If you were dating someone (pre-coitus) and they informed you that they never have sex, they only "make love," what would your reaction be?

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If you were dating someone (pre-coitus) and they informed you that they never have sex, they only "make love," what would your reaction be?

celibacysucks celibacysucks
No sex, just love
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
I feel the same way
6  (6%)
I'd think it was very romantic
5  (5%)
I'd think they were telling me what they thought I wanted to hear in order to get in my pants
23  (23%)
I'd think they were super cheesy, but I wouldn't stop dating them over it
53  (53%)
I'd continue the date but probably never see them again
13  (13%)
I'd end the date on the spot
Total votes: 100
Poll is closed
11/20/2010
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Owl Identified Owl Identified
I would lol.
11/20/2010
trios trios
I didn't vote because I don't think there are enough options. It depends upon the person and their values.

I assume that you/he/she is young and rather inexperienced for the most part, or you wouldn't even be asking this question.

I don't think it's cheesy if they seem to make sex a meaningful union. You must seek other information, such as are they religious? A virgin? Or would they schmooze you? Do they seem eager to get into your pants?

And if they meant 'make love', then it would probably be a while before they got any anyways, as love it build on the foundation of friendship, which takes TIME! And you shouldn't feel pressured. There is no rush, as it's your body.
11/20/2010
Waterfall Waterfall
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Originally posted by Owl Identified
I would lol.
I might do the same,lol. Depending on what type of mood I was in
11/20/2010
Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
Quote:
Originally posted by Owl Identified
I would lol.
Yeah, I was just going to say that. I would probably spit my drink out I would be laughing so hard.

I might ask if they were a virgin. Not to insult but because that would be my first instinct.
11/20/2010
Robin Goodfellow Robin Goodfellow
"I Feel the same way"
11/20/2010
Chilipepper Chilipepper
Me on date: "Clarification of definitions, please." (Spent too many years in literature classes to know that 'making love' has at least five different meanings.)

Of course I would actually prefer to be dating somebody who's dominate, so word-mincing really wouldn't be an issue.
11/20/2010
ZenaidaMacroura ZenaidaMacroura
It would depend on the person, I guess. It could seem sweet, or it could come off as really corny or as the guy lying to get in your pants.
11/20/2010
Naughty Student Naughty Student
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Originally posted by ZenaidaMacroura
It would depend on the person, I guess. It could seem sweet, or it could come off as really corny or as the guy lying to get in your pants.
Yeah, the intonation changes everything. If it is said honestly I would dig it but if he said it in a matter of factly manner raising his eyebrows with a little snickering type of smile...I would think he was a douche.
11/21/2010
Trashley Trashley
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Originally posted by Owl Identified
I would lol.
It's happened to me before.
I did lol.

I taught him the meaning of a good fuck :]
11/21/2010
Tart Tart
Does making love include a choke hold and a hard spanking? Ooh... no? Then you probably aren't the one for me.
11/21/2010
Viktor Vysheslav Malkin Viktor Vysheslav Malkin
If it was a girl, I'd say, hey thats cool! Don't know form a dudes perspective, because I never was with a guy (not that that is a bad thing)
11/21/2010
Jobthingy Jobthingy
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Originally posted by Tart
Does making love include a choke hold and a hard spanking? Ooh... no? Then you probably aren't the one for me.
ROFL!!!!
11/21/2010
Viktor Vysheslav Malkin Viktor Vysheslav Malkin
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Originally posted by Viktor Vysheslav Malkin
If it was a girl, I'd say, hey thats cool! Don't know form a dudes perspective, because I never was with a guy (not that that is a bad thing)
Just to clarify my view:

Just me, I'd rather have sex with someone I love, than someone I did not care strongly for. Not that I have anything against those who have different looks on this. To each there own. Just my thoughts, which are hardly useful or meaningful.
11/21/2010
namelesschaos namelesschaos
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Originally posted by Tart
Does making love include a choke hold and a hard spanking? Ooh... no? Then you probably aren't the one for me.
also does it included nipple clamps, floggers, anal and an arsenal of sex toys? No ok your really not the one for me.
11/21/2010
Kim! Kim!
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Originally posted by Owl Identified
I would lol.
Yup. Definitely. I'm not sure that I could continue this situation. At that point I don't think it would be a date anymore in my mind. It would only be something that I need to escape.
11/21/2010
DONOTSHOPHERETHEOWNERISPSYCHO DONOTSHOPHERETHEOWNERISPSYCHO
'Making Love' is just a physical expression of love. It doesn't mean it's always slow and sensual, it just means that sex is very special to you and you only do it when you love and care about someone. Of course it can include nipple clamps, floggers, spankings, or whatever kinks you dig.
11/21/2010
celibacysucks celibacysucks
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Originally posted by trios
I didn't vote because I don't think there are enough options. It depends upon the person and their values.

