Shaven, not stirred?

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Shaven, not stirred?

That Weird Guy That Weird Guy
Sorry for my lame James Bond title.. LOL

Do you like natural, trimmed, shaved or shaven with a little artistic detail to your partner/your own genitals

I could do shaved clean off (if my partner wants it) with one of those shavers designed for shaving down there but not sure how effective they are, but personally I like mine trimmed close bc the hair gets caught in the foreskin sometimes and ends up pulling it...

I like a woman to either be shaved or shaved with some details like maybe a cool arrow like this > but pointing down to her crotch that's so hot.. but if she does not want to shave I guess I could settle for a close trim so the hair would not get in my mouth if I go down on her.. if she is natural I don't think I could do it BC when I get hair in my mouth I can never get it out and end up uncomfortable for the next 4 hours trying to figure out how to get it out.. natural is fine for intercourse but not for oral IMO.. I wouldn't expect anyone to go down on me if I was natural, I would expect the same from them, because of the hair in the mouth issue

I think a shaved vagina looks better BC you can see it better, but most likely my preference idea of shaved comes from porn, I'm guessing it didn't matter before porn if you were shaved or not, probably was not very common... I wonder who came up with the idea of shaved genitals and who marketed it in porn. I wonder if it was first in porno or if it was done before porn like maybe with a special knife in ancient times like the time of the Karma Sutra

What do you like/prefer? Do you dislike the shaven look? Would you be willing to go down orally on someone who is natural?
03/02/2009
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Miss KissThis Miss KissThis
I'm glad that I have a partner who doesn't care much about my pubic hair. If he's in the mood, some hair in my nether regions isn't going to change that.

Personally, I like to keep it trimmed. I find ingrown hairs to be much less sexy than a small amount of hair. Plus, shaving is a hassle and having an itchy crotch the next few days isn't worth it.

On my partner, I actually prefer that he doesn't shave. If his skin is bare, it starts to rub me raw during sex. I'm fine with whatever he wants to do, and he generally keeps things trimmed up.
03/02/2009
Epiphora Epiphora
I would not date a guy if he thought shaven was the hottest look. It's an odd view of things that has been worsened by porn. Now, I love my porn, and I prefer to see shaven labia with some pubic hair on the mound part (what the eff is that area called?). But porn is a fantasy; it's not the way things "should" be and women "should" look. Pubic hair exists to reduce friction during sex, so I don't see why it should be shaven off completely.

It's really a waste of time, in my opinion, to worry about shaving. If I want to really wow my boyfriend, I will trim or perhaps shave the sides a bit. But that is rare, because it just ends up itching and growing back within a day. My boyfriend doesn't care what I do with my pubic hair and expects nothing from me. If he gets a hair in his mouth during oral (which, by the way, happens maybe once each time), he pulls back, picks it out, and continues. It's just hair.

My boyfriend doesn't do anything with his pubic hair, and I don't need him to. He is circumcised, though.
03/02/2009
megganmarie megganmarie
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Originally posted by Epiphora
I would not date a guy if he thought shaven was the hottest look. It's an odd view of things that has been worsened by porn. Now, I love my porn, and I prefer to see shaven labia with some pubic hair on the mound part (what the eff is that area ...
Lol, that part is called the "mons pubis" or "pubic mound".


I keep my labia and bikini line shaven, but the hair on my mound is closely trimmed, less than 1/4 inch, with an electric trimmer. I find that using a razor causes more ingrown hairs and razor rash, neither of which are sexy at all.
03/02/2009
Sammi Sammi
My husband likes it either way, and hair hasn't stopped him from going down. Like Epiphora said, if he gets a hair in his mouth, he picks it out and goes on. I usually trim the sides during swimming season, and sometimes will shave, but it isn't a big deal for us.
He doesn't trim his at all, which is fine with me.
03/02/2009
Miss Cinnamon Miss Cinnamon
I shave as much as I have time for. My boyfriend certainly doesn't expect it of me, but he does compliment me when I take extra time to groom myself down there. It is a pain in the ass, though! If I weren't so vain, I wouldn't bother to do it at all. lol
03/02/2009
Nashville Nashville
Shaved vaginae used to be taboo until porn made it mainstream- along with oral sex (thanks deepthroat!) and anal sex. According to my Hustler *I swear, I buy it for the artcles* women started shaving in porn so that they could see what was going on- when there was full bush it really dampened the fun because the directors couldn't tell what was what and what the actors were doing.

