Ladies, when you receive oral...

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Ladies, when you receive oral...

Vnessa Vnessa
Please feel free to go more in depth. I think I have a mental block or something. I'm a poor soul that has not achieved a grand finish from oral stimulation alone (super sad face). So, trying to figure out what the hell I am doing wrong lol.
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Does it take forever to Climax
I Climax immediately
symbiasin
1
I Climax in a couple minutes
Rossie , Sarebear&Del
2
I rarely Climax
I have never (sad face) Climaxed
BusyMe
1
Total votes: 4 (4 voters)
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02/12/2015
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Rossie Rossie
I just lay back and let my husband do the work; I usually climax within couple of minutes. However, besides using his tongue on me, my husband also uses his finger to stimulate my G-spot, because oral alone is not enough to make me come (even though it feels super great). Our definition of oral is having his tongue work on my clit, my inner lips, and also thrusting into my vag.
02/12/2015
Inquisitor Inquisitor
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Originally posted by Rossie
I just lay back and let my husband do the work; I usually climax within couple of minutes. However, besides using his tongue on me, my husband also uses his finger to stimulate my G-spot, because oral alone is not enough to make me come (even though ...
Is this with or without foreplay? If it is with foreplay, how long would you say it lasts?
02/12/2015
BusyMe BusyMe
Not very experienced in this particular area.. Sorrry If you watch Hentai on pornhub they get off fast and cum is all dripping everywhere.
02/12/2015
Rossie Rossie
Quote:
Originally posted by Inquisitor
Is this with or without foreplay? If it is with foreplay, how long would you say it lasts?
We always have foreplay before our oral sessions. Foreplay already includes lots of fingering as my hubby prefers to thrust his fingers rather than toys inside me, I guess he enjoys feeling me with his fingers. How long my part of oral lasts depends on how aggressive my husband wants to make me come, which is usually about a few minutes up to fifteen minutes. I love getting fingered and receiving oral simultaneously, so I savor long sessions of that!
02/12/2015
Vnessa Vnessa
Maybe I need to ask hubby to give me "more time" then . It's obviously not a race lol
02/12/2015
symbiasin symbiasin
Quote:
Originally posted by Inquisitor
Is this with or without foreplay? If it is with foreplay, how long would you say it lasts?
Like, until she starts panting and urges you to come to her to cum. This is not a stopwatch thing, as every woman is different. I guess I must be super sensitive, because a guy I had a date with sneaked into my apt. and noticing that I was asleep. went to work on my clit (that's all it takes). I woke up startled (of course) and he said that I was even starting to get wet. I was kind of put out because I missed that part...it is my favorite part!! Now I wonder how many times I came while asleep.
02/12/2015
Vnessa Vnessa
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Originally posted by symbiasin
Like, until she starts panting and urges you to come to her to cum. This is not a stopwatch thing, as every woman is different. I guess I must be super sensitive, because a guy I had a date with sneaked into my apt. and noticing that I was asleep. ...
Lucky girl
02/12/2015
symbiasin symbiasin
Quote:
Originally posted by Vnessa
Lucky girl
yup!
02/12/2015
Rossie Rossie
Quote:
Originally posted by Vnessa
Maybe I need to ask hubby to give me "more time" then . It's obviously not a race lol
Yes, it's for sure not a race. And don't forget, communication is just as important, let him know what feels pleasurable to you.
02/13/2015
The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
Quote:
Originally posted by Vnessa
Please feel free to go more in depth. I think I have a mental block or something. I'm a poor soul that has not achieved a grand finish from oral stimulation alone (super sad face). So, trying to figure out what the hell I am doing wrong lol.
Now obviously I am not a lady...

However I can vouch for the Secretary. Oral for a guy is physical pretty much completely. However for her she needs to be in the mood feeling well and properly stimulated.

As far as my experience goes... I know if she is enjoying me going down on her what she will do with her body and that lets me know what I should do.

Take for instance, if her hips gently start to buck I know that she is in her zone. If she rolls her hips towards me she is in her zone. If she doesn't do either of those I stop and I go to straight up sex. (Believe it or not your body starts doing those things by its own without you telling it to, its your body shielding itself from getting hurt essentially)

Sometimes I know that during sex how she is turning her hips for me to penetrate her lets me know what she wants. If she turns her hips towards me she wants me to go deeper and usually after a bit of that to avoid her getting sore I will pull out and go down on her. (Plus that shes usually super wet at that point and dripping YUM!) I may go back and forth between oral and straight up sex before she or I cum.

