Talking Dirty?

Sammi Sammi
So, my husband likes dirty talk during sex, but I find it difficult to do sometimes. I hear it all the time in the porn we watch, but I was wondering, how many of you talk dirty or encourage your partner to talk dirty during sex?
02/16/2009
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Quote:
Originally posted by Sammi
So, my husband likes dirty talk during sex, but I find it difficult to do sometimes. I hear it all the time in the porn we watch, but I was wondering, how many of you talk dirty or encourage your partner to talk dirty during sex?
My man wants that too. I can't bring myself to do it either.
02/16/2009
Not Here Anymore f/k/a Happy Lady Not Here Anymore f/k/a Happy Lady
Things come out of my mouth during good sex that I would NEVER say outside of that context. I swear and say graphic things to my partners that are sometimes way more explicative than what it said in porn - but that is what I am comfortable with and I never say certain things that I don't like to say or hear.

To "talk dirty" you don't have to say the kinds of things they say in porn. In fact, if those things make you uncomfortable you shouldn't say them.

Maybe you should try just expressing what you are feeling. Like "I love it when you (insert description of what is happening here)." If there are particular things you like about your partner you can also say something like "Your shoulders are so strong and sexy" while running your hands over his shoulders or whatever body part of your partner's you particularly find sexy.

Everyone wants to feel wanted and sexy, especially during sex. I have had partners who were excellent lovers, but who needed just a little verbal reaffirmation of that during sex.

Maybe that's all your partners are really wanting. (?)
02/16/2009
LikeSunshineDust LikeSunshineDust
I wouldn't call mine "dirty talk" in the context that you're talking about, but I definitely encourage my guy with things like "You feel so fucking good." "Yeah, fuck me good/hard/deep/etc."

It's all stuff that I naturally feel like saying. If you force yourself to talk dirty, it's gonna sound forced and fake.
02/16/2009
Sammi Sammi
It's the "insert description" part that he wants explicit.
There're times I think we watch too much porn
02/16/2009
Sleeping Dreamer Sleeping Dreamer
Mostly we just say- Yeah.. back and forth.

Do you like that?
Yeah.

Does that feel good?
Yeah.

Do you like my cock?
Yeah.

lol, it may not seem very exciting but I love it when he talks dirty.. I however, hate the sound of my voice so some nights I just don't want to do anything but breathe heavily so he knows I'm still alive.

You could always write out a script, especially if he really wants you to talk dirty. Prepare yourself with your lines the day of or a few days before the big night. If he says- Oh yea baby... then have a line to say in return.. practice until it becomes like second nature because if it sounds scripted than it really will be bad porn.
02/16/2009
LikeSunshineDust LikeSunshineDust
One other thing I do is if I notice that he really likes something by sounds or body language, I'll give him a little "Mm, ya like that, don't you?" in a sexy voice.
02/16/2009
Cinnamon Chambers Cinnamon Chambers
I love it but it is not my husbands thing. I get really graphic and all that. I like being told it is his pussy etc. That is about all I can get from him besides I feel good. I end up rambling about how his arms feel when they are flexed and he is on top. I hate to say I love you or be told I love you during hard core sex. I think I am really weird about that though.
02/16/2009
Dragon Dragon
I'm really quiet most of the time. There was one person that I talked more with. I think it had a lot to do with how much he used to talk to me. It brought out my ability to talk dirty to him. He'd call me names as well- slut, whore, daddy's little girl. Tell me how much he loved it when I came. I loved it. Just made me more sexual.
02/16/2009
Not Here Anymore f/k/a Happy Lady Not Here Anymore f/k/a Happy Lady
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Originally posted by Sammi
It's the "insert description" part that he wants explicit.
There're times I think we watch too much porn
Oh... I see.