My husband doesn't give a crap if it's short or long or what, just as long as he's getting some ass. He does however, get overly giddy when I'm shaved and I do too. It sounds strange, but I can feel more when I'm shaved... the ability to feel his body moving against my labia feels stronger and I don't get those awful hairs that try to go into the vaginal canal as opposed to lay flat against it. (When I was pregnant, I didn't use a razor until 11 hours before I gave birth.. so I can say that honestly, after 8 months, it gets VERY long.)
03/02/2009
LikeSunshineDust LikeSunshineDust
I don't get to see my boyfriend very often, so when I know I'm gonna visit him, I shave up pretty well. He never expects or asks me to, but I know he likes it. Usually, I completely shave my labia and the sides and top of my mons. The patch I leave on my mons I trim real short.

He will occasionally trim for me, which is nice. But again, I never ask or expect him to.
03/02/2009
Gary Gary
Speaking from my own personal experiences and preferences in pornography, it has varied a great deal throughout my life. When I first got my hands on Playboy magazines in the mid 80's most of the girls were well trimmed, but not bald. This was great just because I didn't know the difference between anything. Then in the early 90's I started to occasionally see an adult movie here or there and I also discovered Hustler magazine. Both of these were significant milestones in my life, but also this exposed me to a wide range of everything including hairstyles. I also feel as though the variety kept me from having too much of a single preference, since nothing was really that taboo or unusual. Eventually at some point in my adult life I started to prefer classic 70’s film porn to most other varieties of porn, and I got used to seeing girls who didn’t shave anything, ever. When it comes down to what I prefer in real life, it doesn’t really matter that much to me, and I encourage my wife to do whatever is the most comfortable and enjoyable for her.

Although… on the last tour I was on I did think a ton about my wife going 70’s style, and asked her to go wild at least for a little bit. That was something different. It gave me something to think about. Being on tour is a special kind of sexual torture. You spend most of the time crammed into a van, bored, thinking endlessly of sex, sending dirty text messages back and forth with your wife 24/7, and unless you want to jerk off in a truck stop bathroom or behind a building, you have days of built up tension at all times.

I realize that I have strayed a bit off the topic, but I guess that my point is this was the only time I had ever thought this much about the hairdo.
03/02/2009
Backseat Boohoo Backseat Boohoo
I use an electric trimmer and trim mine VERY short, so that in a day or two, it'll grow out to "normal length." If I'm seeing someone, I try to trim it every week, but as busy and as single as I am, I'm lucky if I get to it once a month. =X

I trim because I--like porn directors--like seeing what's going on down there! Also, I always remember when I was little and menstrual blood would get stuck in my pubic hair (ugh)...doesn't happen anymore because I use tampons, but you get the point.

I don't shave because I don't care for the bald look, stubble, or ingrown hairs. I waxed once, but even then I wasn't bald; I had a landing strip. My personal favorite is to be trimmed on the mons and have the labia waxed, but I don't have the money to keep up with waxing these days, so I just trim all over the best that I can.

