Your partner's size VS the toys you buy...

Contributor: prettynpink prettynpink
How many of you take your partner's size into consideration when buying a dildo or vibrator? Or does it affect your decision?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
I go smaller than my partner
Bignuf , Rawr4483 , Mwar
3
I go larger than my partner
Ansley , Gone (LD29)
2
It doesn't matter to either of us
prettynpink , Breas , - Kira - , mpfm , bmann , OhMy! , jeangel246 , Woman China , LAndJ , Coralbell , ily , P'Gell , SJ88 , Petite Valentine , Curiouscat , married with children , Pi , *Camoprincess* , ninja250 , tammyandy69 , reinkaos , MissBre , Ilovelingerie , VelvetDragon , Mwar , potstickers
26
He wants me to go smaller/bigger (explain please)
unfulfilled , Ryuson , Greenleaf , Entropy , sunkissedJess , Mwar
6
Total votes: 37 (35 voters)
Poll is closed
03/04/2012
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Contributor: prettynpink prettynpink
I just wondered what everyone's feelings were on this because I know there are some people that this is an issue for. Sometimes the guy feels insecure because his woman wants or has a toy bigger than he is. And sometimes it's a turn-on just to see how big of a toy you can get in there and enjoy it. Just curious if this situation plays a part in anyone's toy purchases
03/04/2012
Contributor: - Kira - - Kira -
I have toys that range from 1" to 2.25" in diameter. My husband likes to use the larger ones on me, generally ones that are much larger than he is. He would like to use 3" ones if I could handle them! Size doesn't play too big of an issue for me in purchasing. So long as it's not obscenely huge that is.
03/04/2012
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
I chose he wants smaller/bigger but the truth is HE doesn't want me to have any. That's our agreement, I won't buy any realistic dildo's.
03/04/2012
Contributor: Ryuson Ryuson
He doesn't want me to get anything much larger than he is or anything realistic.
03/04/2012
Contributor: LAndJ LAndJ
He doesn't say anything, but I'm sure he'd rather it be smaller. I can tell he gets a little jealous sometimes.
03/04/2012
Contributor: Coralbell Coralbell
I stick fairly close to his size, but that's because it's the size I prefer. I don't usually use"insertable toys with him, and he doesn't give input on what I buy. He might not like it if I did use toys that were a lot larger than him, but I can't fit toys more than 1/4 inch circumference thicker than he is, and can't fit anything longer than he is, so it's never come up.
03/04/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by prettynpink
How many of you take your partner's size into consideration when buying a dildo or vibrator? Or does it affect your decision?
Kind of strange fact, but HE is the largest thing that goes into me, despite me having TONS and TONS of toys.

It is NOT that I take HIS size into consideration, for some odd reason, but that I ENJOY toys that are smaller. I find larger diameter toys uncomfortable vaginally and painful anally...so I am into SLENDER toys. My hubby, who tends to be larger then most of my toys, seems to fit fine. When I have tried toys larger then my usual slender toys, they just are NOT enjoyable.

SO...the answer to your question is "sort of". It is not that I am trying to make HIM happy with these choices, it just works out that way.
03/04/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Ryuson
He doesn't want me to get anything much larger than he is or anything realistic.
Your guy actually expresses an opinion on this? That is interesting. My hubby, right here next to me is going "why would I care what size toy you want"???
03/04/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by prettynpink
I just wondered what everyone's feelings were on this because I know there are some people that this is an issue for. Sometimes the guy feels insecure because his woman wants or has a toy bigger than he is. And sometimes it's a turn-on just ... more
Interesting. He is right here next to me and could care less if I wanted a five inch diameter toy. However, he knows I am COMFORTABLE with slender toys. Plus, the way we use most insert-able toys is in one hole, while he is in the other, so really, I have to be able to COMFORTABLY accommodate him AND the toy. I did have a slightly larger toy in me vaginally once...one with some NICE "moving pearls",but it was such that HE could not fit into my tush...no matter how we tried, without it being TOO tight. I still have that toy, but we rarely use it unless he is playing with me while doing oral or something else.
03/04/2012
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
I like big toys. (Smaller ones for anal play, but thicker ones for v use.) When we got the Boss Lady (same size and shape as the Big Boss) my husband picked it up and said, "This is bigger than me." I said it wasn't. So, I proved it by measuring both with a tape measure, My Man is about the same size, but just a little more girthy than the Boss.

He didn't care when he thought it was bigger, though. He's a very secure guy about his junk.
03/04/2012
Contributor: Greenleaf Greenleaf
I tend to go with the same circumference as my partner, but with added length (more convenient to use as a handle, since I'm doing all the work and I'm a tall gal).

My partner has been, on occasion, a little intimidated by the length of toys that I choose for myself. It's something that we're working on. :]
03/04/2012
Contributor: Curiouscat Curiouscat
Haven't really talked about it. I don't think he cares though. I don't usually get outrageously big toys though. *shrugs*
03/04/2012
Contributor: Annemarie Annemarie
I really haven't thought about it but, I prefer smaller toys. He's big. Like, outside of my normal size preference (which is about 5" in circumference max). I've considered getting larger realistickish toys (like the Vixskin ones) that would make it easier for him to penetrate me, to make me more comfortable with that size. Note: we're a very long distance couple that gets to see each other about once a month or less. In effect, my muscles don't really get used to his size, since they don't experience it often enough.

Anyway, that was his only request. That he is the only thing that "stretches" me out.
03/04/2012
Contributor: Entropy Entropy
I wouldn't mind if she liked huge toys, but she doesn't like inserting anything into her except the real thing. She uses clitoral vibes only. Me, I like having a wide range of sizes, textures, and materials inserted.
03/04/2012
Contributor: married with children married with children
we get the same size as me, for the most part. some of the stuff is smaller.
03/06/2012
Contributor: *Camoprincess* *Camoprincess*
I get items of my choice most though are about the same size as he is which I love cause I can truly fantasize its him when I play
04/20/2012
Contributor: tammyandy69 tammyandy69
when we buy toys it's all about what we think would be fun. Although I have bought toys simply because she said she couldn't do it...to big. Just to show her she could. I am also planning on getting her a few more. I am not concerned about size, be it a toy or another man. I have what I have, no way to change that...why worry about it.
04/20/2012
Contributor: sunkissedJess sunkissedJess
Quote:
Originally posted by Ryuson
He doesn't want me to get anything much larger than he is or anything realistic.
I second this statement. My guy feels this exact way.
04/20/2012
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
The bigger and more realistic, the better!
04/20/2012
Contributor: Ilovelingerie Ilovelingerie
Quote:
Originally posted by prettynpink
How many of you take your partner's size into consideration when buying a dildo or vibrator? Or does it affect your decision?
It doesn't matter, but usually I get something smaller then him when I buy a toy, unless its for anal, then I buy it larger.
04/20/2012
Contributor: VelvetDragon VelvetDragon
My partner's penis is just the perfect size for me. Since I rarely find toys exactly his size, I usually go smaller than him when buying toys. It's just more comfortable to me. But it has nothing to do with us having issues about the size as relates to him, I just like small!
04/21/2012
Contributor: solitudinarian solitudinarian
He's above average and I tend to buy close to his size. He doesn't care what size I use, thankfully. I've had guys in the past get pissy about 1.5" diameters.
06/28/2012
Contributor: Mwar Mwar
I tend to buy smaller, he's about average, and he wants me to buy bigger.
06/28/2012