Teaching myself to teach my son about sex

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Teaching myself to teach my son about sex

phoenixfire phoenixfire
Not sure if this is the right place to post this or not, but here goes.

My son is 6 years old. He is a very bright child, and is just beginning to ask about the differences between men and women. Since he has asked, I have told him some basic facts about how babies develop in utero. He doesn't know how sex works yet, and I won't tell him until he asks.

I want to teach my son about sex in a very different way than I was taught. I believe "abstinence only" does not work. I want to give my son the tools to have sex responsibly when he is old enough. I don't want him to grow up thinking sex is dirty or bad, or that he is bad for having sexual desires.

The trouble is---how do I educate myself for his sake? In thinking about the sex ed I received, I realized that it left me totally unprepared for how to teach my child if he discovers that he is gay or bisexual. I don't feel that providing him with condoms, keeping communication open, and sort of hoping it all works out right is enough.

I know I'm jumping the gun quite a bit, but I want to be ready whenever my son has questions, and I'm willing to bet they'll come sooner than I'd like. What books can I read to learn about safe and responsible sex for all orientations?
01/02/2013
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Ansley Ansley
A google search will provide you with more resources than you could have ever hoped for and you'll need to tailor that to your child's development and what he sees around him in the world. There's no perfect way and you'll end up far more embarrassed than he ever will, so just take it one question at a time. I'm sure you'll do just fine.
01/03/2013
phoenixfire phoenixfire
Thanks for your response, Stormy. I was hoping someone had a few books to recommend, but I'll keep watching documentaries on sex ed, picking up what books I can find on my own along the way, and just trying not to treat sex like a taboo subject. (That last one may be the hardest of all, but I think it is also most important.)
01/03/2013
indiglo indiglo
I really think you're on the right track. There's no 1 book or series of books that is going to tell you the 1 right way to educate your child in this way. That's because every child, every parent, every family is different.

But if you keep doing what you're doing, you'll do really well! Answer his questions honestly and truthfully, and don't dump more info on him than he wants or is ready for. Just answer each question as you go along, and maybe check in with him from time to time on the subject - to see if he's sitting on any other questions, but hasn't asked them yet.

I don't think you're jumping the gun at ALL! This information is really important, even to little children! You're on the right track, so keep on doing what you're doing. You're clearly already creating a really open, communicative environment for your son!
01/03/2013
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