I only had one partner kick up a fuss about me not being shaved bald, and when he refused to do the same to his penis, I kicked him to the curb. A female partner of mine mentioned it once, but when I explained that I didn't want to do it, she was fine with it.
03/02/2009
Backseat Boohoo Backseat Boohoo
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Originally posted by Backseat Boohoo
I use an electric trimmer and trim mine VERY short, so that in a day or two, it'll grow out to "normal length." If I'm seeing someone, I try to trim it every week, but as busy and as single as I am, I'm lucky if I get to it once ...
Excuse me, "A MORE normal length." I trim it with the razor guard down on 1 so it's barely more than stubble, which isn't very attractive, but it grows out a bit more within a day or two. It doesn't grow all the way out within a week, though.
03/02/2009
Red Red
I can't wax (I'm a ginger and I have that accursed/lovely mega sensitive ginger skin). Razor shaving used to be impossible for me for the same reason, till I was sent the Venereous line (link) of shaving products to review. I still generally don't shave, unless the mood strikes - and even then, I only do my mons with a razor, it creeps me out too much to think of doing my labia. Otherwise, I am happy to trim, and am known to go pretty bushtastic fairly often as well.

My labia I do prefer to shave, but I am just awfully lazy so I tend to only do it when going to a sex event or when trying out a new partner. I use something called the body bare, which is a dry shaver based on military technology. It is brilliant beyond brilliant and I would highly recommend it (link).

I like my partners with pubic hair, but what's most important to me is that they do what they're comfortable with. A full bush looks so womanly, and besides, it is SO FUN to tug on pubic hair...I will admit I am more likely to put my mouth on genitals that are somewhat landscaped, simply because I don't like flossing while giving head.

It would be a deal breaker for me if a partner wanted my pubic hair landscaped a certain way. Requesting would be fine, demanding would mean getting kicked to the curb!
03/02/2009
Sammi Sammi
Do you think the Body Bare works that much better than a regular razor?
03/02/2009
Snappy Snappy
@Sammi
03/02/2009
Snappy Snappy
@Sammi (sorry about the previous "post"): It works very well, giving an extremely close shave that lasts a long time. It's somewhat time consuming to use, though.
03/02/2009
ZenaidaMacroura ZenaidaMacroura
I prefer to just keep my hair trimmed. I've shaved it all off a couple of times, but I couldn't stand the ingrown hairs and itchiness, and my husband doesn't actually like the shaved look. If I wouldn't get all itchy, I'd just keep shaving all the time because I like the look and feel of it, but eh. If he doesn't care, why should I?

I got waxed once right before I got married. I definitely liked the smoothness and how long it lasted, but it's too expensive and it FREAKING HURTS. I was cracking up the whole time because it hurt so bad. I do believe I actually shouted "Kelly Clarkson" at one point (jokingly of course). Hope the lady who waxed me didn't think I was too much of a weirdo.
03/03/2009
Nashville Nashville
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Originally posted by ZenaidaMacroura
I prefer to just keep my hair trimmed. I've shaved it all off a couple of times, but I couldn't stand the ingrown hairs and itchiness, and my husband doesn't actually like the shaved look. If I wouldn't get all itchy, I'd just ...
Trust me, you were probably a lot normal than most people that come in. My sister has this awesome friend- she bleaches assholes all the time, waxes vagina.. and she has some stories that would trump any odd moment you could ever have, good lord, I do not envy her one bit. lol.
03/03/2009
Cinnamon Chambers Cinnamon Chambers
Asshole bleacher...my my what a job to have.
03/03/2009
Gary Gary
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Originally posted by Nashville
Trust me, you were probably a lot normal than most people that come in. My sister has this awesome friend- she bleaches assholes all the time, waxes vagina.. and she has some stories that would trump any odd moment you could ever have, good lord, I ...
I really want to hear these stories! This would make for a great HBO undercover style documentary.
03/03/2009
Red Red
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Originally posted by Sammi
Do you think the Body Bare works that much better than a regular razor?
Hi Sammi - yes it does, but as stated by @snappy it can take a while, particularly if you haven't gotten the hang of how it works (it's counter intuitive - you need loose and floppy skin, not skin pulled tight). I think it is pretty fast (5mins a day, when I am on top of things) on the labia, asshole etc. It takes a lot longer to get smooth on my mons, but i rarely bother as I don't like going bare.
03/03/2009
Sammi Sammi
Thanks - that doesn't sound as long as I was thinking . Is it pretty messy having to use it with baby powder?
03/03/2009
That Weird Guy That Weird Guy
Umm I have to ask, I have no clue and this sounds really weird to me..

