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If your partner turned you down for sex and later you found them masturbating, how would you react?
11/22/2010
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Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
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Originally posted by celibacysucks
If your partner turned you down for sex and later you found them masturbating, how would you react?
I would probably give them a light smack on the back of the head. Be a little hurt, but not let it effect the rest of the evening if could help it. If it was a regular thing, I might be upset though. Unless there was a good reason, ie: If they were not turned on AND they smelled from work and were too tired to go jump in the shower so they wouldnt feel disgusting fucking me. Or if they were too tired to be able to please me back and didn't want to fuck unless they could for sure get me off too.
11/22/2010
jb1walker jb1walker
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Originally posted by celibacysucks
If your partner turned you down for sex and later you found them masturbating, how would you react?
Girl with fire... You're too nice, more mature obviously, but I'd sulk for a week. That's a harsh way to find out you're not cutting it in the sack. After I was done being a child about it though, I think I might come around... You know, see if I could get back in sync with them. It could just be one of those things though, you're not exactly hungry so you turn down dinner and a couple hours later you kicking yourself in the ass because you're starving but too uncomfortable to mention it, maybe go grab a snack or whatever.
11/23/2010
The Awesome Penguin The Awesome Penguin
I got turned down in favor of world or warcraft once. we had some words about that later.
12/16/2010
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by celibacysucks
If your partner turned you down for sex and later you found them masturbating, how would you react?
I have acted like a child; threown fits, withheld affection, and generally did everything that you should never do to your partner(s).
I have learned that the mature thing to do is share the hurt feelings, and try to ascertain if this was a true with holding of sex or something different. Sometimes a partner will turn down sex due to whatever reason (genuine fatigue, pain, emotional distress) and still desire a quick release. For some people masturbation is an emotional as well as physical release. To punish a partner for this is to do terrible damage to your relationship.
Also to deny a partner's pain at having been turned dow is to do the same damage back. If you feel the need to turn down full on sex it is always better to be upfront and honest about both the reason and your need for release.
When my partner(s) and I implemented this type of behavior we gained the right to admit that what we wanted was to be totally selfish and "get off" rather than full, intimate love making. From that level of equality we are able to compromise and often make everyone happy!
12/16/2010
Naughty Student Naughty Student
I would be disapointed but not all that much. The only reason why my partner would ever do that would be bcs I am indisposed. I could have gone to school, or fell asleep. He would never turn down sex to masturbate. If I'm available he usually wants me to take care of him.

If he turned down sex and 5 minutes later he masturbated, I would definitely talk to him about it. I would want him to explain why he would do somethign like that, knowing he could have had sex. If he has a valid reason I would let it go, if it was some other reason that wouldn't make sense then I would have a hard time letting it slide.
12/16/2010
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by jb1walker
Girl with fire... You're too nice, more mature obviously, but I'd sulk for a week. That's a harsh way to find out you're not cutting it in the sack. After I was done being a child about it though, I think I might come around... You ...
Aww hell as long as it's ot an attempt to tell you that you suck in bed more than likely there is a less insulting reason for the whole event.
Still as I admitted I also acted like a total spoiled brat until it became a battle of wills.
12/16/2010
RemusHalifax RemusHalifax
I'd probably be a little upset, but I'd know that it meant more that he need time for himself, rather than bonding time and that's okay. But later, I'd totally jump him. ;3
12/19/2010
Lucidity Lucidity
My ex would turn me down for sex all the time, just say "he wasn't in the mood", and then use MY computer to look at (underage) porn. I dumped him.
12/19/2010
Lucidity Lucidity
I should say, I dumped him after much conversation of, "are you OK?" and "is there something wrong?" for over a year. He just denied looking at porn altogether!
12/19/2010
KnK KnK
I'd be more than a little disappointed, but I see a lot of very mature answers on here. You all seem a lot more responsible and considerate than I would be..
12/19/2010
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