How often do you use toys while having sex with your partner(s)? Do you notice a significant difference in pleasure or strength of orgasms when using or going without toys?

gone77 gone77
I'm just curious to see how many people utilize sex toys in their sex lives with their partner(s) and how frequently. Also, of course, if the sex toys have any bearing on said enjoyment.
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Every time (Sex without toys? Perish the thought!)
14
Occasionally (It's good to spice things up now and then.)
32
Never (Sex toys? Who needs 'em?)
3
Other
4
Sex is more pleasurable with toys.
5
Sex without toys is more pleasurable.
I don't notice a difference.
I enjoy the heck out of sex whether there are toys involved or not!
44
Total votes: 102 (62 voters)
Poll is closed
07/12/2010
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Alicia Alicia
I want to say that almost every time a bullet at least comes into play at the end. Whether the big toys do...that's more of an occasional thing.
07/12/2010
LiftedUp LiftedUp
I selected "other," because it's certainly more than "occassionally," but definitely not "every time." I would say it's "most of the time."
07/13/2010
Sir Sir
We use them every now and then, and it makes no difference. It will sometimes enhance stimulation for my partner, but the overall feeling at the end is the same as without. It is good that I enjoy using vibrators and dildos on her, because it allows her to feel that difference occasionally.
07/17/2010
Red Vinyl Kitty Red Vinyl Kitty
We use toys all the time. I have a hard time taking my husband's penis, so he uses toys on me as a "warm up". Also, we almost always use restraints or other BDSM gear, so I checked off "always".
07/20/2010
P'Gell P'Gell
I wasn't sure how to vote. We do have sex without toys, but I have a High Orgasmic Threshold and I only can get to those last few minutes before I orgasm with My Man and my Wahl. So, when we have a quicky, where I am probably not going to have time to come, we sometimes don't use toys. But, if I want to Orgasm, those toys are going to come out.

I wasn't always like this, but peri-menopause sucks. Clit O Steel indeed!
07/20/2010
Jessica Elizabeth Jessica Elizabeth
We usually do. If lube counts it's always LOL Lately 'cuz we don't have a bed we're usually just having doggie-style quickies unless we have toys to review, in which case we break out the Liberator Throe and go at it LOL

When things are normal (i.e.- we have a bed) it's aobut 90% of the time we use toys, in which case it's 2-3 toys per sex session

For us it's not so much that I can't cum or anything, we just enjoy the variety, fun and flavor they provide. Plus, usually I cum very easily, so D enjoys seeing how many times he can make me cum in 1 sitting before I beg for mercy or just can't anymore lol

If we are going for anal then we definitely use toys to help relax me back there.
07/20/2010
Brian Brian
I voted Occasionally (It's good to spice things up now and then.) I honestly would like to use toys more often but my wife likes the same old same old while I enjoy more variety. Often times I'll end up using something like a butt plug on myself which is ok. I'd really like for to be more into them as I'm more visual than her. The main ones she'll use is either the magic wand or a bullet vibrator neither of which is too visually stimulating. Alas I'm trying to be patient and hope in time she'll find new things she likes as well.
07/20/2010
trios trios
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Originally posted by Brian
I voted Occasionally (It's good to spice things up now and then.) I honestly would like to use toys more often but my wife likes the same old same old while I enjoy more variety. Often times I'll end up using something like a butt plug on ... More
Thats exactly my situation: I love to watch it happen, my wife would rather have me do the same old stuff. We came up with 'my night' during which she does whatever floats my boat! the other nights are just us two making love without any 'intruders'!
07/23/2010
joja joja
For me, toys are usually a backup when I'm having trouble getting off. Their overall effect on my sex life is positive, but I don't notice a huge difference in individual sessions.
07/23/2010
Polyserena Polyserena
Quote:
Originally posted by gone77
I'm just curious to see how many people utilize sex toys in their sex lives with their partner(s) and how frequently. Also, of course, if the sex toys have any bearing on said enjoyment.
I'm having trouble getting my partner to use sex toys during our play, but I feel like they would work really well as warmup to help me to get all the way to orgasm. I don't orgasm all that much from sex, but when I do it's better than from toys. Most of the time when I try to introduce toys before or after sex it just makes things awkward. It screws with my head too much
09/08/2010
sexysweetieshan sexysweetieshan
Toys are only involved occasionally. Sex is still great without toys, but I usually don't orgasm with just sex alone. If toys are involved I can reach orgasm during sex, making it OH so much more fun!
09/08/2010
P'Gell P'Gell
It's hard for me to vote. We don't use toys every time we have sex, but if I want to have an orgasm, I have to use toys. This is a recent development based on a hormone problem stemming from peri-menopause. For decades, I had a hair trigger orgasm and never had ANY trouble (unless I was on Prozac, which I quit as soon as I knew that was causing the problem.)

So, the last few years, if I want to come, I need to use some toys. If I've had a good mess of orgasms the night before, or the morning before, the next time we have sex, we usually "make love" and go "skin only" just because that's what we want to do at that time.

