider it years ago.
It is all perception and "set points" and that is a HUGE difference with some people. There ARE...honest...folks that STILL think that doing oral on their partner is something "exotic". For us, it is COMPLETE Vanilla.
Makes this a hard question to answer.....but VERY thought provoking, to be sure.