If she leaves her hips as they are the truth is she usually just wants to make me cum so I let her. (Her way of keeping control she has even said that) She even says sometimes I know I'm not going to cum so I just like to ride you like crazy. I personally enjoy sex more when we both cum together but I am always down for her being selfish LOL!

First of all you have to realize your mind has a lot to do with it. Second of all RELAX. Third of all communicate even if it means just body language.

Seriously relax... don't be in a hurry, don't be concerned about how hes feeling, be selfish. I don't know about the lucky guy going down on you but I LOVE going down and I always feel like its a privilege to eat her out. He probably feels the same so think about what you feel and concentrate on how that tongue feels and and the fact that he is probably pouring out precum tasting you. (I know I do)

Oh and by the way... dont subscribe to the original thoughts of just penetration gets you off or just reciving oral gets you off. Many a time have I started going down on her and finishing straight up sex as well as starting with sex and finishing with oral. Personally I love going down on her until she cums even if it started with penetration. I also love making her cum and right as she is coming down from her orgasm penetrating her until I cum inside of her. After she has had an orgasm she gets some what more wet but also tighter from her body having the orgasm and usually make me cum instantly.
02/13/2015
The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
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Originally posted by The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
Now obviously I am not a lady...

However I can vouch for the Secretary. Oral for a guy is physical pretty much completely. However for her she needs to be in the mood feeling well and properly stimulated.

As far as my experience ...
Oh and btw... im one to talk. It is really hard for her to make me cum from just oral LOL.
02/13/2015
Vnessa Vnessa
This is such a weird post but I RELAXED!!!! It may have been IT Guys words of wisdom that broke down the mental barrier. Yaaaaaaay meeeeee!!!! Do you know how long I have waited or wondered why it wouldn't work??? I don't know who was doing the bigger happy dance, me or the Hubs! Lol Thank you all for the posts!!!
02/13/2015
Sx+ Sx+
Quote:
Originally posted by Vnessa
This is such a weird post but I RELAXED!!!! It may have been IT Guys words of wisdom that broke down the mental barrier. Yaaaaaaay meeeeee!!!! Do you know how long I have waited or wondered why it wouldn't work??? I don't know who was ...
Congratulations! I think for some women, it is like "performance anxiety" for men - getting out of your head makes it easier to get off. I'm sure it is the first of many more good times and amazing orgasms ahead.
02/13/2015
Vnessa Vnessa
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Originally posted by Sx+
Congratulations! I think for some women, it is like "performance anxiety" for men - getting out of your head makes it easier to get off. I'm sure it is the first of many more good times and amazing orgasms ahead.
(sigh) True! There shouldn't be so much pressure on something such as this lol. Oh, this girl can only cross her fingers and toes and say pretty please BRING IT ON!!! LOL
02/13/2015
The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
Quote:
Originally posted by Vnessa
This is such a weird post but I RELAXED!!!! It may have been IT Guys words of wisdom that broke down the mental barrier. Yaaaaaaay meeeeee!!!! Do you know how long I have waited or wondered why it wouldn't work??? I don't know who was ...
So awesome to hear Vnessa. The cool part is once you know how to get there its easy to get back! Congrats!

And by the way... you probably made him just as happy as you are by cumming for him. (I know I like being rewarded for a job well done... especially when she gushes for me!!!)

The only other thing I can say to help is that for oral, when he starts and I learned this over time and by asking. You ALWAYS have to warm up your clit.(as funny as it sounds). Go around the hood and sides gently before you start playing directly with the Clit. Believe it or not that gets my wife off super fast. I always play with the hood of her clit then the sides until I feel her getting to that next level of wet... then that clit is mine!!!

hmmm... makes me want to try out my technique LOL!!!

Congrats!!!
02/13/2015
Vnessa Vnessa
Quote:
Originally posted by The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
So awesome to hear Vnessa. The cool part is once you know how to get there its easy to get back! Congrats!

