If you could start all over again as a young virgin, but know what you know now, what would your sexual choices be?

Martiniman Martiniman
Just curious how you would do it differently if you could do it again with the knowledge you have now.

Multiple answer selections are possible, please select all that apply.
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
I'd remain a virgin until marriage.
Noelle , gehuwd , never shy , C&K0143
4
I'd remain a virgin much longer.
CountryPrincess , deltalima , Beautiful-Disaster , wetone123 , XxFallenAngelxX , ViVix , Bignuf
7
I'd remain a virgin until I found a better first sex partner.
edeneve , CountryPrincess , Geography , woodsdragon , PeaceToTheMiddleEast , kat17 , sophia430 , wetone123 , Pete's Princess , tami , Bunny183 , Pierced Blaqk Skies
12
I'd have sex sooner.
Wicked Wahine , Eugler , El-Jaro , Leather & Lace , ChubbyNerd , LuckyLady , hotinpink , Passion plum , joolie , Pia Jouet , DigitalSweety , sexytileena / absolutely love sex , MrWood , Experiment , marriedlady123 , Skindiver , PassionCpl , Hummingbird
18
I'd have more sex.
Wicked Wahine , Eugler , libbyv , SecretKinksters , Chilipepper , doowop , padmeamidala , El-Jaro , Herzer , Lildrummrgurl7 , Septimus , Leather & Lace , The Vixen , LuckyLady , edeneve , Passion plum , Martiniman , joolie , Alyona , nikki0668 , Pia Jouet , DigitalSweety , StarrStacked , mpfm , Kirill1171 , MrWood , Woman China , Experiment , TJax , Skindiver , Intrepid Niddering , skeeterlynn , XxFallenAngelxX , wicked48 , PassionCpl , ViVix , Pierced Blaqk Skies , KrissyNovacaine , Ganconagh
39
I'd have less sex.
CountryPrincess
1
I'd become bisexual.
StarrStacked , Skindiver
2
I'd become bisexual sooner.
DigitalSweety , sophia430 , PassionCpl
3
I'd have kinkier sex.
Eugler , SecretKinksters , spiced , Herzer , LuckyLady , hotinpink , Martiniman , nikki0668 , DigitalSweety , Woman China , sophia430 , Katelyn , Intrepid Niddering , Pete's Princess , Catan , Pierced Blaqk Skies , KrissyNovacaine , Hummingbird , Ganconagh
19
I'd have sex with more partners.
Wicked Wahine , Eugler , libbyv , SecretKinksters , doowop , padmeamidala , LuckyLady , edeneve , hotinpink , Martiniman , DigitalSweety , StarrStacked , MrWood , Experiment , SaucyxGirl , Skindiver , Katelyn , wicked48 , Pierced Blaqk Skies , KrissyNovacaine , Ganconagh
21
I'd have that threesome.
Eugler , libbyv , LuckyLady , hotinpink , Experiment , Pierced Blaqk Skies , KrissyNovacaine , Ganconagh
8
I'd have that gang bang.
Eugler , padmeamidala , LuckyLady , hotinpink , Ganconagh
5
I'd get into BDSM quicker.
GirlOnGirl , Eugler , padmeamidala , spiced , Geogeo , hotinpink , Hallmar82 , Bunny183 , KrissyNovacaine , Ganconagh
10
I'd get into BDSM.
LuckyLady
1
I'd accept who I am sexually much sooner.
GirlOnGirl , Eugler , solitudinarian , Chilipepper , falalena , padmeamidala , El-Jaro , spiced , Septimus , PropertyOfPotter , The Vixen , LuckyLady , hotinpink , DigitalSweety , PeaceToTheMiddleEast , higs , mpfm , Woman China , Experiment , marriedlady123 , Katelyn , doctameca , PassionCpl , Bunny183 , Pierced Blaqk Skies , Hummingbird
26
I'd not let the one who got away get away.
Eugler , Lildrummrgurl7 , LuckyLady , joolie , Pia Jouet , kat17 , sophia430 , SaucyxGirl , wetone123 , XxFallenAngelxX , Pete's Princess , PassionCpl , Bunny183
13
I'd have chosen better sex partners.
