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Please feel free to go more in depth. I think I have a mental block or something. I'm a poor soul that has not achieved a grand finish from oral stimulation alone (super sad face). So, trying to figure out what the hell I am doing wrong lol.
Now obviously I am not a lady...
However I can vouch for the Secretary. Oral for a guy is physical pretty much completely. However for her she needs to be in the mood feeling well and properly stimulated.
As far as my experience goes... I know if she is enjoying me going down on her what she will do with her body and that lets me know what I should do.
Take for instance, if her hips gently start to buck I know that she is in her zone. If she rolls her hips towards me she is in her zone. If she doesn't do either of those I stop and I go to straight up sex. (Believe it or not your body starts doing those things by its own without you telling it to, its your body shielding itself from getting hurt essentially)
Sometimes I know that during sex how she is turning her hips for me to penetrate her lets me know what she wants. If she turns her hips towards me she wants me to go deeper and usually after a bit of that to avoid her getting sore I will pull out and go down on her. (Plus that shes usually super wet at that point and dripping YUM!) I may go back and forth between oral and straight up sex before she or I cum.
If she leaves her hips as they are the truth is she usually just wants to make me cum so I let her. (Her way of keeping control she has even said that) She even says sometimes I know I'm not going to cum so I just like to ride you like crazy. I personally enjoy sex more when we both cum together but I am always down for her being selfish LOL!
First of all you have to realize your mind has a lot to do with it. Second of all RELAX. Third of all communicate even if it means just body language.
Seriously relax... don't be in a hurry, don't be concerned about how hes feeling, be selfish. I don't know about the lucky guy going down on you but I LOVE going down and I always feel like its a privilege to eat her out. He probably feels the same so think about what you feel and concentrate on how that tongue feels and and the fact that he is probably pouring out precum tasting you. (I know I do)
Oh and by the way... dont subscribe to the original thoughts of just penetration gets you off or just reciving oral gets you off. Many a time have I started going down on her and finishing straight up sex as well as starting with sex and finishing with oral. Personally I love going down on her until she cums even if it started with penetration. I also love making her cum and right as she is coming down from her orgasm penetrating her until I cum inside of her. After she has had an orgasm she gets some what more wet but also tighter from her body having the orgasm and usually make me cum instantly.