Is Your Sexual Identity Fluid?

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Is Your Sexual Identity Fluid?

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Contributor: PussyGalore PussyGalore
Guy. Gal. The moment feels right, sexual tension abound...does gender* matter?

*For the purpose of this question, gender means whatever you identify as, regardless of your sex at birth.
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
I am female...I am only attracted to men, no matter the situation.
19
I am female...I am only attracted to women, no matter the situation.
3
I am female...I am down for either gender, so long as it feels right.
28
I am male...I am only attracted to men, no matter the situation.
1
I am male...I am only attracted to women, no matter the situation.
4
I am male...I am down for either gender, so long as it feels right.
6
I am not really sure; I am willing to experiment to find out.
7
It's complicated; other.
17
Total votes: 85 (76 voters)
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03/12/2011
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Contributor: Tidwtrguy Tidwtrguy
I think our sexual identity is hardwired into us (biological) and it doesn't change. What does change is our understanding and acceptance of our sexual identity and how we display that level of acceptance. I believe sexual identity is more complex than just the 3 main choices (gay, bi, or straight). Peoples' sexual identity can be anywhere along a spectrum and as they are figuring out where that point is, or if they have already accepted where that identity is, they may have sex with either gender depending on a lot of other factors…including the sexual energy in the air.
03/12/2011
Contributor: Sir Sir
I am male. I originally identified as gay, then fell in love with my ex who is a woman, then decided that I'm truly "open-minded" and find my attraction to be based solely on the person's inside as opposed to their outside. The body, in my opinion, is just a shell, so if I am attracted to someone it's because I like who they are, not what they are.
03/12/2011
Contributor: Danielle1220 Danielle1220
I am woman...i am open to either gender. As long as I am attracted to the person...then i'm down!
03/12/2011
Contributor: jfree jfree
I'm female and I identify as a dyke simply because I find it more inclusive than lesbian or homosexual. I'm attracted to a lot of different types, genders, sexes, etc. and don't want that to be compartmentalised.
03/12/2011
Contributor: lucymalfoy lucymalfoy
I'm female and adore the term "heteroflexible." I really like guys, but I find women beautiful and would totally have sex with a woman if the moment was right!
03/13/2011
Contributor: toxie m toxie m
I'm a woman who's predominantly straight, but has been known to develop crushes on other girls. I don't think I could ever date lasses (nor do I really want to have all-out sex with them) but dang they sure are wonderful-looking sometimes
03/13/2011
Contributor: BadgersRose BadgersRose
I agree with Txymxy........I love men but admire some women as there are some true beautiful women out there.
04/01/2011
Contributor: BadassFatass BadassFatass
I identify as pansexual. I have the potential to love/be attracted to any person. Thankfully I've found the right person. He happens to be a straight male.
04/01/2011
Contributor: anonomous anonomous
I'm a women and I like male and female
08/07/2011
Contributor: M121212 M121212
Yes, I'm definitely in the more fluid category. It depends on the person first. Gender is secondary for sure.
08/11/2011
Contributor: Alyxx Alyxx
Quote:
Originally posted by BadassFatass
I identify as pansexual. I have the potential to love/be attracted to any person. Thankfully I've found the right person. He happens to be a straight male.
You said it! I feel the same way. If I'm attracted to someone, gender really doesn't matter.
08/11/2011
Contributor: LostBoy988 LostBoy988
As a pansexual, gender fluid, polyamorous, switch, its hard to put a label on anything
08/11/2011
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Tidwtrguy
I think our sexual identity is hardwired into us (biological) and it doesn't change. What does change is our understanding and acceptance of our sexual identity and how we display that level of acceptance. I believe sexual identity is more ... more
Our daughter is a neuro-psych major and she has had multiple classes now, where they speak about the fact that with PET scans and other brain scans you can see and tell the "attraction" hard wired in, as you say, to "straight" and "gay", but there is nothing beside those two. Thus, for now, based on pure neuroscience they say that "bi" does not exist. (Please don't yell at me about this...I am telling you what is being taught at some college campuses). They say that "BI" is just straight that is willing to experiment with "what feels good" or "gay" that is likewise, willing to "go outside their actual biological attraction", since it is "socially condoned" and again, "feels good".

You decide. I am not sure I buy it. Just because they cannot measure it, does not make it real, and I have known a couple people, male and female, that can go BOTH ways very, VERY easily...and I would have considered them DEFINITELY "BI" and not gay or straight...in my book, anyway.
08/11/2011
Contributor: FunFantasys FunFantasys
Id call myself bi sexual, just because I don't know how I would be with trans and other gender identities, because I have never been one before just guys and girls otherwise I would identify as Pansexual, because I believe it is the person that matters not their junk
03/05/2013
Contributor: bronzelotus bronzelotus
Female, attracted to men.
03/06/2013
Contributor: Gleb Gleb
I am not really sure; I am willing to experiment to find out.
03/06/2013
Contributor: bog bog
Quote:
Originally posted by PussyGalore
Guy. Gal. The moment feels right, sexual tension abound...does gender* matter?

*For the purpose of this question, gender means whatever you identify as, regardless of your sex at birth.
I am extremely picky, but my pickiness is based in emotional and intellectual attraction, not gender! I'd gladly date whomever cares about me if the chemistry is right and we have fun together! I'm much more concerned that a potential partner can make me laugh and challenge me than what's in their pants.

Love the username btw, PussyGalore! Haha!
03/06/2013
Contributor: invisiblehat invisiblehat
I don't really know.
03/08/2013
Contributor: Falsepast Falsepast
I'm genderfluid
03/08/2013
Contributor: souviet souviet
Quote:
Originally posted by PussyGalore
Guy. Gal. The moment feels right, sexual tension abound...does gender* matter?

*For the purpose of this question, gender means whatever you identify as, regardless of your sex at birth.
exclusively lesbian. :U
03/08/2013
Contributor: LoganAshlee. LoganAshlee.
I'm transgender and when I first came out I thought I was genderfluid, but then I realised that I was sexually fluid as oppose to gender fluid. It's great really!
03/11/2013
Contributor: lainebug lainebug
Quote:
Originally posted by PussyGalore
Guy. Gal. The moment feels right, sexual tension abound...does gender* matter?

*For the purpose of this question, gender means whatever you identify as, regardless of your sex at birth.
i am attracted to men
03/11/2013
Contributor: XxFallenAngelxX XxFallenAngelxX
I'm a female and attracted to men.
03/11/2013
Contributor: elli elli
I'm female and identify as bi. I don't think that sexual attraction is hardwired in any direction for me; I'd say I'm between 2 and 4 on the Kinsey scale, depending on my mood.
03/14/2013
Contributor: Chastity Darling Chastity Darling
Quote:
Originally posted by lucymalfoy
I'm female and adore the term "heteroflexible." I really like guys, but I find women beautiful and would totally have sex with a woman if the moment was right!
This says it perfectly
03/14/2013
Contributor: TheirPet TheirPet
I'm pansexual. I'm okay with any gender--whether it's male, female or other--depending upon whether or not I like the person.
03/14/2013