Soo......How do i get back into the single Life ?

~*Damia*~ ~*Damia*~
So I just got dumped about a month ago after a 5 year relationship.....What do i do to get back in the dating scene? the way my ex and i met was complet accident and through friends that are no longer my friends and im really shy around new people......So.....Wha t do i do? im completly at a loss right now
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I dont know how to help
Taylor , cagypsy , Edeneve , Boundhound , SecretKinksters
5  (50%)
I know! ( answer in a comment)
Sincerely Yours, N , shorejen9 , Fantasy Restraints , Dairygirl8808
4  (40%)
Just bar hop Thats how i met my Partner!
Slutty Girl Problems
1  (10%)
Total votes: 10
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09/22/2013
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Taylor Taylor
I don't have much advice. I am single too and haven't had much luck out there. Lately I've been trying online dating but I haven't met any guys I wanted to keep dating. But if you just got out of the relationship don't feel like you need to hop back into one right away. Give yourself some time to mourn the relationship. Maybe take some time to pursue something else you are interested in, like a hobby. That can help fill the time that might otherwise be spent feeling lonely. I know that has helped me a lot anyway.
09/22/2013
cmm cmm
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Originally posted by ~*Damia*~
So I just got dumped about a month ago after a 5 year relationship.....What do i do to get back in the dating scene? the way my ex and i met was complet accident and through friends that are no longer my friends and im really shy around new ... More
OkCupid is a completely valid option. I've always had pretty good luck there when it comes to dating.
09/23/2013
Ansley Ansley
I think it really depends on your personality and what you're looking for in a partner. Some people have success in dating sites, others on gaming sites, and still others find who they're looking for at their local watering hole.

Find something you enjoy and start talking to people there, see where it goes. You never know where you'll find love.
09/23/2013
peppermintgal peppermintgal
I don't like to go to bars and haven't had much luck with internet dating. I had joined Meetup.com, its a social site where you can meet people with similar interests (not just singles) like bowling or movies. They also have singles groups. I know people that use it when they are new in town.
09/23/2013
cagypsy cagypsy
I don't know how to help but I can tell you what I do. I don't go to church and I work in a childcare center so I don't meet a lot of un married men. So I actually use a few dating websites and have started doing my homework at Starbucks on the weekends so as to have a small chance of meeting someone. Dating sites wise I don't recommend the ones where you have to pay just because if you don't find anyone that is a lot of money to be basically wasting. SO I do recommend Okcupid.com that is my favorite, though I also use plentyoffish.com which is not too bad. Otherwise if you have a hobby like running or have a dog maybe spend a few hours at a local dog park same time of day same day each week?
09/23/2013
Sincerely Yours, N Sincerely Yours, N
I feel the same way, only I was the one that did the dumping and my main method before was guys in my classes (alas, I got my degree...).

Really the only thing I can suggest is to spend a lot of time in public. Go to coffee shops and read books. Walk around the mall. Go to bars or clubs. Have lunch at nice places. Hang out in parks. You'll find someone eventually.
09/23/2013
Edeneve Edeneve
I've been in a similar position. I tried many of the suggestions already mentioned, dating sites included. I didn't find anything but frogs that a kiss wasn't going to change. so, I quit trying. then a guy came into my life that I had met 3 months earlier. seems like it's really all a crap shoot to me. I know the harder I tried & hoped to meet guys to date, the more upset, discouraged I got. so I stopped trying & just did what I wanted to do for myself.
09/23/2013
Happy Kupple Happy Kupple
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Originally posted by Edeneve
I've been in a similar position. I tried many of the suggestions already mentioned, dating sites included. I didn't find anything but frogs that a kiss wasn't going to change. so, I quit trying. then a guy came into my life that I had ... More
Yes, I agree with you, completely!
09/24/2013
~*Damia*~ ~*Damia*~
THanks for all of your suggestions im already on POF And thinking of trying okCupid.com
09/25/2013
shorejen9 shorejen9
I would agree with dating sites. Also just get out. Go to a nightspot near you. Bring a friend or two and just be there. You don't have to pick anyone up but being out will help you become more social. I met my husband online by accident. I was using icq and he posted he was bored at work on a Monday anyone else so I wrote yes me too! We started chatting and after a few weeks of chatting and texting nonstop we spoke on the phone and met in person. That was ten years ago.
09/25/2013
Fantasy Restraints Fantasy Restraints
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Originally posted by ~*Damia*~
So I just got dumped about a month ago after a 5 year relationship.....What do i do to get back in the dating scene? the way my ex and i met was complet accident and through friends that are no longer my friends and im really shy around new ... More
It is never easy, the bar scene is not always the answer. It is always great for a quick hook up but if you are looking for a lasting relationship they are even harder to find. Since you were in a long term relationship you have been away from dating. But dating several people might be what you need. Since you last relationship did not work you might want to look for different qualities than your last. After my divorce I did the bar thing but I did actually meet my current husband online. Take the time to figure out what you want in a person and the relationship, but for now, dating a few different people might help you at least find out what you don't want.
You have to trust yourself.
09/25/2013
cmm cmm
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Originally posted by ~*Damia*~
THanks for all of your suggestions im already on POF And thinking of trying okCupid.com
OKC is definitely the better option as opposed to POF.
09/25/2013
Dairygirl8808 Dairygirl8808
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Originally posted by ~*Damia*~
So I just got dumped about a month ago after a 5 year relationship.....What do i do to get back in the dating scene? the way my ex and i met was complet accident and through friends that are no longer my friends and im really shy around new ... More
I met my boyfriend through online dating. Found him on Okcupid!
10/06/2013
~*Damia*~ ~*Damia*~
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Originally posted by peppermintgal
I don't like to go to bars and haven't had much luck with internet dating. I had joined Meetup.com, its a social site where you can meet people with similar interests (not just singles) like bowling or movies. They also have singles groups. I ... More
while its a good site ther ejust isnt alot happening in my town or around me where i would find it intresting our fun Thanks for the Link though hon ^^
10/30/2013
Slutty Girl Problems Slutty Girl Problems
Enjoy doing you - life is about enjoying the journey, not the end goal. The more you enjoy yourself, and love yourself, the more others will feel that way about you. You have it in you, girl!
10/30/2013
RonLee RonLee
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Originally posted by ~*Damia*~
THanks for all of your suggestions im already on POF And thinking of trying okCupid.com
I absolutely agree that OkCupid is/would be a very good first step, even if you're interested in an alternative sort of relationship.
I met my GF through a different (now closed) dating website. Prior to meeting her I met several very nice people through OKC.
10/30/2013
SecretKinksters SecretKinksters
I've always sucked at dating...wish I could help.
11/05/2013
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