How to increase your sex drive?

Eliza Eliza
Just curious if anyone has any tips on increasing your sex drive. I enjoy sex, but I just feel like I'm not "in the mood" as often as I would like to be.

Has anyone else had experience with this?
01/03/2011
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moonch1ld moonch1ld
maybe masturbate less or watch less porn if you do.
01/03/2011
~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
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Originally posted by Eliza
Just curious if anyone has any tips on increasing your sex drive. I enjoy sex, but I just feel like I'm not "in the mood" as often as I would like to be.

Has anyone else had experience with this?
Try new things
01/03/2011
Lucidity Lucidity
Just do it more! Sometimes I find that doing it more often even when I'm not in the mood on a regular basis, makes me want it more.
01/03/2011
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by Lucidity
Just do it more! Sometimes I find that doing it more often even when I'm not in the mood on a regular basis, makes me want it more.
In addition to "Just do it more!" - plan it. Make or buy a romantic/sex card, think about what your going to do to make your partner feel special - to drive them to new heights.

The brain is your biggest sex organ - get it engaged in the process and you won't believe how great your 'routine' sex will become.

Creating anticipation through planning will have you horny beyond belief!
01/03/2011
Eliza Eliza
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Originally posted by Gunsmoke
In addition to "Just do it more!" - plan it. Make or buy a romantic/sex card, think about what your going to do to make your partner feel special - to drive them to new heights.

The brain is your biggest sex organ - get it engaged in ... More
See, I've tried things like that, and I feel like it creates the opposite effect. The more I plan it, the more I feel like it's an obligation rather than something I actually want to do. :\
01/03/2011
Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
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Originally posted by Eliza
See, I've tried things like that, and I feel like it creates the opposite effect. The more I plan it, the more I feel like it's an obligation rather than something I actually want to do. :\
I have to agree here. This is my reaction to planning as well. If I feel that I am obligated, or expected to perform in any way I just shut down sexually. I find being drunk helps tremendously though. I also LOVE to tease people and that does get me all revved up as well. Maybe just try to drive your partner out of their mind to the best of your ability, if you are anything like me, you will find the worse off they are the more eager you are.
01/03/2011
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by Emma (Girl With Fire)
I have to agree here. This is my reaction to planning as well. If I feel that I am obligated, or expected to perform in any way I just shut down sexually. I find being drunk helps tremendously though. I also LOVE to tease people and that does get me ... More
I'm guessing this is the difference between men and women.

When I plan - only I know the plan. There is no expectation because my partner has little or no idea what the plan is.

The plan never goes as imagined - it can't. It's like chess - what your opponent/partner does cannot be ignored. It's just a tool to get your mind in 'sex' mode - stored up energy.
01/03/2011
Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
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Originally posted by Gunsmoke
I'm guessing this is the difference between men and women.

When I plan - only I know the plan. There is no expectation because my partner has little or no idea what the plan is.

The plan never goes as imagined - it can't. ... More
See I might send multiple sexts throughout the day, just to torture my significant other and then plan on waiting naked in the dark to surprise them with a cold beer when they walk into the house after work. Then I will go put my clothes back on just to fuck with them. Half an hour later I might start taking clothing off again, complaining of the heat, and lean across his/her lap a couple of times to grab something/put it back. I would of course act completely oblivious if they started initiating anything or mention it. This sort of torture will likely go on until they either jump me or I get myself so horny I jump them. I find it immensely entertaining.
01/03/2011
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by Emma (Girl With Fire)
See I might send multiple sexts throughout the day, just to torture my significant other and then plan on waiting naked in the dark to surprise them with a cold beer when they walk into the house after work. Then I will go put my clothes back on just ... More
I like it - to me sexting has the same purpose as planing. It gets you thinking about sex, lets your SO know their in for some fun tonight - and gets them thinking about what they want to do to have fun.

Whatever it takes to amp-up your sexual energy.
01/03/2011
Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
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Originally posted by Gunsmoke
I like it - to me sexting has the same purpose as planing. It gets you thinking about sex, lets your SO know their in for some fun tonight - and gets them thinking about what they want to do to have fun.

Whatever it takes to amp-up your sexual ... More
Sometimes I just do it to be cruel. Like when I know it is an inconvenient time to receive something that has a 50/50 chance of resulting in a hard on. As cruel as it is, nobody has ever gotten angry with me for it.
01/03/2011
UnknownGirl UnknownGirl
Red wine.
01/03/2011
Eliza Eliza
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Originally posted by UnknownGirl
Red wine.
Does that actually work? I feel like wine would put me to sleep.
01/06/2011
Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
I'm with GunSmoke on this one. It helps to keep my mind thinking about it all day and talking to him or sexting him throughout the day. Sweet torture while we are away from each other usually leads to amazing sex.
01/06/2011
BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
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Originally posted by Eliza
Does that actually work? I feel like wine would put me to sleep.
Drinking too much can put me in the mood, but a drink or two will put me to sleep.

I find that masturbation helps a lot! When women masturbate, it brings blood flow TO the sexual organs, whereas after men ejaculate, blood flow LEAVES the sexual organs.

I also find that discussing fantasies, reading erotic fiction (by yourself or to each other), or watching a sexy movie can help (doesn't have to be porn, I like erotic stuff more than straight up pornography).
01/06/2011
Eliza Eliza
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Originally posted by BBW Talks Toys
Drinking too much can put me in the mood, but a drink or two will put me to sleep.

I find that masturbation helps a lot! When women masturbate, it brings blood flow TO the sexual organs, whereas after men ejaculate, blood flow LEAVES the ... More
I think drinking helps too... I just wasn't sure about wine.

And that's definitely a good call about masturbating. I hadn't thought of the biological aspects of it like that before.
01/09/2011
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