I don't look down on someone who didn't lose it to someone they loved. I know some people just want to get it out of the way. I hung out with a lot of older people, and my virginity was actually a bad thing at times. A lot of guys were more interested in me because of it. They however, weren't virgins.
How do you feel about that? - I sometimes wish I had waited, my first time was for all the wrong reasons.
Was your first time with someone you love? - Today, yes I wish I had waited to be with someone I loved the first time and someone that loved to pleasure me as well.
I wish I'd waited, but at the same time not doing (or doing) something like that could have caused me to have some of the relationships I have now. I'm not unhappy with how things turned out, but I do feel like I could have been more choosy about it.
I'm glad I waited for the right person. I was incredibly fearful about sex. Both the act and the potential repercussions. I needed someone mature to make me feel safe, and the longest relationship I'd had previously (2 years) just didn't fit that bill.
I didn't expect it to be at 18 to a 30 year-old man, but coming up on 10 years and one wedding later, I can't picture it any other way. I waited for the person I could trust, who understood and didn't pressure me about my fears, and who proved to be the one to whom I could share all of myself: mind, soul, and then body.
I hope to pass that wisdom along to my future offspring. Perhaps steer them away from some of the irrational fears, but maintain how that fear manifested itself: the utmost respect for my body, my choices, and my future. When I was ready, I knew it. When I wasn't, I didn't question it, and I didn't let anyone else question it.
I was in love, but he was also the first guy I had ever dated or done anything with. He wanted us to wait which I appreciated. I wasn't his first, he was older and I think he was in love with me too before we had sex for the first time.
I lost it with my ex-boyfriend who I was with for 4 years, and we were in love. I don't really regret it, though it would've been nice if my now-boyfriend were my first (I'm his first). But I can't control the past now, so no sense worrying about it.