Penis won't go or stay in....

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Penis won't go or stay in....

SnufftheRooster SnufftheRooster
I'm sure this has been asked before, but I'm pretty upset about this situation.

I just spent a week with someone I love and only had about 2 minutes of sex total. Well, intercourse. There was a lot of oral, which I love.

He can't seem to find my hole, and if he does, it won't stay in. He usually rubs up and down til he finds my entrance then starts trying to have sex, but it usually slips up and rubs against my clit or labia. I have to tell him it's not my hole. Happens even if I guide him in.

This kind of hurts my feelings because...well, I think I'm tight. I can squeeze on finger inside me. I do kegels. I haven't had children yet. Why does humping my vulva feel like actually being in the hole?

Every position, if he manages to get it in, it takes one or two thrusts before it falls back out.

Like I said, every position. Every speed, depth. Lube, without lube. Condom, no condom.

The only thing I can think of is that I'm overweight and have fat labia. Maybe I'm too fat to penetrate. He can with fingers and toys but maybe his penis is different, even though its 8 inches and long.

I'm at a loss. It's frustrating and he gets offended when I mention it to him.
03/19/2012
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Ghost Ghost
Um... I doubt you're "too fat to penetrate", seriously! Sometimes the vaginal muscles will kind of "push out" when he pushes in, and if you are very lubricated, it will just pop out. It happens to me all the time, no matter the size of the penis (or toy).
03/20/2012
El-Jaro El-Jaro
Do you think his experience level might figure into this?

Sex is like skateboarding: Once you have the basics down, you're set. But, if you're out of practice, you'll probably end up hurting yourself and someone may or may not catch it on camera.
03/20/2012
wrmbreze wrmbreze
Quote:
Originally posted by El-Jaro
Do you think his experience level might figure into this?

Sex is like skateboarding: Once you have the basics down, you're set. But, if you're out of practice, you'll probably end up hurting yourself and someone may or may not catch it on camera.
I am not laughing at your situation, SnufftheRooster, but I find JR's analogy hilarious!

Maybe he is just too excited..
03/20/2012
melissa1973 melissa1973
Damn girl for a monemt I thought that you were talking about my X husband.. Until you menrtioned his length. We did anal one time, I had to ask if he was in. This was without lube.. now that's sad.. I'm with Wrmbreze take your time, no need to rush through sex.
03/20/2012
aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
is he completely hard? if not this can totally happen. had a partner recently that couldn't stay in... couldn't stay hard with a condom on. try different positions - doggy style may be easier access. i agree with Jr, it may be inexperience... it surely sounds like it.

not your fault! i bet there are plenty of guys who could bone you right, no education needed... this one just needs a bit of guidance. if he's so sensitive about it i'm not sure what you can do but let him go on his way, if you can't even talk about it.


patience and guidance... or a new partner! those are my suggestions.



good luck!
03/20/2012
Zombirella Zombirella
I don't know but it sounds like it's more him than you? Like Alice said, is he completely erect? If not maybe a cock ring could help? Are you his first (or 2nd,3rd?) so he isn't very experienced? I really don't get it, I mean there are times when there is too much lube and it slips on me but I just guide it with my hand to get it back. I don't think your weight has anything to do with it.
03/20/2012
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by SnufftheRooster
I'm sure this has been asked before, but I'm pretty upset about this situation.

I just spent a week with someone I love and only had about 2 minutes of sex total. Well, intercourse. There was a lot of oral, which I love.

He ...
Is HE unusually SMALL? Is HE slightly overweight and so his penis is "short" in that there is a fat pad around it? It is NOT your body size as I know some BIG, BIG girls who have great sex lives and I am not tiny either, really. I am losing a lot of weight now, for my daughters wedding (I love Weight Watchers)...but I can tell you, my hubby never had problems finding any hole he was after. Either this guy is really unskilled or just SMALL. If it is skill....TEACH HIM.

Best wishes.
03/20/2012
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