solitudinarian , Chilipepper , falalena , El-Jaro , Herzer , Geogeo , PropertyOfPotter , The Vixen , LuckyLady , edeneve , nikki0668 , XYCopperheadSly , kat17 , Woman China , sophia430 , marriedlady123 , Beautiful-Disaster , Intrepid Niddering , skeeterlynn , Bunny183 , Pierced Blaqk Skies
21
I'd found a better sexually compatible life partner.
Eugler , Chilipepper , PropertyOfPotter , edeneve , joolie , wetone123 , Bunny183 , Hummingbird
8
I'd be fucking non-stop.
Wicked Wahine , The Vixen , edeneve , Experiment , Katelyn , KrissyNovacaine
6
I'd get into porn.
edeneve , DigitalSweety , Noelle , Katelyn
4
I wouldn't have gotten into porn.
I'd have learnt more about fetishes.
GirlOnGirl , El-Jaro , LuckyLady , Martiniman , Woman China , KrissyNovacaine , Hummingbird , Ganconagh
8
I'd have recognized I was gay sooner.
doowop , Katelyn
2
I'd have become more comfortable with my body.
GirlOnGirl , Eugler , SecretKinksters , solitudinarian , Chilipepper , falalena , doowop , padmeamidala , El-Jaro , Lildrummrgurl7 , Septimus , Leather & Lace , Geogeo , PropertyOfPotter , LuckyLady , edeneve , hotinpink , nikki0668 , Pia Jouet , DigitalSweety , PeaceToTheMiddleEast , mpfm , XYCopperheadSly , MrWood , kat17 , Woman China , sophia430 , Experiment , marriedlady123 , Beautiful-Disaster , dancingduo , Intrepid Niddering , XxFallenAngelxX , Catan , Bunny183 , Pierced Blaqk Skies , KrissyNovacaine , Hummingbird
38
I'd have found EF sooner.
Wicked Wahine , SecretKinksters , padmeamidala , Herzer , Lildrummrgurl7 , Septimus , PropertyOfPotter , The Vixen , LuckyLady , edeneve , Passion plum , Martiniman , DigitalSweety , PeaceToTheMiddleEast , Woman China , SaucyxGirl , Katelyn , skeeterlynn , XxFallenAngelxX , Pete's Princess , wicked48 , Bunny183 , surreptitious , KrissyNovacaine , Hummingbird , Bignuf
26
I'd have discovered masturbation sooner.
GirlOnGirl , Wicked Wahine , Eugler , solitudinarian , falalena , joolie , Woman China , Catan , never shy , Hummingbird
10
I'd have discovered sex toys sooner.
GirlOnGirl , Wicked Wahine , Eugler , falalena , El-Jaro , Herzer , Septimus , PropertyOfPotter , Khanner , LuckyLady , edeneve , hotinpink , Martiniman , joolie , P'Gell , nikki0668 , DigitalSweety , PeaceToTheMiddleEast , mpfm , alliegator , Woman China , Katelyn , LavenderSkies , Beautiful-Disaster , PassionateLover2 , XxFallenAngelxX , wicked48 , Catan , Bunny183 , KrissyNovacaine , Hummingbird
31
I'd change everything sexually about myself.
I'm perfect now, I'd change absolutely nothing!
El-Jaro , spiced , Lildrummrgurl7 , The Vixen , hotinpink , Castielskitten , kendra30752 , P'Gell , VeganChick (is Gone) , 783883877299373783 , ChaiMocha , Isola , dancingduo , PassionateLover2 , Intrepid Niddering , XxFallenAngelxX , lauraxxarual , junipersgame , married with children
19
Other...because I know I missed something. Please explain.
Ansley , PropertyOfPotter , hotinpink , purpledesert , Woman China
5
Total votes: 367 (92 voters)
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GirlOnGirl GirlOnGirl
Great question! I checked quite a few!
02/12/2013
Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
I can't believe I forgot to select "I'd have become more comfortable with my body"! That's the basis of everything else, including discovering masturbation sooner.
02/12/2013
Eugler Eugler
Great question. I'm daydreaming a lot about this topic.
02/12/2013
libbyv libbyv
Quote:
Originally posted by Martiniman
Just curious how you would do it differently if you could do it again with the knowledge you have now.