I assume that you/he/she is young and rather inexperienced for the most part, or you wouldn't even be asking this question. ...
That's an interesting assumption to make. I'm in my 30s. Does that count as young? I don't always ask questions relating to my own experiences, but this one did, in fact, happen to me. The other person was in his late 40s and kept insisting how he was not interested in sex at all. "Ever?" I asked. He came back with that response. Wanting an emotional connection, I understand. However his tone and demeanor reminded me of my ex. He was incredibly sexually repressed and thought I shouldn't initiate sex because I was a woman and was even more offended when I asked for sex one day because I was bored. He thought it cheapened the emotional aspect of the act.

The guy in question went on to tell me that he was a sexual dominant, had some "different" interests in the bedroom, and didn't like taking no for an answer. That last part is what finally convinced me that I didn't want to go out with him again.
11/21/2010
celibacysucks celibacysucks
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Originally posted by celibacysucks
No sex, just love
I should clarify I don't have a problem with someone being dominate, but "no" should always be an option.
11/21/2010
Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
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Originally posted by celibacysucks
That's an interesting assumption to make. I'm in my 30s. Does that count as young? I don't always ask questions relating to my own experiences, but this one did, in fact, happen to me. The other person was in his late 40s and kept ...
That sounds like a precursor to a murder trial.
11/21/2010
Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
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Originally posted by Emma (Girl With Fire)
That sounds like a precursor to a murder trial.
I mean I like my bondage, whipping, flogging, spanking, slaping, choking, pinching, biting, teasing and "torure" in the bedroom, but if somebody looked me in the eyes, with a straight face and told me they were not interested in hearing no... I would back off and fast.
11/21/2010
TitsMcScandal TitsMcScandal
I would probably laugh. Or at least engage them in an interesting conversation about the merits of fucking. We probably wouldn't be a good match considering a good handful of my sexual encounters involve no feeling at all. So even if he did mean it like Sarah said (kink and rough sex involved) his ideas about sex and mine would probably greatly differ and I've found that doesn't bode well for a relationship.
11/21/2010
Sir Sir
I would think that it was cute, I suppose. But I'd show them what my idea of "making love" is. HA!
11/21/2010
Coralbell Coralbell
My partner has actually been saying things lately about how he feels bad having sex with me because he's not in love with me, so I'm pretty sure he's gonna break things off soon I don't understand that point of view. To me sex is about sex and love is about love. If you can have both at the same time, that's great but if not why should that mean you can't have either? I'm not looking for a serious relationship, so if someone said that to me on a date I'd think that it wouldn't workout between us because we wanted different things.
11/21/2010
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by celibacysucks
No sex, just love
SUPER Cheesy is the perfect word for that. I want a man who likes to fuck, make love and everything inbetween!
11/25/2010
Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
SUPER Cheesy is the perfect word for that. I want a man who likes to fuck, make love and everything inbetween!
I totally agree.
11/25/2010
cherryredhead88 cherryredhead88
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Originally posted by celibacysucks
No sex, just love
I wish there was the infamous other. Because it depends on who it is telling me that and what I feel like they're trying to accomplish.

If it some smooth talking guy who I feel like is only after one thing, it is going to be super cheesy AND obvious that they are only after one thing.

If it is some soft romantic that I know or have been dating for a while, I would find it sweet, but still tell them how it is- I like to fuck. I like it hard, fast, slow, all over the place... but I can't get off unless they can go crazy and fuck that shit good! Lol
11/25/2010
cherryredhead88 cherryredhead88
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Originally posted by celibacysucks
That's an interesting assumption to make. I'm in my 30s. Does that count as young? I don't always ask questions relating to my own experiences, but this one did, in fact, happen to me. The other person was in his late 40s and kept ...
I have to agree with you here.

People really irritate me when they judge like that. I am only 22 but I am a lot smarter than most of my counterparts (people my age). In fact, most people my age irritate me because they act like idiots.

I don't think age should even matter in this forum for the most part, because that is (mostly) irrelevant.

Everyone has their own opinions, but when you assume you make an ass out of you and me.

11/25/2010
clp clp
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Originally posted by Tart
Does making love include a choke hold and a hard spanking? Ooh... no? Then you probably aren't the one for me.
Hahaha, I was wondering how I'd meet someone that 'makes love'. I'm sure its code for 'spanking you so hard you can't walk; now have you learned your lesson?'

Making... you.... love it.
12/07/2010
UnknownGirl UnknownGirl
I don't think we'd be sexual compatible and that means it would never work out.
12/07/2010
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