So something like "I love it when you touch me like that" isn't good enough... ?
02/16/2009
Sammi Sammi
lol - sometimes, but usually it's much more graphic that he wants. He's good at it, & I like it, but it's harder for me to do for some reason.
02/16/2009
Dragon Dragon
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Originally posted by Sammi
lol - sometimes, but usually it's much more graphic that he wants. He's good at it, & I like it, but it's harder for me to do for some reason.
He talk dirty to you though? Often you can reflect off each other.
02/17/2009
LikeSunshineDust LikeSunshineDust
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Originally posted by Dragon
He talk dirty to you though? Often you can reflect off each other.
That's a good point. Sometimes neither me nor Jared will talk dirty, but as soon as one of us does, the other one starts and we kinda feed off each other's vibes.
02/17/2009
Sammi Sammi
He's just better at saying dirtier things, lol. This is something I need to practice, I think.
02/17/2009
Gary Gary
This thread immediately made me think of this one Jim Norton skit where he was talking about, talking dirty. He says "I’m a big fan of talking dirty, but not everyone is good at it. I happen to be very good at it because I’m comfortable. I’ll say something sexy like, You like that shit!" It doesn't sound as funny in writing as it was seeing him talk about it on the DVD. I think it was that HBO One Night Stand series. He is hysterical!
02/17/2009
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by Sammi
So, my husband likes dirty talk during sex, but I find it difficult to do sometimes. I hear it all the time in the porn we watch, but I was wondering, how many of you talk dirty or encourage your partner to talk dirty during sex?
Heh my guys love it when I talk dirty...the more graphic the better. They love when I twist whatever we are doing into an erotic fantasy play which can get very wild! Makes for some really wild times!
~Airen
02/23/2009
Mamastoys Mamastoys
we don't talk very much at all during sex. I think I would like to but not sure how to start or what he would think of it. But then I get preoccupied with other things and "forget" about saying anything! LOL
02/25/2009
Victoria Victoria
It's hard to do when it's asked for or talked about too much beforehand...but a few husky words spoken low, in the moment - I love that. I find myself replaying his words in my head later. Likewise, he loves when I talk to him. I, too, notice that if he's being quiet and I start talking - he'll open up. I think it's like any situation where someone might feel self conscious...the ice needs to be broken, even when it's your partner who knows you well.
02/25/2009
Miss Cinnamon Miss Cinnamon
My boyfriend and I communicate a lot, in and out of the bedroom. We don't necessarily talk all throughout sex, but I will tell him if something feels really good or doubleplus-ungood. I'm very loud when I'm enjoying myself, and every now and then, my squeaks and whimpers turn into actual words and I'll find myself shouting things that make me blush when I think of them later on. My boyfriend's more of the low, breathy, murmuring type, which is way sexier than my howls of lust.
02/25/2009
reddoghard reddoghard
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Originally posted by Sleeping Dreamer
Mostly we just say- Yeah.. back and forth.

Do you like that?
Yeah.

Does that feel good?
Yeah.

Do you like my cock?
Yeah.

lol, it may not seem very exciting but I love it when he talks dirty.. I however, hate the ... More
OH YES BABY IT FEELS GOOD
03/17/2009
Dragon Dragon
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Originally posted by reddoghard
OH YES BABY IT FEELS GOOD
LOL...


"Don't stop. Please don't stop."
03/17/2009
Sammi Sammi
Well, I found a way to make this easier, lol! Margaritas on Saturday night (enough to be very tipsy) to start, and anal sex to finish (which we don't do often with his cock, usually just toys) certainly made my talk dirty. I can't believe I said some of the stuff I did, but he certainly got into it!
03/23/2009
Cinnamon Chambers Cinnamon Chambers
Mine was Cpt Morgan, but pretty much the same thing Sammi experienced. Yep...good weekend!
03/23/2009
Mae Baby Mae Baby
I love talking dirty but hubby does not. I try to make him but when I force it outta him it always sounds so dumb and then I end up laughing so hard I can't concentrate on sex anymore. He's getting better though...give it some time and you will get used to it.
04/05/2009
Sammi Sammi
I'm finding it easier when we do spanking "scenarios". I think working on this has helped some.
04/05/2009
Dragon Dragon
How about the very simple....


"I want to FUCK you." "NOW"
04/05/2009
Liz2 Liz2
Awhile ago, I started talking during masturbation. I am no longer in a dorm, it released so many of my inhibitions that now during partner sex, I just let go. My orgasms are even stronger when I let go verbally. B/f gets off on it. lol!
04/06/2009
That Weird Guy That Weird Guy
My Britney Spears spin off song for dirty talking...

Oh baby, baby im right here. light that fire, give me all that I desire.. oh fuck me baby one more time. .. oh baby, baby fuck me 'till I tire. You are all that I desire. close that door, fuck me baby so hardcore. so its already 4.. crack that door, lets invite some more.. oh baby baby fuck my butt i am such a slut.. cause my spasm, bring me to orgasm.. keep that pace, baby jizz on my face.. do not frown im going back down.. lick that clit, say some sexy shit.
eat my sperm, oh baby baby watch me squirm.

ok ive had enough of that lol took about an hour... it not exactly perfect this is the first time i did this its just something i thought of while reading this post.. i had fun lol thats all that matters
04/06/2009
Rockin' Rockin'
We talk sometimes, but we have to be quiet about it (thin walls + neighbor with GREAT hearing), so a lot of the talking is the deep whispers, which can be quite nice. I'd love to hear more explicit stuff, but usually I'm the one starting the dirty talk. I ask questions, too, to get him started (yay Sleeping Dreamer!). It's easy to say yes/yeah, and he usually starts talking after answering a couple easy questions (you like how tight I am? you like watching us in the mirror?). I'd like us to talk more beforehand, with foreplay, but I'm not sure how to make that happen.
04/07/2009
NaughtyButterfly NaughtyButterfly
All my hubby has to do to get me to start talking dirty is tell me I'm a naughty girl...that's my cue to turn on the dirty talk & it works GREAT! It really makes the O's better
04/14/2009
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