How does masturbating affect your couple time?

SexyStuff SexyStuff
I've never been much of a masturbator, but I'd like to improve my sex life and am wondering if it would help.
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
It doesn't
OhMy! , Crash , Jobthingy , LikeSunshineDust , KatPawz2003 , Brandi Rouxxx , darthkitt3n , Mistress M. , Miss T , Elnoa
10
Makes me want sex more often
Airen Wolf , BBW Talks Toys , Sammi , Sweet-Justice , GeekWife , ToyTimeTim , zeebot , potstickers , Alura Une , VieuxCarre , KatPawz2003 , sbon , BadassFatass , extrafun , jankit , Fun Lover , angel142stx , Diablotin
18
Satisfies me so I want/need less
zracer , Yoda , mrs.mckrakn , *HisMrs* , Gunsmoke , leatherlover , jankit , Lummox
8
Makes me a better lover
liilii080 , BBW Talks Toys , ToyTimeTim , zeebot , potstickers , VieuxCarre , KatPawz2003 , Brandi Rouxxx , sbon , Diablotin
10
Total votes: 46 (35 voters)
Poll is closed
02/01/2011
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Yoda Yoda
For me it makes sex worse simply because I have less of it. I see this as a bad thing. I almost feel like I'm robbing my wife of my A-game.

In my opinion, if you're in a committed relationship and you're masturbating more than you're having sex, something is just not right. Unless, of course, you'd never have sex anyway. Then I'd understand it.
02/01/2011
mrs.mckrakn mrs.mckrakn
i hate it whe my husband does this(unless were both enjoying him together). makes me feel like hes taking it away from me. and when he does, he usually doesnt care for me and i hate that
02/01/2011
liilii080 liilii080
The more I play with myself, the better I know my own body and can guide my partner in how to please me, the sexier I feel, and the more adventurous I want to be with my partner. Toys have brought me a long way and I look forward to the great things that keep coming with this knowledge.
02/01/2011
OhMy! OhMy!
Our answer is a little misleading. Masturbation alone may not directly improve you sex life, but will improve your awareness and preferences for stimulation, etc. The rest of the improvement comes from communicating to each other what feels good.
02/01/2011
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by SexyStuff
I've never been much of a masturbator, but I'd like to improve my sex life and am wondering if it would help.
I find that if I masturbate, especially if I am experiencing depression, it will help me to maintain my arousal and my libido is much higher. It also helps with the depression since I don't tolerate anti-depressants well.
02/01/2011
BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
Quote:
Originally posted by Airen Wolf
I find that if I masturbate, especially if I am experiencing depression, it will help me to maintain my arousal and my libido is much higher. It also helps with the depression since I don't tolerate anti-depressants well.
That, and also sends waves of endorphins that help you manage your depression better.

Planning on trying some 5-HTP soon.
02/01/2011
BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
Quote:
Originally posted by SexyStuff
I've never been much of a masturbator, but I'd like to improve my sex life and am wondering if it would help.
Also, when women orgasm, blood flows towards the genitalia, which helps maintain arousal longer.

As a matter of fact, I've been on my TOM and ill for the past almost 3 weeks, and we've not been as amorous nor have I masturbated much and my sex drive has gone down tremendously. I am sure I'll find that as soon as I feel better and make time for myself, that my libido will be back to where I prefer to keep it.
02/01/2011
brandyst brandyst
Quote:
Originally posted by OhMy!
Our answer is a little misleading. Masturbation alone may not directly improve you sex life, but will improve your awareness and preferences for stimulation, etc. The rest of the improvement comes from communicating to each other what feels good.
agree
02/01/2011
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
As a young man, I could masturbate with no ill side effects - but now it diminishes my ability to perform with my wife - so I've pretty much given it up, I'd rather have fun with my girl than alone.
02/01/2011
Crash Crash
At this point I only masturbate when I'm away from my girlfriend and I can't stand waiting any longer. I try to avoid it. It just isn't as satisfying as the real thing.
02/01/2011
zeebot zeebot
Masturbating helps me explore my body and figure out what I really like. Knowing myself better makes it easier to get off, plus it gives me creative ideas.
02/02/2011
SexyStuff SexyStuff
Its so interesting how people can have such opposite experiences.
02/02/2011
Alura Une Alura Une
We avoid masturbation for a number of reasons. But nowadays, I cannot do it in the same day that I can expect some sex. It can actually exhaust me more than sex (Probably because I like to come a few times.). I feel less and less of a need for masturbation as time goes on. I used to have to do it at least once a day. I think the novelty has worn off a little. So it has little effect now.
02/02/2011
VieuxCarre VieuxCarre
Masturbation affects our relationship and couple time in a positive way. I enjoy masturbating my partner and he enjoys masturbating me. It's nice and gives us a bit of intimate time with each others body.
02/02/2011
LikeSunshineDust LikeSunshineDust
It really doesn't affect our time together. I use it to satisfy myself when he's not around. Maybe when we move in together this spring it'll affect our relationship (hopefully in a good way if at all).
02/02/2011
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Quote:
Originally posted by VieuxCarre
Masturbation affects our relationship and couple time in a positive way. I enjoy masturbating my partner and he enjoys masturbating me. It's nice and gives us a bit of intimate time with each others body.
If you define masturbation as mutual manual stimulation - my wife and I do this often - and agree it's a great add on to the repertoire.

I took the question to mean solo masturbation and answered it that way.
02/02/2011
KatPawz2003 KatPawz2003
I find that solo play makes me just want the real thing even more. It makes for a good warm up so that when he gets home or I get to his place, I am already in the mood and likley to rip his clothes off.
02/02/2011
Brandi Rouxxx Brandi Rouxxx
We usually masturbate together. There's really no need for either of us to do it alone b/c any time the other wants it we get it, lol.
02/02/2011
sbon sbon
It makes me want more sex. I also think it makes us both better lovers because it allows us to get to know our own bodies better. I also think it helps us to communicate our needs better.
02/15/2011
jankit jankit
He jacks off so needs sex less. I touch myself and get more touchy. I am a woman with needs. Not cool, man.
02/16/2011
Total posts: 21
Unique posters: 18