And by the way... you probably made him just as happy as you are by cumming for him. (I know I like being rewarded for a job well ...
I'm glad I could spark your mood lol. Go work that magic!!!! Thank you for the tips though. I will have to find a way to toss them into conversation so that they seem like his idea rather than me telling him what to do. I would hate it if I demasculated him. And you are right---he all but pounded his chest lol.
02/14/2015
The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
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Originally posted by Vnessa
I'm glad I could spark your mood lol. Go work that magic!!!! Thank you for the tips though. I will have to find a way to toss them into conversation so that they seem like his idea rather than me telling him what to do. I would hate it if ...
Maybe this is just me but I love tips on what she wants me to do while im doing it.

I mean you could also say it to him like your complementing him...

"I love it when you tease me first and run your tongue around my clit for a while before you go after it..."

"You get me so wet when you..."

We all want to go after it and we all want to make you as wet as we can LOL!

You can never go wrong with those two comments.

Truth is.. every time I go down on my wife she cums. The problem is she doesn't let me do it as much as I want. Of course if the let me when ever I wanted she might as well throw her panties away LOL. (Sorry for the lowbrow)

I'd rather go down on her than watch tv or play video games. Sometimes I just wish she would find something to watch on tv or a video game to play so I can go down on her while shes doing that.
02/14/2015
Inquisitor Inquisitor
My partner has suggested this, "have you tried oral with a vibe or fingers while stimulating your g spot." Are you also in a relaxed state and not tired when your partner performs? I've been told that it is more difficult to orgasm when you are tired or stressed out. My partner has also suggested being able to make noise. If she is able to make noise and be as loud as she wants it takes less time to orgasm. Either way, I'm in it to win!
02/14/2015
Inquisitor Inquisitor
Quote:
Originally posted by The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
Maybe this is just me but I love tips on what she wants me to do while im doing it.

I mean you could also say it to him like your complementing him...

"I love it when you tease me first and run your tongue around my clit for a ...
I agree It Guy! There are times when I intentionally ask my partner to ignore me and focus on something else while I go down on her.
02/14/2015
Vnessa Vnessa
Quote:
Originally posted by The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
Maybe this is just me but I love tips on what she wants me to do while im doing it.

I mean you could also say it to him like your complementing him...

"I love it when you tease me first and run your tongue around my clit for a ...
It's actually nice to get a man's perspective. After all, you guys are doing all the work lol. All we have to do is enjoy. I have a horrible time with communication so this is good practice. You make it sound so easy and it's kind of like Chinese torture for me. Lol For more Happy Endings, I will work on it.
02/14/2015
Rossie Rossie
Quote:
Originally posted by Inquisitor
My partner has suggested this, "have you tried oral with a vibe or fingers while stimulating your g spot." Are you also in a relaxed state and not tired when your partner performs? I've been told that it is more difficult to orgasm when ...
I bet her lovely sounds make you feel extra rewarding!
02/14/2015
symbiasin symbiasin
Quote:
Originally posted by Vnessa
This is such a weird post but I RELAXED!!!! It may have been IT Guys words of wisdom that broke down the mental barrier. Yaaaaaaay meeeeee!!!! Do you know how long I have waited or wondered why it wouldn't work??? I don't know who was ...
Glad for you Vnessa!!
02/14/2015
Vnessa Vnessa
Quote:
Originally posted by Inquisitor
My partner has suggested this, "have you tried oral with a vibe or fingers while stimulating your g spot." Are you also in a relaxed state and not tired when your partner performs? I've been told that it is more difficult to orgasm when ...
That's next on my list!! Perfect suggestion. That and having my ankles bound this time, I believe, made all the difference. It's like I just melted and surrendered I stopped fighting for control over all the feelings lol.
02/14/2015
Vnessa Vnessa
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Originally posted by symbiasin
Glad for you Vnessa!!
Thanks, luv
02/14/2015
Inquisitor Inquisitor
Quote:
Originally posted by Vnessa
This is such a weird post but I RELAXED!!!! It may have been IT Guys words of wisdom that broke down the mental barrier. Yaaaaaaay meeeeee!!!! Do you know how long I have waited or wondered why it wouldn't work??? I don't know who was ...
Congrats! As weird as this may sound, I'm happy for both you and your husband.
02/14/2015
Inquisitor Inquisitor
Quote:
Originally posted by Rossie
I bet her lovely sounds make you feel extra rewarding!
Oh yeah!
02/14/2015
Sarebear&Del Sarebear&Del
It takes more than a couple of minutes but maybe thats because I try to hold off as long as possible to enjoy it as much as possible
02/14/2015
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