How would you react upon learning that your partner used the services of a pro in the past?

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How would you react upon learning that your partner used the services of a pro in the past?

celibacysucks celibacysucks
This happened to me, and recently to a friend. It opened up a lot of discussions and I am curious how other's feel about it.
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
I would end the relationship.
8  (9%)
I would be outraged and disgusted, but I would work through it.
12  (13%)
I may be a little grossed out, but I wouldn't be upset.
29  (33%)
I wouldn't be bothered by it at all. It happened before me, why should I care?
34  (38%)
I would be a little turned on by the thought of it.
5  (6%)
I would want my partner to do it again, maybe with me watching/participating.
1  (1%)
Total votes: 89
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12/11/2010
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PussyGalore PussyGalore
I would almost consider it a rite of passage of sorts.
12/11/2010
MR Chickhabit MR Chickhabit
i would wonder if they learned anything they could teach me, afterall a PRO is supposed to be better than us normal folk
12/11/2010
Sir Sir
If it was during the relationship, then I would be upset. If it wasn't, then it isn't my concern. We all have our pasts, some good, some bad.
12/11/2010
Lucidity Lucidity
It depends on who it was. If it was my current, I'd be shocked! Guys from my past, not so much...
12/11/2010
Chilipepper Chilipepper
My ex-husband did (Army, on leave, Mardi Gras, des driver, buddies paid ... ). I was more curious than anything else, but he said she did 'nothing for him'.

After being married to him, I don't think man, woman, beast, or death could do anything for him anyway.
12/11/2010
Kayla Kayla
I'd be none-of-the-above. I wouldn't really care all that much, but my concern is over diseases. If I found out that he had used a pro in the past, I would want an STD test (assuming we hadn't done one) ASAP. Morally, I wouldn't care, but I'd be more concerned about possible diseases.
12/11/2010
mariah mariah
haha i would be like.. sweet.. good for you... ya i would't care. but like mistress kay said i might want a std testing. but i want that alot of the time or use a condom becuse i'm REALLY scared of stds
12/11/2010
Illusional Illusional
Quote:
Originally posted by Sir
If it was during the relationship, then I would be upset. If it wasn't, then it isn't my concern. We all have our pasts, some good, some bad.
I agree. If it happened before we met, it would make me wonder about them a bit, but overall wouldn't bother me.
12/11/2010
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by celibacysucks
This happened to me, and recently to a friend. It opened up a lot of discussions and I am curious how other's feel about it.
To be honest this poll needed an other catagory. I found out my husband used the services of a pro...in payment for a ride home he got a bj. I wasn't upset that it happened but that he lied about it. We weren't married and he has since payed for sex and prefers it because he doesn't necessarily want a relationship. Our agreement is that whatever he spends on sex I get an equal amount to spend on sex. That equates to sex toys for me. So if I use household money to purchase sex toys then he gets an equal amount to use as he sees fit.
It makes him happy and generally a sex worker the quality he seeks out is clean and practices safer sex. I get to watch sometimes which is great for me, so it's all win/win.
12/11/2010
Naughty Student Naughty Student
Quote:
Originally posted by Airen Wolf
To be honest this poll needed an other catagory. I found out my husband used the services of a pro...in payment for a ride home he got a bj. I wasn't upset that it happened but that he lied about it. We weren't married and he has since payed ...
I did not know that Pro meant sex worker, lol. I kept reading and looking for some indice as to what it meant.

My partner never has, but if he did before the relationship it would be ok. I would be really hurt if he did it while we were in a relationship. I would feel confused as to why it would have been done, I would want to understand why he would have done that. I would wonder if I pushed him there or if he was just curious or if he was inconsiderate. I would have a lot of questions!
12/11/2010
Danielle1220 Danielle1220
I would be fine with it...a lil grossed out but fine with it. Now if it happened WHILE we were together...different story
12/11/2010
firekitten firekitten
Quote:
Originally posted by Kayla
I'd be none-of-the-above. I wouldn't really care all that much, but my concern is over diseases. If I found out that he had used a pro in the past, I would want an STD test (assuming we hadn't done one) ASAP. Morally, I wouldn't care, ...
Disease would be my biggest concern. Otherwise, I don't really care.
12/11/2010
Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
Quote:
Originally posted by Kayla
I'd be none-of-the-above. I wouldn't really care all that much, but my concern is over diseases. If I found out that he had used a pro in the past, I would want an STD test (assuming we hadn't done one) ASAP. Morally, I wouldn't care, ...
Ditto
12/11/2010
PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
It would bother me, honestly.
12/11/2010
Darling Jen Darling Jen
It would kinda bother me... But I wouldn't end the relationship or judge too harshly based solely on it. But it better not happen during the relationship at all. (And they'd have to get tested for communicable diseases to make me feel safe.)

I think the reason I would try to understand is that I know a former 'working' girl and she's totally normal and awesome. So, ya know, to each his own.
12/11/2010
ToyGeek ToyGeek
I can't imagine ending a committed relationship over anything that happened in the past. If you love someone, you love them, and tearing apart your lives seems like overkill. So unless you find out about a violent criminal past or something, the past is the past.
12/11/2010
Alicia Alicia
Quote:
Originally posted by Kayla
I'd be none-of-the-above. I wouldn't really care all that much, but my concern is over diseases. If I found out that he had used a pro in the past, I would want an STD test (assuming we hadn't done one) ASAP. Morally, I wouldn't care, ...
Yep, that'd be my concern too.
12/11/2010
KnK KnK
As long as they're clean and not currently engaged with prostitutes, then I really don't mind. I personally would never get a prostitute. It just seems awkward...
12/12/2010
cherryredhead88 cherryredhead88
Quote:
Originally posted by celibacysucks
This happened to me, and recently to a friend. It opened up a lot of discussions and I am curious how other's feel about it.
Really depends on a lot of factors- too much to explain right now. I'm going to bed. I really should not stay up so late on the forums, it makes me bitchy.
12/12/2010
Destri Destri
uh, my hubby used to be an escort long ago, so it would hardly bother me at all! What happened in the past just doesn't count today.
12/12/2010
UnknownGirl UnknownGirl
As long as he was careful and didn't pick up any STDs I wouldn't have a problem with him having done that in the past.
12/12/2010
Shellz31 Shellz31
It wouldn't really bother me. It's often a question I ask innocently in the beginning when I get to know a guy. I'm nosy.
If I was involved with the guy, I would have checked him out before hand to make sure he was totally clean so no issue here.
12/12/2010
NuMe NuMe
So long as it was before we were together, I wouldn't really care.
12/12/2010
rdytogo rdytogo
It is in the past so it wouldn't bother me at all.
12/12/2010
0letitgrow 0letitgrow
But I guess at this point I would mostly be upset that I had been lied too. So I guess its hard for me to give an honest answer to the question alone.
02/07/2011
*HisMrs* *HisMrs*
It would bother me.
02/07/2011
zeebot zeebot
Provided they're still disease-free and don't plan to do it when I'm in a relationship with them, I don't mind.
02/08/2011
vegan.guy vegan.guy
Quote:
Originally posted by celibacysucks
This happened to me, and recently to a friend. It opened up a lot of discussions and I am curious how other's feel about it.
hmmm. That's a tough question. It would really bother me, but i'm not sure how i would react to it.
02/10/2011
mama2007 mama2007
Quote:
Originally posted by *HisMrs*
It would bother me.
agreed! id be super pissed off, upset, hurt, and in return for the stupid spilling about it he can forget bout sex for a few weeks *i like to have it a few times a week so id be suffering*. =/

my husband would not do that to me im sure
02/11/2011
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