What does bleaching your asshole do? do you squirt it inside? I'm guessing it would clean it? Is it even healthy to do that?

I saw the bodybare I was thinking about getting one but I decided to wait and think about it.. Thing that bothers me is you have to buy a second shaver with it you cant just get the bodybare you have to get the T-trimmer too or something else which I hate BC I don't need that stuff...
03/03/2009
Red Red
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Originally posted by Sammi
Thanks - that doesn't sound as long as I was thinking . Is it pretty messy having to use it with baby powder?
well, it requires a rinse off afterward, but if you think about it, most shaving rituals do as well, so that's not much of a negative. The baby powder can be a bit messy in applying but I just do it sitting on the toilet and floofing it on with my hand, the excess can then just be flushed away. If for some reason you are really pinched on time, you could shave and leave the baby powder cleanup till later - it's not going to irritate or anything, and besides, that's how baby powder is used on babies...
03/03/2009
Red Red
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Originally posted by That Weird Guy
Umm I have to ask, I have no clue and this sounds really weird to me..

What does bleaching your asshole do? do you squirt it inside? I'm guessing it would clean it? Is it even healthy to do that?

I saw the bodybare I was thinking ...
Body bare only removes stubble. So you need to get down to stubble somehow. If you have a beard trimmer or anything like that - or even a steady hand or sharp scissors, you should be fine. I'd imagine anyone thinking of pubic grooming already has some way of trimming?
03/03/2009
Mamastoys Mamastoys
I bought an electric razor made for legs and stuff and used it. I don't go bare but I do like a close trim. This razor has an adjustable blade. I usually do it before showering and then just rinse the hair away. After I get out of the shower, I put some baby powder on too and am ready for the day.
03/03/2009
Victoria Victoria
Btw, epilators = painful. About two years ago, I thought using an epilator for my bikini line would be easy and long-lasting, so I bought this one: link man, what a mistake! Think: giant rotating tweezers that rip hair out and snag skin. I had what I guess could be called "epilator burn" and was bleeding! Never again, my friends!

But, if you're into needle play, this might make an interesting addition to a torture session
03/03/2009
Mamastoys Mamastoys
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Originally posted by Victoria
Btw, epilators = painful. About two years ago, I thought using an epilator for my bikini line would be easy and long-lasting, so I bought this one: link man, what a mistake! Think: giant rotating tweezers that rip hair out and snag skin. I had what I ...
just reading your comments make me hurt and squirm in the chair..I'm not in to pain especially not like this!!!!!
03/03/2009
Dragon Dragon
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Originally posted by That Weird Guy
Umm I have to ask, I have no clue and this sounds really weird to me..

What does bleaching your asshole do? do you squirt it inside? I'm guessing it would clean it? Is it even healthy to do that?

I saw the bodybare I was thinking ...
That sounds like a surefire way to pain and general stupidity to me. I wouldn't recommend it.

As for feminine or masculine genital hair. Each is own. People make decisions on their own. Some people go for laser hair removal because shaving regularly creates ingrown hair. Some people are completely natural. Some people trim. To say that you want someone's "hair" to be a certain way means that you are missing the joy of the person in favor of having watched too much porn and a lack of imagination. Everyone is unique.
03/03/2009
Tuesday Tuesday
I've never been with a guy who shaved or trimmed but I think it would be nice. I would prefer to be trimmed myself, but my man prefers everything natural.
03/03/2009
Epiphora Epiphora
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Originally posted by Dragon
That sounds like a surefire way to pain and general stupidity to me. I wouldn't recommend it.

As for feminine or masculine genital hair. Each is own. People make decisions on their own. Some people go for laser hair removal because ...
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