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Dogs, yes. Babies, no.
LOL! I actually feel the opposite. Dogs have a MUCH better idea what you are doing than babies do. Our kids slept in our rooms for the first year or so, and between sex sessions for several years after that. The dogs are never
allowed in the room during sex, because it messes with the Pack Hierarchy. Really. It doesn't hurt babies, but it's terrible for your relationship with your dogs. ONLY the Alpha pair are allowed to mate, and no one else is supposed to be present in the Canine World. Humans work it a little differently.
The whole "Primal Scene" thing (seeing your parents "doing it" is harmful) was started by FREUD who never proved a single thing he wrote
!!!! Yet, some of his ill gotten ideas are still floating around. NONE of them have any evidence behind them, including the "Primal Scene" theory.
As others have said, babies have slept in their parents rooms for millenia. Can you talk to your wife and try to help her understand that 1) It's not going to hurt the baby if she's sound asleep, doesn't yet have receptive language
(that's about when memory starts) and 2) There are other places to have sex. (And even if she did see or hear you having sex it is NOT "traumatic." Everybody in the world has sex, and most people have kids, and MOST people sleep in the same room as their kids.... so kids see and hear parents getting in it on ALL the time. Be gentle with her, but talk her through it. You have options other than in the bedroom with the baby.
I remember my husband and I having a "night away" from the baby.... by having a sexual romp and sleepover on our sofa hide a bed, while the baby was sleeping in her cradle in OUR room!
We also did it in the recording studio in the basement, in the kitchen, in the guest rooms, in the living room and ONCE in our car on a date.... while my mother was at home with our baby and our toddler.