How often should a man perform oral sex on a woman?

Contributor: That Man from Mars That Man from Mars
I do it every time we have sex.
06/08/2011
Contributor: pixieluv pixieluv
I wish it were more often, but then he's not opposed to it but he's shy. Sounds weird, but he has a hard time because he wants to do it just right.
06/08/2011
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
I'm generally in Jimbo's category. If you use your hands then trimmed/not trimmed doesn't matter as much (but you do really need your hands if it isn't trimmed).

The correct option is of course "however often you as a couple decide to do it," and it sounds as though you would like the frequency increased a bit, so talk it over.
06/08/2011
Contributor: oohlookasquirrel oohlookasquirrel
When I'm in the mood for it, it happens. When he's in the mood for it, it happens unless I'm really not in the mood for it. I give blowjobs when asked even if I'm not horny, because they MAKE me really horny. But who's keeping score? My sex life is vastly different from one week to the next due to distance and traveling and stress and limited free time. I have no normal, unfortunately.
06/08/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by sexyintexas
It seems unfair that my guy wants a blow job all the time, but only wants to give it back a couple of times a month. How often do you or your guy recipricate the deed?
I need an "Other" category! We don't expect sex in any form though, generally, we do have sex in some fashion every day. I am always welcome to ask and since Sigel enjoys giving it's not a big deal.
06/08/2011
Contributor: ToyGurl ToyGurl
I think that a man should perform oral sex on a woman as much as she does it on him. That is, if she likes it.... but I am yet to know a female that doesn't like it. Everything should be equal in a relationship.
06/08/2011
Contributor: Miss Anonymous Miss Anonymous
Every time!! he loves it, i love it.
06/08/2011
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
Oh, I would every day or more. IF she'd LET me. She can get loud, and well my son is home... She's embarrassed that he would hear us.
06/08/2011
Contributor: K101 K101
I didn't vote because I really didn't think I saw an answer that fit my opinion. I don't think anybody SHOULD do anything. It isn't a job or a have-to kind of thing. My partner does it every time we have intercourse. But he also enjoys it just as much as I do, although he claims he likes it more than I do, but there's no way! Lol. I don't think there's a correct timing for any kind of sexual act. If you both want to do it then do it, but we don't look at sex or oral sex as a scheduled thing.
08/22/2011
Contributor: haley730 haley730
A couple times
08/22/2011
Contributor: SexyStuff SexyStuff
He gets it as often as he gives it, so rarely. Because neither of us particularly likes giving, it seems fair to try to be equal.
08/23/2011
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
I agree with those who have said there is no "should" in this kind of thing. Each relationship is different and each person has different needs. Personally, I do not think that you should keep track and then make sure each person gets "equal acts". With sex, it isn't about quid pro quo, or keeping equal tally sheets. If you want to do something sexual with your partner, do it, and if you don't want to, don't do it. It isn't good to do something sexually for someone expecting a certain "favor" in return, at least in my opinion.

All that being said, my man gives me oral as a normal part of our foreplay every time we have sex. Generally when I give him oral it is an act unto itself. So to me you can't really compare the two. It works for us.
08/23/2011
Contributor: DeliciousDrip DeliciousDrip
my ex use to do it every time we had sex. he loved doing it =( *sigh*
08/23/2011
Contributor: MeliPixie MeliPixie
I think the woman should receive oral sex as often as her partner does. Fair is fair.