Multiple answer selections are possible, please select all that apply.
i've got a few
02/12/2013
SecretKinksters SecretKinksters
I'd change a few things...
02/12/2013
solitudinarian solitudinarian
Well, I've always been into BDSM and started practicing it when I started having sex. I do wish that I had gotten more comfortable with my body and my sexual self sooner, but going through puberty makes that hard. Starting masturbation sooner would have been good. I really should have chosen better sexual partners and taken more safety measures.
02/12/2013
falalena falalena
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Originally posted by Martiniman
Just curious how you would do it differently if you could do it again with the knowledge you have now.

Multiple answer selections are possible, please select all that apply.
i selected a few, but i wouldnt have wasted my time with the guy i lost my virginity to.
02/12/2013
Chilipepper Chilipepper
I don't think I'd change my first guy or when, but I'd be more receptive to the guys I hung with. Apparently, they wanted to be my harem, but I wasn't comfortable with my body or sexuality during that time to even notice their interest (they were cock-blocking each other). I also would have pursued C as my life partner much earlier and straightened things out so we wouldn't be in this mess that we have now. :-/
02/12/2013
doowop doowop
I would just skip having sex with guys completely and jump straight to women. I don't totally regret it cuz it's a learning experience, but one I could have done without I guess.
02/12/2013
spiced spiced
I'm not sure I'd change anything. It's been pretty awesome. I might have sex with a couple of guys I turned down, or I might make a pass at that girl on my newspaper route who later admitted she had a major crush on me - but really, I'm pretty happy with the way things turned out.
02/12/2013
Herzer Herzer
Quote:
Originally posted by Martiniman
Just curious how you would do it differently if you could do it again with the knowledge you have now.

Multiple answer selections are possible, please select all that apply.
Great poll. The difficult part would be changing some of the steps in the middle but making sure I ended up with the same wife & kids.
02/12/2013
Lildrummrgurl7 Lildrummrgurl7
I really wouldn't change anything other than my self esteem and being more comfortable during sex. There is one guy I wish I had, ahem, done more with before he passed away but it's okay the way it is.
02/12/2013
Leather & Lace Leather & Lace
I'd have had sex sooner. I waited until i was 24.
02/12/2013
Geogeo Geogeo
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Originally posted by Martiniman
Just curious how you would do it differently if you could do it again with the knowledge you have now.

Multiple answer selections are possible, please select all that apply.
More than anything, wait until later in life to start having sex. 13 is way too young
02/12/2013
Khanner Khanner
Would have bought a toy and/or taught myself penetration before having PIV. This was what I was planning but I got carried away and hurt myself.
02/12/2013
The Vixen The Vixen
I would have loved to find Eden sooner. I also would have skipped a few partners.
02/12/2013
hotinpink hotinpink
Quote:
Originally posted by Martiniman
Just curious how you would do it differently if you could do it again with the knowledge you have now.

Multiple answer selections are possible, please select all that apply.
Somethings that I would have done.
02/12/2013
Passion plum Passion plum
Sex slightly sooner and more often. And I really wish I'd found EF sooner.
02/12/2013
Castielskitten Castielskitten
Crap, forgot to check the find EF sooner box. ._. I wouldn't really change a thing but that I wish I found it the day I turned 18!
02/12/2013
Martiniman Martiniman
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Originally posted by Castielskitten
Crap, forgot to check the find EF sooner box. ._. I wouldn't really change a thing but that I wish I found it the day I turned 18!
Count your blessings, I was 43 when I found EF. I think most of us wish we had found EF sooner!
02/12/2013
Geography Geography
I think I would do sex later and with a partner I actually cared about. And then lots more of it.
02/12/2013
kendra30752 kendra30752
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Originally posted by Martiniman
Just curious how you would do it differently if you could do it again with the knowledge you have now.

