Long Distance

CSEA CSEA
Being who I am and the way my boyfriend and I are, I'm devastated. My long term boyfriend has recently been thinking about moving to New York for better work opportunities. I am finishing my career at the moment and will be done with everything and able to move next May. He just told me that he plans to move in APRIL!! Oh my god! I'm kind of having mild heart attacks (if that can be possible) for many reasons. I never considered myself a long-distance kind-of-gal but I do adore him and love him. If it were up to me, I'd drop everything I have and jump in his suitcase like a little Polly Pocket. To add to that, we are very sexually active and try many things. After two no-sex days, we are cringing! (At least I am, if you know what I mean.) I'm worried we won't be able to have that connection anymore, that I'm going to go crazy, and I want him to miss me, sexually and desire us together. What advice can you give to a gal in need? How can I make a long distance relationship still hot and heavy?
02/01/2011
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How far apart would you be? You could always try Skyping, traveling, phones, texting.
02/01/2011
Envy Envy
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Originally posted by BBW Talks Toys
How far apart would you be? You could always try Skyping, traveling, phones, texting.
^ This.

Being as I am in one going on 4 years, communication is key to keep things going strong. Call, text, Skype, IM, etc. Always keep in touch, it helps a lot. Plus, always keep yourself busy so you can work through the time you will be waiting before you can join him.
02/01/2011
Illusional Illusional
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Originally posted by Envy
^ This.

Being as I am in one going on 4 years, communication is key to keep things going strong. Call, text, Skype, IM, etc. Always keep in touch, it helps a lot. Plus, always keep yourself busy so you can work through the time you will be ... More
Keeping busy is so important.
Since I'm jobless currently and my boyfriend works a lot, there are evenings I don't get to hear from him and it makes me feel bad.

Keeping busy helps
02/02/2011
liilii080 liilii080
Start talking to him now about how you guys are going to stay connected. Talk everyday or every other day? Visit once a month? Who is making the trips? This will help you both be on the same page about communication and will help you feel like you know a little bit of what to expect. Also, start thinking about what you want to do for yourself. Taking a class, working out, and having other outlets to focus on yourself are really important so you don't spend all your time thinking about him, what he's doing, etc. You can do it but you both have to be flexible, open, and to want to make it work. Good luck!
02/02/2011
CSEA CSEA
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Originally posted by BBW Talks Toys
How far apart would you be? You could always try Skyping, traveling, phones, texting.
Miami, FL and New York Yea I thought about Skype and I've heard that they are toys and things that you may control over computer or something? Anyone heard of anything similar?
02/02/2011
CSEA CSEA
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Originally posted by Envy
^ This.

Being as I am in one going on 4 years, communication is key to keep things going strong. Call, text, Skype, IM, etc. Always keep in touch, it helps a lot. Plus, always keep yourself busy so you can work through the time you will be ... More
Yea right now I just keep thinking about all the time we spend together and who or what can I possibly do to make up for that? :/ Good advice though, and I know who to come to! lol
02/02/2011
CSEA CSEA
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Originally posted by liilii080
Start talking to him now about how you guys are going to stay connected. Talk everyday or every other day? Visit once a month? Who is making the trips? This will help you both be on the same page about communication and will help you feel like ... More
Thanks for your feedback! He is going out there for the opportunity however hard it may be he is dedicated to be successful. He says he wants us to work and he (I must admit) has been working on strengthening our relationshipand making me more confident and reassured so that I may be better prepared for the separation. He also has been giving me alot of his extra time now. Ugh, today he wanted to go buy coats for the cold, I was not very excited. Lol. But as expectations were both flexible and plan on making it work, he says he wants to take trips; me over there and vice versa. Its hard not to think even NOW what it could be like, what he is doing, so on and so forth.
02/02/2011
CSEA CSEA
Have any of you gotten your long distance boyfriends masturbators/personal sleeves? I've been reading around about the Tenga Flip Hole. What do you think? Should I get it or wait to see how everything settles?
02/02/2011
liilii080 liilii080
I know this is hard to hear (and my bf and I were long distance for 2 years so I've been there) but, if it's meant to be it will be. It's not easy and there will be days you wonder why you thought LD was a good idea, but you will both be so much stronger when the distance piece is done and will have an amazing appreciation for each other. Try and stay positive!

As for the sleeves, I'd wait. If you buy it now you will just be thinking about the distance more (and if he's into it, save it for a surprise!) I bought my bf a cheap one for us to use together, but he wasn't interested. He's not into toys for him. Talk to him and see if that's what he wants or if he'd rather you save for something else you guys want to use together.
02/02/2011
CSEA CSEA
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Originally posted by liilii080
I know this is hard to hear (and my bf and I were long distance for 2 years so I've been there) but, if it's meant to be it will be. It's not easy and there will be days you wonder why you thought LD was a good idea, but you will both be ... More
Thanks, its a good idea And I'm glad to hear that the reward will be great. i do think so, we will be both fufilled with our career status and will have more time to enjoy our time and be less stressed about making it where we want in that aspect. Yeah, I have some sleeves in mind or the Jack glove but I'm going to wait to see things because you are oh so right I will have it in the back of my mind knowing its because hell be in NY. Thanks again Real advice from real experience
02/02/2011
Sexymami69 Sexymami69
I am in that kind of relationship right now, and let me tell you it is rough. But a great way to make it work (sexually anyways) is invest in a web cam. You watch him jerk off, you finger or use a vibe. Also phone sex, or sexting. And plan ahead of time how often you'll see each other and whose going to be traveling or share the travel time. That way you can build up the sexual energy for actual physical contact. Works for us, and keeps the mind rotating on new sexual postions or fantasies.
02/04/2011
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