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I'm having trouble getting my partner to use sex toys during our play, but I feel like they would work really well as warmup to help me to get all the way to orgasm. I don't orgasm all that much from sex, but when I do it's better than
I'm having trouble getting my partner to use sex toys during our play, but I feel like they would work really well as warmup to help me to get all the way to orgasm. I don't orgasm all that much from sex, but when I do it's better than from toys. Most of the time when I try to introduce toys before or after sex it just makes things awkward. It screws with my head too much
Poly, sometimes it's hard to ask for what we want. You could make it clear to your lover, "Look, I really love to have sex with you. I enjoy it a lot, but for some reason, I don't have an orgasm without sex toys. We can incorporate the toy into our sex play and then both get off. It is NOT an indictment of your lovemaking. You are a wonderful lover. It's my issue, but if you are open to trying something new, it would make sex all that much more great for me, too. A lot of women need some extra help with orgasm, and although your lovemaking is amazing, the added stimulation of a sex toy would only add Pleasure for us both."
I know this is wordy (I'm a really verbal person) so put this in your own words. Make sure your loves KNOWS he or she is a GREAT lover and that it's YOUR problem. Listen, I know
it isn't your fault, but no lover wants to hear, "You can't get me off." and a lot of men, and even some women don't realize some women have High Orgasmic Thresholds and need
some extra help to orgasm. I'm the same way, in the last few years, I simply can't orgasm without a toy. It isn't my fault, either, but My Man understands and TALKING about it really helped not only our sex life, but our relationship.