We both are completely shaved! My wife cannot stand any hair on her pubic area and I do not like getting hair in my mouth when doing oral sex. She does not really care about me being shaved or not. She is not big into giving oral, so it doesn't matter as much to her. I am not shaved all the time, but most of the time. Although, when I am not shaved she says it itches her when she is on top. So, I always try to stay trimmed or completely shaved and I have never seen more than stubble on her.