Strap ons v. Manual Stimulation

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Strap ons v. Manual Stimulation

PussyGalore PussyGalore 10/22/2010

Which is better, to have a strap on that works semi-ok or your lover using a standard dildo and their hands?

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PussyGalore PussyGalore
After not being able to find the perfect strap on, I think I'm just going to use the dildo on my partner myself instead of trying to fumble with something that is too big.
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ScottA ScottA
Finding a good harness can be hard, but when you do you have the advantage of having two free hands to play around with as well.

The downside of strap-on play is that hand-held play offers a bit more in the way of options, such as directing the dildo, rotating while thrusting, etc.

In short I think the best way is to have both available and choose based on what you want at that time. Perhaps even move back and forth during a session.
10/22/2010
Lif3sambiguity Lif3sambiguity
something with no hassle is always better less chance of getting discouraged
11/08/2010
potstickers potstickers
I like manual stimulation more, for some reason. Of course, strap-ons provide some good play too.
11/30/2010
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
So far my experience is with manual - but if my girl decided to get a harness for pegging - we'd get a good one - not 'semi-useful' - that's why we read the product reviews!
11/30/2010
closed account closed account
female/female...actual ly neither. i find neither necessary.
12/05/2010
Ropeguy Ropeguy
That is a good reason to pull out the sewing machine if you have one or enlist a trusted friend to help you make a harness. If you are looking to make it easy to go hands free it is worth the time to get things right and then you can have the best of both worlds.
12/05/2010
MeliPixie MeliPixie
My boyfriend and I have a Feeldoe (a strapless strap-on dildo) but sometimes I just am too wet or tired to hold it in properly. But right now we can't afford a harness, even a crappy one. This is where I would suggest to you exactly what we do: our traditional dildo works wonders with Shibari. (That's Japanese rope art.) If you're not familiar with it, it's not only for bondage. We use it to make a strap-on harness for me so our dildos always fit all the time. I'd never buy a harness now. The rope we used is actually the Japanese Bondage Rope they sell here, it's the perfect length. If you want the directions, feel free to message me and I'll send them to you! It's all in pictures, and easy as pie
02/26/2011
pinkzombie pinkzombie
Quote:
Originally posted by PussyGalore
After not being able to find the perfect strap on, I think I'm just going to use the dildo on my partner myself instead of trying to fumble with something that is too big.
I like both! I like just a dildo or double ended dildo. But something about a strap on is very sexy to me even if only used for a few minutes if it doesn't work very well.
03/02/2011
Liz2 Liz2
A strap-on to really work has to be comfortable and useful or it is more of a distraction then pleasurable.
Double dils can be awesome but I need a harness as without, they slide out just as I am about to orgasm.
03/02/2011
SexyStuff SexyStuff
That is smart, especially at the beginning.
03/02/2011
ScottA ScottA
Quote:
Originally posted by MeliPixie
My boyfriend and I have a Feeldoe (a strapless strap-on dildo) but sometimes I just am too wet or tired to hold it in properly. But right now we can't afford a harness, even a crappy one. This is where I would suggest to you exactly what we do: ...
You should see if you can post it somewhere. I'd love to put it on my blog if you didn't mind, or at least see it.
03/02/2011
Sweet-Justice Sweet-Justice
*Bounce*
03/03/2011
Alyxx Alyxx
Find a better strap on! I have the Double Delight, which sadly isn't on EF. It's also best to just do a bit of both, manual and strap on.
03/04/2011
cobiffle cobiffle
Both are fun
03/05/2011
kawigrl kawigrl
if its not taking away from the sex and has occasional issues strap on is ok
04/20/2011
ninja250 ninja250
Whatever you can make work
01/15/2012
Hallmar82 Hallmar82
Actually, I think your hands are the best if you're comparing to non-vibrating toys. If you're talking about vibrating toys, I say it's a toss-up between the two depending on what you want: simulating male penetration or working in the non-toy holding hand as well. Try both depending on your mood.
01/16/2012
freda freda
Quote:
Originally posted by PussyGalore
After not being able to find the perfect strap on, I think I'm just going to use the dildo on my partner myself instead of trying to fumble with something that is too big.
Traditional Dildo
03/02/2012
Master DarkWolf Master DarkWolf
Not into such toys, but I guess there are good strap-ons too out there...
09/13/2012
DreamWolf DreamWolf
Quote:
Originally posted by Master DarkWolf
Not into such toys, but I guess there are good strap-ons too out there...
I think so too...
09/13/2012
Rey Rey
don't settle for a 'semi-ok' strap on. Get yourself something better, for goodness sakes, you deserve it!
09/14/2012
KrissyNovacaine KrissyNovacaine
I want to try something like the share or feeldoe as an option
09/14/2012
Missmarc Missmarc
Quote:
Originally posted by PussyGalore
After not being able to find the perfect strap on, I think I'm just going to use the dildo on my partner myself instead of trying to fumble with something that is too big.
Traditional Dildo
09/18/2012
sXeVegan90 sXeVegan90
Traditional.
09/20/2012
unfulfilled unfulfilled
We haven't tried strap ons yet.
09/20/2012
squire squire
Go to a store like Toys In Babeland and get fitted for a quality harness. Hands on dildo play is a great deal of fun, but there is something quite different, in terms of stimulation and psychological experience, about strapon play.
09/20/2012
Geogeo Geogeo
Quote:
Originally posted by PussyGalore
After not being able to find the perfect strap on, I think I'm just going to use the dildo on my partner myself instead of trying to fumble with something that is too big.
SOunds like a good plan, some dildos have handles too
09/20/2012
SecretKinksters SecretKinksters
Do what works.
01/11/2013
kdlt kdlt
I've been told that dildos work well for that!
01/24/2013
damnbul12 damnbul12
Quote:
Originally posted by PussyGalore
After not being able to find the perfect strap on, I think I'm just going to use the dildo on my partner myself instead of trying to fumble with something that is too big.
Traditional Dildo
01/24/2013
Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
Quote:
Originally posted by PussyGalore
After not being able to find the perfect strap on, I think I'm just going to use the dildo on my partner myself instead of trying to fumble with something that is too big.
Traditional Dildo
01/24/2013
kkybf kkybf
i'd say a normal dildo
01/24/2013
higs higs
I like manual, more intimate
01/26/2013
GirlOnGirl GirlOnGirl
Whatever you're most comfortable using is the way to go.
02/28/2013
Gleb Gleb
Traditional Dildo
03/06/2013
Herzer Herzer
Quote:
Originally posted by PussyGalore
After not being able to find the perfect strap on, I think I'm just going to use the dildo on my partner myself instead of trying to fumble with something that is too big.
Either option is great, but the strap-on gives my wife more direct please. I'm all for it since I get to layback and enjoy being on the receiving end
03/06/2013
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