Multiple answer selections are possible, please select all that apply.
Really, that's not something I look back on and think "well this would have made my life better if I'd have done it differently... or not done it at all." I know I should not have had sex many of the times I did. I should have stood up and stopped being a wuss & said hey! I don't want to do this so I'm not going to. But I thought it was better to prove that I was not scared to do it, several of the times I did and no, I should not have done it as young as I was, but I honestly can't say that had I NOT done things how I did that it'd have made something better for me now, in the future. I have always been pretty comfortable with myself sexually, just not with men until I met my current partner 7 years ago and he kind of helped me become comfortable with him and share all the things about me sexually that I knew but was scared to share with anyone.

I just don't think there's much reasoning for changing any of the choices I've made. I honestly can't say it'd have been better for me personally to remain a virgin. Talk about serious stress to stay a virgin and then not have sex with your partner til' marriage! For me, that would be too heavy to carry. I'd have under so much pressure put on by my own self that I wouldn't have had as much fun as I have in the 7 years with my partner.

I can't say I'm proud of probably a single thing I done sexually before I met the man I actually love, but I certainly don't have regrets. Learned from most mistakes, and let go of the shit I didn't love. No dwelling on the past. My dad has always been a firm believer in that -- not dwelling on our pasts & mistakes -- and he worked hard to wire this into us and it's helped me so much througout my 22 little years. I'd have still been holding myself guilty over horrific things that were not my fault had it not been for him and that teaching.

I could be a little regretful as far as one particular sexual incident goes, where something bad happened, but I try to refuse to let myself go there again. I shouldn't have a regret & for the most part, most days, I don't.

I know I should probably say "well waiting til I was married would've been the best," but in my heart, I simply don't feel that way. Can't help it.
02/13/2013
Stagger13 Stagger13
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Originally posted by GirlOnGirl
Great question! I checked quite a few!
Definitely found EF sooner!
02/13/2013
woodsdragon woodsdragon
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Originally posted by Stagger13
Definitely found EF sooner!
YES!!!!
02/13/2013
Alyona Alyona
I'd have more sex.
02/13/2013
P'Gell P'Gell
For almost everything, I'd leave it exactly as it was. I never regretted saying "no" to the guys I said no to. I never regretted saying "yes" to the guys I said yes to. With one exception, a guy I turned down and later wished I had tried out, I'm pretty happy with my sexual past.

However, I was closed to sex toys for years. I didn't understand why people who weren't "lesbians or old maids" used them (I was pretty naive) and wished I had heeded My Man's suggestions and tried sex toys much earlier in our relationship

One thing I wouldn't have done was gone on Depo Provera. (It was used to treat endometriosis after endoscopic surgery.) It killed my sex drive for a year and a half and put tons of weight on me. I got my sex drive back and lost the weight when I got off it. It was a rough year and a half, though.
02/13/2013
Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
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Originally posted by Leather & Lace
I'd have had sex sooner. I waited until i was 24.
I waited that long, too! But with the options open to me then, I can't say there was anyone else I would have chosen to do it with sooner. My first time was AMAZING!
02/13/2013
Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
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Originally posted by Martiniman
Count your blessings, I was 43 when I found EF. I think most of us wish we had found EF sooner!
45!
02/13/2013
Pia Jouet Pia Jouet
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Originally posted by Martiniman
Just curious how you would do it differently if you could do it again with the knowledge you have now.

Multiple answer selections are possible, please select all that apply.
Well, if I had it to do all over again I would have done MORE of everything. I still have plenty of time and am happily trying to make up for my earlier years. Overall, I have no regrets.
02/13/2013
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