In contrast, I've given plenty of blowjobs to my boyfriend, but never received oral sex... But that is his muggers' fault. He can't breathe through his nose it's been broken so many times. Poor boy
08/23/2011
Contributor: CSEA CSEA
Quote:
Originally posted by sexyintexas
It seems unfair that my guy wants a blow job all the time, but only wants to give it back a couple of times a month. How often do you or your guy recipricate the deed?
He loves me giving oral so that occurs more than the other, lol but hell yea often!
08/23/2011
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
I don't get it every time, but every few times
08/23/2011
Contributor: newfoundlust newfoundlust
Quote:
Originally posted by sexyintexas
It seems unfair that my guy wants a blow job all the time, but only wants to give it back a couple of times a month. How often do you or your guy recipricate the deed?
As the guy, it was hard to answer this accurately. I love to go down on my wife, but she often doesn't want me to. So, I would do it more if she would let me.
08/23/2011
Contributor: Lucky21 Lucky21
I think he should anytime you want it. Period.
08/23/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by Redboxbaby
Oral is very much a part of our daily sex sessions and then some.



There are numerous times throughout the day (unrelated to having sex) when my husband will toss me on the bed (or push me up against the wall, or plop me up on the ... more
I think your man and mine were separated at birth. (I've said this before. ) He's done this in the kitchen if the kids aren't home]! Did I mention most of the back of our house is glass doors and garden windows?

I also don't keep score, but we usually both give and get oral every time we have sex, which is pretty much every day.

As for no "shoulds" sort of. But, I do think one's lover should make sure one is pleased, and if that means oral sex, then that's what needs to happen. If I hadn't been getting what I needed from sex regularly from My Man before we talked about "forever" I am pretty sure I would have looked elsewhere. As would he. Sex is important and although "shoulds" sound awful, pleasing one's partner is really a "should." Expecting oral sex isn't that big of a deal. Not like putting pine cones in one's butt or something. (Am I the only one who remembers that comic Lauren posted?)
08/23/2011
Contributor: Diabolical Kitty Diabolical Kitty
I give her oral more than she gives me oral. It sucks sometimes.
08/23/2011
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
the topic question and the poll question were different...


how often SHOULD a man perform oral sex? haha... all the damn time. right?

how often DOES he? a few times a week. i got lax on the head and he got into oral. i'm not really into having it done to me but i think it's sweet that he likes it.
08/23/2011
Contributor: MissStormRyder MissStormRyder
Whenever I tell him to!!!!
10/03/2011
Contributor: averageguyextrodinarypleasure averageguyextrodinarypleasure
My wife likes it but she told me she likes sex better so she never asks for it but I give it to her maybe a couple times a week
10/04/2011
Contributor: The Mother of a SiNner The Mother of a SiNner
Quote:
Originally posted by sexyintexas
It seems unfair that my guy wants a blow job all the time, but only wants to give it back a couple of times a month. How often do you or your guy recipricate the deed?
I get as much as i give
10/04/2011
Contributor: Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama
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Originally posted by Ajax
If I wanted it every day my boyfriend would have absolutely no problem with that. He complains that I don't let him do it enough lol.
That's us. I can maybe have oral if I just took a shower - otherwise, I can't handle it. But if I wanted it - I can guarantee you he'd be willing to give it.

Yes, I'm spoiled rotten after 32 years of marriage.
10/04/2011
Contributor: Apirka Apirka
A few times a month. The guys I've been with always wanted it more than they were willing to give it.
03/17/2012
Contributor: Azule Azule
Usually about the same because it's just kind of something we like doing for each other.
03/17/2012
Contributor: RomanticGoth RomanticGoth
My guy loves to give oral. I think he likes giving more then recieving it.

He's very spontaneous about it.
03/17/2012
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I would love to do it every day - that's not possible so a couple times a week is normal. I'd say that I give her oral 2-3x more often than I get BJs - but I don't feel deprived. She pleases me in so many ways that a BJ is just part of her repertoire.
03/17/2012
Contributor: - Kira - - Kira -
Never, but that's at my request. I don't like it, so I never want it. My husband would gladly give it anytime I requested it, I just don't request it. He stopped asking if he could after a year together. I give him oral almost every time we have sex. I don't feel like I'm getting the short end of the stick or anything. I'd much rather him spend his time doing other things to me.

Of course, my real answer is that it should be given as often as the woman wants it and the giver is able to. It should be different for each relationship, based on the individuals in that relationship.
03/17/2012