So, it's not every time, but a lot of the time. If I haven't had an orgasm in a few days, toys are du ri gour because I have a really high drive and get very irritable if I go too long without Coming.
09/08/2010
P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by Polyserena
I'm having trouble getting my partner to use sex toys during our play, but I feel like they would work really well as warmup to help me to get all the way to orgasm. I don't orgasm all that much from sex, but when I do it's better than ... More
Poly, sometimes it's hard to ask for what we want. You could make it clear to your lover, "Look, I really love to have sex with you. I enjoy it a lot, but for some reason, I don't have an orgasm without sex toys. We can incorporate the toy into our sex play and then both get off. It is NOT an indictment of your lovemaking. You are a wonderful lover. It's my issue, but if you are open to trying something new, it would make sex all that much more great for me, too. A lot of women need some extra help with orgasm, and although your lovemaking is amazing, the added stimulation of a sex toy would only add Pleasure for us both."

I know this is wordy (I'm a really verbal person) so put this in your own words. Make sure your loves KNOWS he or she is a GREAT lover and that it's YOUR problem. Listen, I know it isn't your fault, but no lover wants to hear, "You can't get me off." and a lot of men, and even some women don't realize some women have High Orgasmic Thresholds and need some extra help to orgasm. I'm the same way, in the last few years, I simply can't orgasm without a toy. It isn't my fault, either, but My Man understands and TALKING about it really helped not only our sex life, but our relationship.
09/08/2010
Hannah Savage Hannah Savage
Me and my current partner have never used a sex toy. He is extremely uncomfortable about them and is so sensitive I believe that introducing them would make him feel inadequate.
09/08/2010
oohlookasquirrel oohlookasquirrel
I voted "I enjoy the heck out of sex whether there are toys involved or not!", but I wanted to point out that my orgasms are definitely different depending on what was touching my clit when I had my orgasm. My orgasms generally last longer and are more powerful when I use a vibrator, but there's something more intimate and satisfying about getting off with my partner without anybody holding a vibrator down there. Also, the vibrator can push my body over the edge too fast and make it painful to touch my clit, which can derail sex in a way. If I'm using the vibe as a shortcut and I push my body to the point where it could orgasm but my mind isn't quite ready yet, I have to take a long break from clit stimulation altogether. So, toys can add to the sex, but they also add another element that can be screwed up if the batteries go dead or you have to spend too long fiddling with it or getting everybody in the right position.
09/08/2010
Naughty Student Naughty Student
We use them on occasion, they a more a solo kind if thing to me that a shared pleasure. My partner is becoming more and more accepting of toys but its a slow process.
09/08/2010
Liz2 Liz2
I enjoy toys as as part of foreplay and most times I have an NJoy Pure Plug or some other plug in my butt. My b/f frequently does as well.
09/08/2010
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by gone77
I'm just curious to see how many people utilize sex toys in their sex lives with their partner(s) and how frequently. Also, of course, if the sex toys have any bearing on said enjoyment.
With Sigel I don't generally use toys, we use them sporadically but with Arch he loves using them on me, watching me and generally tells me to break 'em out.
09/08/2010
BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
More often than "Occasionally" but less often than "Every time" We have a very active sex life and use toys 2-3 times out of the 3-5 times we have sex every week.
02/15/2011
SapphirexIce SapphirexIce
my and my hubby do every once in a while
02/16/2011
darthkitt3n darthkitt3n
We use them sometimes, though having to pull all of them out can sometimes ruin the moment, so we do just avoid them sometimes.
02/16/2011
Fun Lover Fun Lover
Our foreplay is usually with my wife having an orgasm or several with a toy and then we have intercourse it makes her orgasm stronger during intercourse. For me I may use one to get hard but that's it, we don't don't use them during the act of intercourse. Sometimes we will have foreplay without toys but most times something is involved in our foreplay.
02/17/2011
newfoundlust newfoundlust
Quote:
Originally posted by gone77
I'm just curious to see how many people utilize sex toys in their sex lives with their partner(s) and how frequently. Also, of course, if the sex toys have any bearing on said enjoyment.
We use some toy or toys at least 95% of the time. The only exception is a very early morning/late night quickie.
05/31/2011
shySEXXaddict shySEXXaddict
Quote:
Originally posted by gone77
I'm just curious to see how many people utilize sex toys in their sex lives with their partner(s) and how frequently. Also, of course, if the sex toys have any bearing on said enjoyment.
we use them at times...I think he loves my vibrators as much as me!usually if we have time to play around then we use them(with 2 kids its alittle difficult at times)
09/20/2011
Illumin8 Illumin8
We use them about half of the time, but we love it either way!
09/20/2011
deltalima deltalima
Quote:
Originally posted by gone77
I'm just curious to see how many people utilize sex toys in their sex lives with their partner(s) and how frequently. Also, of course, if the sex toys have any bearing on said enjoyment.
Try it once in a while.
08/30/2012
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